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  1. SleepingAtLast

    Why Are Christians More Receptive to Divorce Than Polygamy?

    I would say most of my argument comes from implicit sources within Scripture. I do think it is notable that in the beginning when God created the world and all was "good," He created one woman and one man to begin to populate the earth. In Song of Solomon, the dialogue is between one woman and...
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    Why Are Christians More Receptive to Divorce Than Polygamy?

    I am not sure that the allowance for levirate marriage means that polygamy in general is permitted. This command was intended for a specific circumstance for specific reasons. An important distinction for sure. I would re-phrase my statement to say that the Bible promotes God-honoring marriage...
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    Why Are Christians More Receptive to Divorce Than Polygamy?

    Personally I would argue that the Bible is equally anti-divorce and anti-polygamy, with the one caveat that divorce is permitted in some circumstances while polygamy is not. It is worth noting, however, that divorce exists because marriage exists, but there is no circumstance under which a...
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    Dating and Sex

    I know you were just using a figure of speech, but luck really has nothing to do with it. I promise that a life of singleness does not make a life of sin an inevitability. Totally get the fatigue over the whole process. It does take a lot of time and effort to build a relationship with...
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    Dating and Sex

    It is worth pointing out that BMI doesn't take muscle mass into account. Recently an NFL player showed up to the combine at 6'3", 228 lbs, and 1.6% body fat. He had a 40.5-inch vertical and a 4.33 40-yard dash time. According to the BMI, he is overweight and 12 lbs short of being obese...
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    Dating and Sex

    What I am gathering from everything you are saying is that you require that she be able to meet your sexual needs in order for you to be happy in the marriage. Obviously I am just a dude on the internet, so you are free to take or leave whatever I have to say, but I am just offering to you that...
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    Dating and Sex

    Emosoundlogic, just based off of the discussion I have been reading through, I have a question: If you married a woman who was later in a car accident, suffered a traumatic brain injury, and became mentally handicapped, what would you do in that scenario?
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    Are those beach side marriages legit?

    If all the legal boxes were checked and the marriage was consummated, then biblically and legally they are married. Is it ideal? That really depends.
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    Dating and Sex

    I completely agree with you. I think our culture's system of pairing up is far less than ideal and has the potential to be very damaging. Like you said, there was a point in time where marriage happened relatively quickly and commitment to a marriage was much more highly valued. Nowadays, you...
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    Relationship Advice - I turned a girl down because of behavior that disturbed me

    It sounds like you've been a really good friend to her. If I were in your shoes, my initial reaction would be to think that she and her dad are way too uptight about the whole photographing thing, but I think if I really valued her friendship that much, I would give her the benefit of the doubt...
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    Is Hugging a Sin? What Does the Bible Say?

    Honestly, I wouldn't overthink it too much. I don't know if you have been accused of causing other people to stumble before or if this is coming from somewhere else, but at the end of the day you can only control your own behavior and leave other people to control theirs. You can dress in a...
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    Second-chance Purgatory?

    This is kind of a lazy answer, but every new day on earth is another day in second-chance purgatory, IMO.
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    Ghosted?

    If he has ghosted you, you are 100% right to expect better of him. It shows basic respect to communicate with you if he has decided he does not want to move forward. Our generation is super flaky and inconsiderate when it comes to dating unfortunately.
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    No Christian girls in my area

    This is actually a very common complaint among single Christian men and women alike. If you venture around singleness or dating-related boards/forums/social media for long enough you will find that a lot of people echo the same frustration. If there are so many people saying this, then perhaps...
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    Healing from Old Hurts

    I think it's awesome that you are looking to work through that instead of burying it. Working through things like that takes a lot of courage. The one thing I feel I can say for certain is that, assuming that what he said was something about you personally, you believe on some level that there...
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    Dating Advice Needed for women in 30's

    Honestly, I would not spend a lot of energy trying to parce out different guys' actions or reactions. If I were you I would have an expectation that a guy worth having is going to pursue you outright and not leave questions in your mind about how he feels. It is not too late at all! I will be...
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    To help, or not to help?

    I have no problem with the content in Harry Potter and definitely do not believe it is anti-Christian, but if anything about these events is activating the spidey senses in your conscience, then there is no problem with abstaining from participation in them.
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    Is This A Good First Date Question?

    I think it's a good psychoanalytic question, but personally I would not ask her that on a first date or really any other time for that matter, the reason being that it is basically a roundabout way of asking her if she likes you. She will see through that. Instead I would recommend going into a...
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    Dating as "friends first" usually don't work out

    I wouldn't want to date someone that I didn't have good chemistry with for very long anyway. I can see just getting to know someone as friends and then asking them out later down the road, but I don't get the idea of dating yet calling yourself friends. To me one would only settle for that...
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    Accents

    Says the guy whose name is Bortsss. Lol