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I don't have any experience with this kind of situation, but along with pointing out the good things about his dad, do you also acknowledge your son's hurt, sadness, anger, etc. about his dad? I think there is a difference between hating someone and being angry or hurt by someone. Helping your...

I think you can hold her to biblical standards when she is with you and when she is in your home, but outside of your home, at her boyfriends' place or anywhere else ... she has to make her own decisions (right or wrong) and live by the standards she chooses. That doesn't mean you shouldn't...

I have an adult step-daughter who is living with us - she has graduated from college, works part-time and is looking for full-time work. It definitely reduces my personal space (and we live in a house!), but she doesn't make enough to have her own place so this is what we have to do for now. I...

It sounds like you are wanting the kids to say that they are happy to be away from their dad. Like you're hoping that they will reject their dad and justify the separation. If that's what's happening, that's too much to put on a kid's shoulders. Let your kids feel what they feel. No matter...

Just so you know where I'm coming from ... I remarried this summer about 10 years after getting divorced. My second husband and I each have kids from our first marriages, dated seriously for about 3 years and did not live together before marriage. I think that if you're hesitant about marriage...

We're trying to come up with some reasonable guidelines for our 13 y/o about what she should pay for and what we will pay for so I wanted to see what other parents we're doing. What does your teen pay for with their own money? What do you pay for? How did this change as your teen got older...

Fantastic! I'm really glad to hear that things have gotten better.

How old is your daughter? She may just be exploring her body which is a natural thing to do, but you don't want her to injure herself. Even young kids can be told not to put things in their bodies that don't belong. I remember telling my son when he was about 2 to not put rocks in his mouth...

I agree with what you're doing. I have two adult step-daughters - one who lives with us. The one who doesn't live with us has a boyfriend and we have said that her boyfriend can sleep at our house when they are visiting (he's from another town) but they must sleep in separate rooms. This is...

Taking in your brother was a very loving thing to do.:hug: It sounds like he needs someone to stick with him and give him a stable life. You've taken on a lot though. Does your brother go to church with you? Even if he doesn't, is there someone at church who is willing to meet with him, say...

Joseph, The main thing that concerns me is when you say "I'm struggling as without her I have no identity". I think you do have an identity - as a Christian, for example - but if you feel like you aren't someone special unless you are with her ... that's a red flag to me. How long have you...

You may not be able to convert him - conversion comes from within - but you can show him how God has made a difference in your life and introduce him to other Christians who are genuine in their faith. I think it's good that you're being someone that he can talk to about this - it sounds like...

I think tiredwalker is giving some great advice so I haven't added anything for a while. I agree with tiredwalker that you don't need to play his game. Here's the game I see him playing ... if you don't do either of his tasks, then it becomes your fault that he doesn't quit taking drugs. He...

Overit asks "why is she rushed?" and I'm asking "why do you want to wait?" I think both questions need to be looked at - although she may not be rushed, but just wanting to keep the original schedule. Anyway, if you're thinking about this only from a financial standpoint, you can come up with...

My step-daughter started shaving her legs about a month or two ago. She is 12 (she will be 13 next month). I think the main reason she wanted to start was because "all of her friends" had been shaving their legs and they were asking her why she didn't. Based on her physical development, it...

I agree - I don't think any condemnation was intended. I think it's perfectly natural to want to protect your biological son. As a mom with a son and 3 step-daughters, I know that sometimes it's really difficult to resist that instinct. But in order to have a good relationship with...

That's the way I look at it too. I understand that it's hard to walk away, but they are old enough to fight their own battles. You blame your step-son's problems on his upbringing, but even kids that were "raised right" have drug and behavioral problems. I agree with bliz that changing your...

What tiredwalker says makes sense to me. Talking to him, restricting computer privileges and preventing future temptation the best you can are all good strategies. I would add that it sounds like it would also be a good time to talk about what healthy dating relationships look like (even if...

Does he feel bad about looking at inappropriate content? Have you talked to him about why it's bad to look at inappropriate content and has he understood? Do you think this has been happening for a while or was this a one-time, he was just curious kind of thing? Is he well-behaved in general or is he getting into trouble in...

Why do you get in the middle of their fights?