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    Have You Ever Won a Contest?

    I won a contest in elementary school- I think I was in grade 3 or 4. They were looking for names for the school newspaper and I won $5 with my entry. That was a TON of money way back then! :)
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    Ever been in this situation as a christian?

    The man is using you. He sounds like a classic narcissist. He's all out for himself. Honestly, does he think not 'penetrating' is staying pure even though he is doing everything else he possibly can and hurting females in the process? If he was serious about keeping a woman pure, he wouldn't do...
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    I feel dirty

    I'm sorry- I must have missed where you said he always comments on your appearance. Here's what I might consider doing, if it were me. It sounds like you know each other well enough for you to just tell him that it makes you uncomfortable for him to always comment about your appearance and you...
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    Chaperones?

    :cool:
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    Chaperones?

    What does BBM mean?
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    Chaperones?

    I admire your thoughtfulness in this and how you are trying to have a plan to keep yourself and the woman you are dating pure before marriage. I assume you believe sex before marriage is not what God designed for a Christian and as you may have noticed, others here may have differing beliefs on...
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    The Friend Zone

    I say "ICK" to any form of "keep them guessing." By either sex. Like Michelle said, I'm too old and too tired to play any type of dating game. I am to the place now where I have asked the Lord to specifically show me what man He has for me (if He has one). I don't want to be playing games or...
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    The Friend Zone

    I may be an ultra-prude or at least, out of touch with reality in the dating scene, but... I do not want to be kissed on a third date. I would prefer, quite honestly, for the man to just say outright that he is interested in getting to know me beyond friends and, assuming I am interested as...
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    I feel dirty

    Is it possible that this man just doesn't care to walk or sit alone and is glad to feel like he has a friend at church? I mean, I see that it COULD turn into something it shouldn't, but if we step back a bit from all those presumptions- he could just have some social anxieties about going to...
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    Help me understand

    I also want to mention- and if it was already mentioned and I missed it, my apologies- that ADHD very rarely exists by itself. Usually it exists alongside another disorder, such as OCD, or bipolar disorder (wondering if that is a possibility with your wife, esp. with the ups and downs you...
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    verbal abuse...help

    I don't believe I stated ANYWHERE in ANY of my posts that one should divorce one's spouse for mental illness or nasty words. What I AM stating is that this husband, from what is described, sounds dangerous and that separation UNTIL absolute safety can be assured is paramount and reasonable. I...
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    verbal abuse...help

    You do not need to decide right now if you are leaving your husband "for good" or not. I think the thing you need to decide *right now* is how to keep you and your very small child safe- physically AND mentally- until your husband gets the help he needs. There are LOTS and lots of free or very...
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    verbal abuse...help

    Please- take time to go to these links and familiarize yourself with the classic symptoms and behaviors of abusive people. Read them over and over and do NOT allow yourself to tell yourself that you are "over-reacting" or "blowing it out of proportion" or "crazy" or whatever. A husband that...
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    Valentine's Day

    Valentine's Day was never special when I was married, so I was surprised at myself this year when my church began announcing it's annual VD dinner. It's not "technically" a couple's only thing - it is used as an outreach to invite unchurched friends. But I found myself really disgruntled about...
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    need a guy's opinion...

    I agree whole-heartedly with JP. YOU deserve someone who wants you and is there for you for more than just a drunk call or because his current honey isn't understanding him or emotionally there for him. Truly, you do. I hope you do find someone, but I hope it is someone who loves all of you...
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    Devastated my husband left me

    Devastated, I think your feelings of anger, hurt, wanting him to hurt like you hurt are TOTALLY normal!! We feel what we feel and our emotions are not right or wrong. (What we DO with them is another story...) I think you should give yourself a break and not worry about whether or not how you...
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    Need encouragement for trying to pursue purity

    I think making a plan is always a good idea. Decide ahead of time- even if you're not in a relationship currently- what you want, don't want, will do, don't want to do, will not do, and then, when you are considering entering a relationship with someone, communicate. IF, if, if, I ever get into...
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    photography thread

    Beautiful photos! I can only join in by expressing my ooohs and aaaahs at other people's photography skills. I am Horrible at it. All aspects, from taking pictures to downloading them (or taking the film in for developing when we used to do that back in the dark ages) to putting them in...
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    Do I really want to marry again?

    My situation is not exactly like yours so I cannot say I know exactly how you feel or exactly what you are saying or exactly what you are going through. My husband did not die and leave me. I left my husband after almost 20 years of an abusive marriage (and for all of you who have attacked my...
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    How can we best help my daughter in an abusive marriage

    In the past year, I left an abusive marriage of almost 20 years. I don't have much time to post right now - plan to come back- but please take a look at these two links. I don't know if you are famliar with the Cycle of Violence (and violence does not always equal PHYSICAL violence) or the...