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    Sex IS a need, for some.

    But whether or not the reason is seen as valid, doesn't make it any easier. Esp. when, as in my own situation, when my husband doesn't say why, just that he no longer wants sex and I should just deal with it. He wont tell me a reason. Just that he is happy this way and I should accept it. How...
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    Sex IS a need, for some.

    Well I'm not as nice a person as you are. It is devastating to me and I find that I can not live without not just the sex but the emotional intimacy anymore. I feel like I have a roommate who pays the bills while I do everything else. I don't feel like I have a husband anymore and I do not think...
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    Sex IS a need, for some.

    I don't know about every sexless marriage, but I know in my own--my husband who is the one not giving the sex is very unlikely to leave. He has it good. He has a wife who does everything other than making all the money. He has a son, a community who respects him, a nice home that he doesn't...
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    Sex IS a need, for some.

    Well I will come right out and say it, and I'm not ashamed to say it, but I have don't have a big problem with divorce. Sure, I think they should try to fix what is wrong, go to counseling, but if that doesn't work--if there is abuse in a marriage or is one person is unwilling to work on the...
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    Sex IS a need, for some.

    I don't think that spending 7 years living up to his standards will being denied a basic foundation of marriage, seven years of having my heart and soul crushed, 7 years of begging and pleading is giving up easily. I know what the bible says, I also know that I mentally can not stand much...
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    Sex threads? Always? Really? Ugh!

    I'm in a sexless marriage, and I think it would be a silly reason not to have a pro-sex thread. Believe me, a thread like that would not push me over the top. Living in a sexless marriage is. Not allowing pro-sex threads is not going to make my situation worse.
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    Sex IS a need, for some.

    I guess I'm bad Christian, but I'm at the point where I really don't care about the bible. If the only reason for divorce is adultery, then what about people in abusive relationships/ should someone stay if their life is in danger? OR should they just seperate for safety sake and not...
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    Sex IS a need, for some.

    I think it depends on the situation. In my situation sex would help the marriage. Sex is the conflict, well lack of sex is the conflict. If we started having sex again, it wouldn't be just a band-aid. It would go a long way to restore the trust, respect,and friendship in my marriage. Right now...
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    Neo-Nazi Village Features 'Happy Holocaust' BBQ

    If this was in Germany, why was "Happy Holocaust" written in English on the grill shown in the picture?
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    Sex IS a need, for some.

    No he is not willing to go back to one. I think I should go back to seeing one. I don't want to go through the church. I like the ladies in my church, but I don't trust them. It would get out that we were having trouble. I just do not trust them with my problems. They are great to have a cup of...
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    Promiscuous Worship Team Member, and My Friend??

    If the pastor confronts this man with this, then I think he would know who told and that would ostracized him too.
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    Sex IS a need, for some.

    He was never married before, and while he was not a virgin when we were married, I do not know much about his sex life with the girl friends he had before me. The few times when I try to talk to him about it, he just laughs it off and says it was in the past. If I press him, he gets annoyed...
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    Loving God

    Are you saying that I don't spend time reading the bible, and praying?
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    Sex IS a need, for some.

    I must have missed this part, but yes, my husband has pretty much said that he no longer cares for sex. We tried counseling, and the counselor asked for him to get his testostorne tested, he did, but I never saw the results. He said the doctor said it was in normal range. When we discussed this...
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    Sex IS a need, for some.

    You are right in that there is a difference between an adult needing to feel loved and desired in a relationship and a child's need to feel loved and wanted by their parents. But if a spouse is constantly refused you can not act like there isn't any damage done both to the marriage and to...
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    Sex IS a need, for some.

    With him refusing to get help for the lack of desire, I see that as his lack of willingness to love. If he was seeking a way to get his sex drive back, then I could be patience. But the fact that he refuses to believe me when I say that I need sex--he says that it is my problem and that he does...
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    Sex IS a need, for some.

    You can have an absolute dream house, it has excatly the right number of rooms, the windows all look out over this amazing scenery. The rooms are just the right shape, there are electrical outlets where ever you need them. It has never had any flooding isuses, the roof is solid and doesn't...
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    Sex IS a need, for some.

    I have not had a chance to finish reading this thread, had to work a late shift last night. I strongly disagree with this. Maybe some can loose the sex in their marriage and not feel broken or in a dead marriage, but I am not one of them. I am not a stoic, and for me my marriage is dead. I...
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    Sex IS a need, for some.

    To me, if my husband was unable to have sex due to a injury/illness I could cope with that because I would know that lack of sex was something out of his control, that he would still be willing, but just unable. It would be hard, but I wouldn't be in the same situation where I am now where he is...