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  1. Persis

    Writing style with friend radically different

    I have a very good online friend who writes very little to me, and I find as time is going by and I am observing this more and more, that I'm coming to the conclusion we are very incompatible. Most often my friend is very general and they only write a few lines, never really going into the...
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    my mother lived a double life

    Ok, thank you for your view! My mom actually couldn't call her friends because she lived with her friend close to full - time. She could not call them from his house or they would see where she was calling from and recognize his number. She did not have a cell either. It was a great sorrow for...
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    The Hug

    I have no doubt you are a good man as you express yourself. I had a man yesterday at the reception after the funeral, whom I don't know, touch me on the top of my shoulder. He was was talking to me face to face, and then he came over to my side and gently touched me on the top of my shoulder...
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    The Hug

    Thank you that is very valuable and interesting to know this! Since I can't answer any of your questions about the Pastor I saw, the only thing I can say is that I did not go to him for counselling. I went to him to do the arrangements for the funeral and have him do the service. There were many...
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    The Hug

    Thank you. I totally agree that I should have said something on the spot. If only I could have. After my mother's death I've had so much overwhelming stress and 2 months ago my pet died suddenly. There's more I'll spare you from. In any case, I have been not my usual self. I have been feeling...
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    The Hug

    Thank you so much for your words of wisdom, they help tremendously.
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    my mother lived a double life

    OK. It could mar their opinion about my mom and it may be worse for her friend who still attends that church. But that is where the reponsibility lies.
  8. Persis

    my mother lived a double life

    In what ways would you recommend that I be truthful? thanks
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    my mother lived a double life

    ** CAUTION: LONG POST ** My mother, a widow, in her later years met a man, a widower, of the same age, and they became a couple for 15 years. The man wanted to keep the relationship a secret because he did not want the church people to gossip about them, since they were living together. From...
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    Fear of Oppo Sex

    Hi. Have you ever tried taking a personality test? This is my idea after reading your post. Have you ever heard of the Meyer Briggs test? It is a test that identifies 16 personalities of which have been shaped by a combination of genetics, childhood influences, conditioning and environment. I...
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    The Hug

    Thank you so much. I am very grateful for your reply along with all the other replies, I just feel just really comforted and understood and no longer feel alienated with the experience. God Bless you.
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    The Hug

    Thank you then for sharing that, as your opinion then as a Pastor holds it weight in gold!! I am very grateful for your reply. Thank you again for taking the time to write.
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    The Hug

    did you mean this comment for me?
  14. Persis

    The Hug

    [ I never had any intentions of talking to someone else about this, and on this forum since I am anonymous and so is he, this is not considered gossiping. I am trying to get help. I am not optimistic like you, however. There is no proof. I don't understand how you could be but you have a...
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    The Hug

    Thank you.. very helpful for me ! You're a man, right? It is very important to me to hear from men too, because you know this could have happened to a man, as well, and it would be interesting to hear what he thought, about it. Of course if I was a man maybe the Pastor would have hugged me...
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    The Hug

    No i haven't changed my tone at all -- however, maybe it would have been better had I recommended you read all of my posts as i grappled with the issue in my discussions with others. Of course there are so many posts of mine in this thread, so that would have been too bold of me to ask you to do...
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    The Hug

    Thankyou Swan. All I was looking for was validation that what he did was strange, and that my reactions to it, were not strange but valid, and that you gave me, too. Thank you for your advice, your wisdom and for your prayers. I receive them with much thanks.
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    The Hug

    Okay thanks. You are respectful and I believe you, so what can I say other than I think it's great that you would have been fine about it, but you are not in the consensus of people that have replied back to me nor what comes up when searching on the subject. Would it be correct for me to...
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    The Hug

    Thank you, I like the way you answered this post. It was very clever, cute and point well taken!
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    The Hug

    You must be the Pastor I am talking about! I hope you can take a joke. :)