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One reason your husband is so verbally abusive is because he can get away with it. What would happen if you interrupted his next tirade with something like, "Knock it off! I've been putting up with your temper tantrums for years and now I'm sick of it. Would you for once just keep your bad mood...

I totally agree with BeanMak. Yes, it'll be hard, but most worthwhile things are hard. Taking the easy way out usually only makes things harder in the long run.

So, how is your fiance supposed to be a witness to her unbelieving in-laws if she snubs them every chance she gets? If your parents have a history of being dangerous, violent, or emotionally or physically destructive, then your fiance is right to avoid them--and you'd be wise to, too. But if...

Please consider carefully how your husband might view your faith. Does he feel that he's in competition with your church? Does he think you're trying to tell him what to believe, or that you're implying he's not good enough for you? Unbelievers don't understand why faith is so central to...

In all honesty, I think you should wait till you've got health insurance. Once you get married & become sexually active, there's a good chance that a little one will come along, maybe sooner than you'd planned. No form of birth control is 100% effective. You'll thank yourselves if you at least...

I had a similar problem many years ago, although not quite identical. Mine was, my husband wouldn't come to dinner with me and our small kids when it was ready. I had to remind him again and again, while dinner sat there getting cold, and the kiddos were getting hungry and cranky. I repeatedly...

First, your fiance needs some sort of counseling for post-traumatic stress. Her primary care doctor, or her OB-GYN, or a rape-crisis center can help her find a good counselor. Second, raising three kids by herself is going to be tough, to put it mildly. Add the trauma of rape to that, and...

I'm glad you're committed to not having sex till you're married, and I'm glad she's not pressuring you. But I'm curious why you call her a committed Christian who loves God, if she doesn't believe what the Bible says about saving sex for marriage. How can she love God but then ignore or deny his...

I probably wouldn't get a pre-nup for a first marriage unless there were complicated business or inheritance issues (like the family homestead mentioned in the previous post). However, if my husband passed away and I remarried, I'd get a pre-nup to ensure that the assets from my first marriage...

This is kind of long, but for the first twenty or so years of my marriage (until my ILs passed on), my husband constantly put his parents ahead of his wife & children. So, as you see, I'm speaking from experience. For several years, I've belonged to a couple of in-law forums. Based on my own...

When I say, "Nothing's wrong," what I actually mean is, "We've been over this time and time again, and you still don't get it. By now you should know what's wrong. I'm still hurting, but I've found that talking to you only makes it worse because you can't seem to understand why this upsets me so...

New habits take time to develop. Start out small, maybe one special little thing a day, and slowly build up from there. It doesn't have to be anything dramatic. It can be something as small as offering to get him a glass of iced tea while he's watching TV. You can also ask him, "Is there...

Two things: first, you really seem to want a woman who loves God and loves your family. Second, the woman you're currently with isn't that kind of woman. It's really going to hurt if you break it off with her now. It's going to hurt even worse if you decide she was the wrong one after several...

I don't think there's an absolute right or wrong here, just some practical considerations. First, there's the possibility that she'll be left a teen-aged widow with a baby and no life insurance, no work experience, and no means of supporting the child. Think long and hard about birth control...

Helen, thanks for the update, and happy belated birthday! Kay, may God hold your mother in the palm of His hand and help her to find the love she needs.

When God originally created man and woman and said, "It is good," he was talking about one man and one woman. This is the pattern He gave us. After sin came into the world, polygamy was allowed, with certain limitations. For example, under the Mosaic Law, a man was not to marry two sisters...

If you think he's the one, then just give it time. You don't have to make any decisions in a hurry. It takes a while to understand things like: how the other person responds to a crisis, how well both of you get along with each other's families, how he manages his money, how he's likely to act...

Yes, but have you ever considered that it's not God, but rather the enemy, who's pushing you to commit to a woman you don't love? There's a weird sort of deception I've come across from time to time among Christians. It's the idea that God will force you to prove your loyalty to Him by giving...

Three observations for your consideration: 1. You're right. She chooses to hang out with people she knows will encourage her to get drunk. That way, there's always someone else to blame it on. If she hung out with sober people, she'd have no one to blame for her drunkenness except herself...

I think you've received a lot of good advice here. I don't think this is some kind of spiritual attack. I think there's a part of your mind that recognizes something isn't right here, but you're trying to ignore it. Either this girl isn't really right for you after all, or else you're not...