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    When the former spouse has other values ....

    My former spouse and I each have my daughter 1/2 of the time. My former wife is now living with her lesbian lover, while making it very clear they do not have a long term commitment, and doing many things that aren't in keeping with the values we used to live by. Anyone have tips for handling...
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    Let's Balance the Budget

    I've seen lots of discussion on the need to balance the budget, together with speculation on how to do so. Here are some approaches from the Congressional Budget Office, which has actually run the numbers: Director's Blog » Blog Archive » The Long-Term Budget Outlook Congressional Budget...
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    Surprise visits when my daughter is away ...

    [I originally posted this in Remarriage, thought it might be more appropriate here.] Our 13 year old daughter often finds she wants something she's left at the house when she's at her mother's, which is particularly disruptive on our date night. Her mother, however, seems to believe that it's...
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    Interruptions from the non-resident kid ...

    Our 13 year old daughter often finds she wants something she's left at the house when she's at her mother's, which is particularly disruptive on our date night. Her mother, however, seems to believe that it's unreasonable for us to deny her access to anything in her bedroom at any time. On our...
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    The First Year of Marriage - Tips? Suggestions?

    In a few weeks, we're getting married. What are the best things to keep in mind to start things off right? We have two pre-teens who will live with us, and we've each been married before once.
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    Desires

    When I'm not in a relationship, my strongest desire is for God. When I'm in a relationship, my desires are divided. My thoughts revolve around my fiancee as much as they do around God, I'm tempted to not want time alone with God if I can be with her instead, or even just daydream about her, and...
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    Honeymoon - those other plans

    I'm sending this to the marriage forum because I'd like to hear from people who have already had their honeymoon. We have our honeymoon plans, we're going to a cabin in the mountains, and there are things we can do like horseback riding or hiking on the Appalachian Trail or whatever if we have...
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    Flowers - how much $$$?

    How much are you spending on flowers? We met with a florist, and I was surprised how much they cost ....
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    Songs for outside the ceremony

    Post songs here that you might want associated with your wedding, but not during the wedding ceremony - reception, rehearsal dinner, or on the radio while driving away ....
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    Wedding Stress

    I'm very excited about getting married, I'm sure I'm marrying the right person, I like including people in the celebration, the words and music we're planning are meaningful to me, and ... ... and I'm still finding this all stressful and exhausting. Incredibly exhausting. Do most people feel...
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    Wedding Rings

    How do you go about getting wedding rings you like? What are the pros / cons of: A conventional jewelry store A jeweler who makes hand-made jewelry Vendors on the Internet Craigslist How do you get a really good feel for a ring before you buy it?
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    Hymns for Weddings

    What are your favorite hymns for weddings?
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    How many shirts / pants / shorts / skirts / dresses?

    My 12 year old daughter (1 year shy of being an actual teen but close enough to ask here?) has a LOT of clothes, more than she can fit in her room. We're trying to pare down. How many of the following do you think a 12 year old girl should have? * shirts * pants * shorts * skirts * dresses *...
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    August 8th

    I proposed Saturday, my fiancee accepted, and we have decided to get married rather quickly, on August 8th. Getting married was not a snap decision - we've been thinking about it for years, we've been dating for 3 1/2 years, we did a four week session of premarital counseling, and we've been...
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    We're still not engaged

    We're still not engaged. Everyone seems to think we are. We keep telling people we're not. Somehow, I don't think they will be terribly surprised when we tell them we are. When you got engaged, was anyone really surprised? Jonathan
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    Making Christ the Center

    What do y'all do to make Christ the center of your relationship? Jonathan
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    Headship and Submission - Help me understand!

    What are the differences between the man's role and the woman's role? I'm trying to get a handle on this, and I'd be interested in people's personal experiences, decisions you've made in your marriages, as well as biblical understandings. I'm trying to come to terms with passages like this...
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    When are you ready to get engaged? married?

    How do you know when you're ready to get engaged? married? How do you know when it's too soon? Jonathan
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    Do we need Christians in American Politics?

    Thought experiment. What if there were no Christians in America. How would that change our politics and our government? What if Christians in America were to become more biblical, more committed to following Christ. How would that change our politics and our government? Does that tell us...
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    Fox News: "Obama Dazzles Dems and GOP with Cabinet Picks"

    http://www.foxnews.com/politics/2008/12/01/obama-dales-cabinet-picks/ Looks like his bipartisanship may not be just words? I was surprised to see this on a Fox site! Jonathan