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But frankly we were most concerned at how she reacted as well when I told her that the suit was inappropriate. We had never had problems with her in the past but she acted very immaturely. Rolling her eyes, looking at some of the girls in the youth as if wishing them to chime in. And finally...

I understand that expecting someone to not wear a thong was an "assumption". For those of you that keep mentioning that, it has not happened before. We never thought about it. I don't know if that's a trend nowadays with these young people but from what we've gotten to know of this young lady we...

That's hard to do when she is surrounded by children in the pool.

That's exactly what we wanted to do but she wouldn't come over to talk away from the group

I think it was more of a "run and cover" kind of reaction. She just showed up wearing it in front of all of the youth and it was a quick reaction to try to prevent her exposure for too long. We tried to call her over while she was already engaged with the youth and when she had not come over we...

Well we confronted her about what happened and she responded about how she did indeed follow the rules by wearing a one piece. Without even realizing that a thong back was just as or even more inappropriate than a 2 piece. It seemed very defiant especially being in front of all the youth.

OP here and to follow up and give more clarity to the discussion, she is 24 years old and she is not in charge completely of the youth. She we have a team of 5 youth leaders she is simply one of the leaders who ministers particularly to the girls. I understand some of you are saying she is okay...

That's a good point. I believe I am just worried about handling the result but ultimate submitting to God's sovereignty will take care of the situation and just being obedient one step at a time.

Those are great verses and points. With that said would the next move be to remove her from leadership? And if so how do we handle the relationships she's already formed with the girls?

What would no longer be considered a novice to you?

Thank you for responding, but could you be a bit more specific?

I agree. I think the difficulty is possibly making the decision to have her removed from leadership.

Hello! New member here too! Welcome :-)

We recently hired a new youth leader to our team a few months ago. She has been a believer for 6 years and seems to have zeal for her pursuit of the Lord and in time has formed great relationships with the girls in our group. Recently we had an annual indoor heated pool event for our youth...