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    Divorce? Destined to Hell?

    In fact, as I said before, 95% of male church members should be disqualified because they would have looked on a woman with lust, and the other 5% are liars, so they are disqualified as well! Yeah, this woman (and maybe a few other women) runs afoul of Mathew 25. (crooked little smile.) I say...
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    High Standards

    I am waiting breathlessly for Microsoft to market a cut-and-paste app for Facebook. I'll stand all night (in the rain) outside of Wal-Mart to be there when the doors open on the day of release. lol
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    Divorce? Destined to Hell?

    Kadams--- I am so sorry to read of your plight. You asked for advice within the teachings of the AOG and COG churches...and I see you received some opinions. I am a member of the Church of England--British Episcopalian, if you will. I am also divorced (at age 22)--adultery, stealing...
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    Is the Bible 100% scientifically correct?

    Oh dear! I think the question is flawed. As both a Christian and a scientist, I am dismayed with so-called scientific proofs that either support or disavow religion. Bad science; even worse religion. Both Darwin and Genesis are correct--it is simply a matter of each answering different...
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    Should Chrisitans read the quran?

    Absolutely it is good to read the Quran. One the most affirming to my faith: I became a regular at a Shi'a teen group Sunday afternoons. I learned about Islam and they learned about Christianity. Being a decent group it was about explaining who we ourselves were. Our launching point was the...
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    Passive/Agressive Behavior

    Part of the equation is that manners seems to be reserved for people outside the family. Whenever I take "hedge clippers" to her, she treats me better. In a perverse way, I suppose I should take satisfaction with the abuse as it means I am considered family. I am blessed to have a...
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    Passive/Agressive Behavior

    You can't post links? The usual process is 1)to highlight the address of the site in question, 2) then to use copy in the edit function on the tool bar, 3)then to return to CF and 4) start your message, 5)then to paste what you have copied. I don't know what internet browser you have so...
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    Passive/Agressive Behavior

    mkgal1---I think you are rather forced to accept the invitations. I just don't know what I would do with such a situation. Would a counsellor be helpful? If not for you and your husband, at least for you? God bless,
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    Passive/Agressive Behavior

    This site might be of interest: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Passive-aggressive_behavior It seems reasonable to me that this kind of behaviour can be taught by example within families. The example of the mother demanding her car to be returned on such short notice strikes me as being...
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    Verbal Abuse

    Just had a look at the video that Rembrantfan linked to. Great video. I don't know whether Nameless has tried what was suggested on the video or whether she has done so forcefully enough. I have the sense that her marriage is in pretty bad shape and that a third party is needed for the...
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    Verbal Abuse

    You have an excellent reply. I agree with everything it said. I'd like to add that you need to talk with someone to help you sort out what is best for you to do....pastor? professional counselor? a good friend whose judgment you trust? Divorce is a heavy decision and should be a last resort...
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    Boys would you date me?

    Cchick, Things offer for you to consider: 1) You are wise to place an upper age limit on whom you would date. Older men who go for much yonger girls are not a good bet---they have issues if they can't relate to their own age group. So maintain that. When you get older, you can open the...
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    Arranged marriages

    It's about trusting in your parent's love and wisdom. For me it was about a boy who had been pursuing me for four years whom I did respect and admire. Then my dad came around to me to say that his family approached him, Dad saying, "Well? I think he would be a good husband for you---so let's...
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    Arranged marriages

    There is a lot to be said for involving parents if they are loving, involved parents. Not everybody is so blessed.
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    Arranged marriages

    You are clearly speaking of some mixture of betrothal and engagement. My process was a mixture of East and West. For one thing, my husband selected me rather than his parents doing so. For another, he and I did meet to negotiate between ourselves---that was during sessions when I was...
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    Dating to marry

    Very well. The central question is: do you and your other concider yourselves married? If you don't think you are then you are not. You have a significant step yet to go. I have to own up to my thinking in black and white terms---there are varying degrees of commitment. I had a b/f at age...
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    Dating to marry

    Well.....I think there are three elements that bring a marriage into being:1) A private promise 2) Announcing that promise to the world (in practice to family and friends) and 3) Documenting that promise (marriage certificate for most of us, in 1800s Scotland a child, in Biblical times the...
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    Dating to marry

    My take on the meaning of "see yourself marrying them" was that a person was conceivable marriage material at any step along the way. Once a person is disqualified, then why continue dating? The only reason possibly why is that they might be a fun date but to continue for that reason maybe isn't...
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    why is it??

    Not doing me a bit of harm being reminded I have it good. My personal thing has to do with glass half full versus glass half empty. I have had plenty of opportunity in my short lifeto be unhappy. It is possible to DECIDE to be happy and to run with that. That decision to be happy actually did...