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  1. Endeavourer

    Poverty, illness, disgrace. Is this the life that God wanted to give me?

    I'm sorry for the circumstances you find yourself in. Sometimes when you live according to an assessment you make of your own situation, you can have blinders that don't open yourself to all possibilities. It may be a good exercise to be a little more open to the people posting here as they...
  2. Endeavourer

    Submission, Housework, Laziness, BPD, Marriage questions/discussion

    Thank you for the link. I will read it. BPD is not something I'm qualified to handle beyond saying that if one marriage partner has an illness of any kind, it's their responsibility to make themselves as whole and marriageable as medically possible. If your wife's mitigation of her BPD is not...
  3. Endeavourer

    Submission, Housework, Laziness, BPD, Marriage questions/discussion

    On this we agree! It's hard to see how his approach is not easily distinguished as "another gospel" with little connection to the one the Holy Spirit recorded for us via the inspiration of Scriptures.
  4. Endeavourer

    Submission, Housework, Laziness, BPD, Marriage questions/discussion

    Good morning @jmz I hope you & family had a wonderful NY. I'm sorry you aren't interested in what I wrote to you. In spite of your challenging situation, you are contributing to your difficulties. Per your own descriptions, you've been disrespectful to your wife and have also demonstrated...
  5. Endeavourer

    Submission, Housework, Laziness, BPD, Marriage questions/discussion

    Will a statistic justify the advice he provided in the video?
  6. Endeavourer

    Submission, Housework, Laziness, BPD, Marriage questions/discussion

    Also, just for reference, JP's doctrines about manhood and womanhood and wifely roles & such didn't work for his own marriage, as he took a sabbatical from the pulpit to work on his marriage. I appreciated the humility he displayed with the transparency on why he was taking a sabbatical...
  7. Endeavourer

    Submission, Housework, Laziness, BPD, Marriage questions/discussion

    The "Desiring God" ministry has been pretty tough on women in poor marriages. For example, what do you think of John Piper's advice to this wife? I won't characterize it but will let you draw your own conclusions. I don't recall the statistic on how many women are killed upon their...
  8. Endeavourer

    Submission, Housework, Laziness, BPD, Marriage questions/discussion

    Thank you for pointing this out, Paidiske! It really is the wife's responsibility to find something that treats her situation, to her husband's satisfaction that it is being treated as effectively as possible with technology that's available. Each spouse is responsible for themselves being as...
  9. Endeavourer

    Submission, Housework, Laziness, BPD, Marriage questions/discussion

    Yes, the book Love and Respect does seem to be very good and sounds biblical. However, from your posts I did not sense that you followed the two most damaging components of it. Thus, it doesn't surprise me that you didn't find the book as difficult as other people have. Your instincts were...
  10. Endeavourer

    Submission, Housework, Laziness, BPD, Marriage questions/discussion

    Hi jmz, Thank you for reading through all of that! I'll group responses under certain headers, below: I had understood your wife had been diagnosed with BPD, so I never said you were disrespectful for acknowledging or for any mention of her BPD diagnosis. WRT the BPD diagnosis, it's 100%...
  11. Endeavourer

    Honest question of 1 Timothy 2:11-12

    How do you explain 1 Cor 11 where women are to not have shorn hair (like the Artemis temple prostitutes did) when they prophecy? That text seems to directly contradict your premise.
  12. Endeavourer

    Honest question of 1 Timothy 2:11-12

    What kind of logic is this???? In the US the leadership has sent enough money to wars that could have solved most or perhaps even all of our social problems. We have never yet had a female president. Seriously, the rest of your post made little factual sense as well. There are many...
  13. Endeavourer

    Honest question of 1 Timothy 2:11-12

    Pardon me from ROFL, but which of the current wars where untold lives have been taken, or any of the historical wars were started by women? Ms Putin? Miss Zelinsky? Was it the Hamas women that led the decision to paraglide into a music concert? Ah, I forgot Ms. Netanyahu. And we have the...
  14. Endeavourer

    Dating unbelievers, tips , share your experience

    Thank you for making the point that I have been trying to make to @QuestionQuest74 for all these posts now. I truly hope you do get to have a marriage in the way he described his relationship with this young woman as well. God bless, E. Edited to add: PS: except for the nudes part..... I'd...
  15. Endeavourer

    Dating unbelievers, tips , share your experience

    That likely wasn't just out of left field. It was likely because they had already engaged in sexual contact together. Why did he engage in contact if he is a Christian male? Why would you say something is wrong with her faith but not his? I think it's possible that nothing is wrong with...
  16. Endeavourer

    Honest question of 1 Timothy 2:11-12

    Paul does not use the word for "authority" in this verse; he uses a specific word (only used once in the whole Bible) that referred to a cultural practice of abusing males/boys at the alter of Artemis, which practice in that day was referred to as "authentein": "adolescent boys lent against...
  17. Endeavourer

    What is gossip ?

    QQ74, it's posts like this that caused me to comment about your conscience being highly and perhaps overly active. I **LOVE** that you are pondering the working out of your sanctification - don't get me wrong - but you are constructing in a lot of areas, per your various posts. Please be very...
  18. Endeavourer

    Dating unbelievers, tips , share your experience

    Sexual exuberance in a woman is a wonderful thing and a gift from our Creator, yet your conscience may have had you let an ideal partner go for it. Read Song of Solomon; it seems that there were sexual connections before the actual marriage. I do not advise this proscriptively, but when it...
  19. Endeavourer

    Dating unbelievers, tips , share your experience

    It is not illegal for a man and woman to live together without being married or to spend the nights at each other's house, so no, a marriage of conscience may be different than a marriage in the land. We do a lot of things per our conscience based on our beliefs about things in the Bible that...
  20. Endeavourer

    Dating unbelievers, tips , share your experience

    You said QuestionQuest74 said: Not so good with me and the unbeliever WELL TECHNICALLY she wasn’t a unbeliever she just wasn’t open to obeying God ".... If the sexual responses/behaviors are what you're basing this comment on, then you might mistaken. As I mentioned before, you do have an...