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  1. SiyoNqoba

    We're Expecting and My Mom's Response

    Congratulations on the new little one :) I'm so sorry that you're dealing with such difficulty. I've just finished reading an awesome book, Boundaries, by Henry Cloud and John Townsend. There is a lot in there that it sounds like you would benefit from.
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    Mother In Law

    If she wants to breastfeed, the best thing you can do is just support that. I know that's hard when you see your baby hungry and your wife stressed, but breastfeeding works on a supply and demand system - if you start to supplement with formula she will start to lose her supply. At 6 weeks it...
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    How can insecurity ruin a marriage?

    Okay, that's great, but leothelioness has a photo on her profile, and she is gorgeous. So seeingeye's advice is really, really relevant for her.
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    my fiance deleted his facebook account...should I be concerned?

    I think he probably deleted his account because he felt he didn't need it anymore. His life doesn't revolve around Facebook, and he just found it easier to delete it. Just like he said. Why are you worried about it? Has he proven himself to be untrustworthy? Honestly, Facebook isn't...
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    How long would you wait?

    At least you admit you don't like the answers. You're probably not going to like mine. I would say never less than a year, if not two years. I have heard too many stories of people who have gotten engaged within a few months, and it's ended up horribly because they just didn't know the...
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    Waiting on a proposal

    I felt very frustrated at the length of time my husband took to propose to me. I was consumed by it for a while. A very wise friend gave me this advice, which worked so well, and I'm so thankful for it. Sit him down, and ask him, "Are you planning on marrying me?" If he says yes, ask him for...
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    Was waiting worth it for you?

    Probably because you call her a porker, consider sex with her mediocre and make her feel awful about herself. Just a hunch.
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    Wife packing on pounds - how to address?

    I can kind of understand where you're coming from, because my husband cares very much about physical health and appearance, too. So I'm going to tell you our story, from my point of view, because it's similar. When my husband and I got married, I was 21 years old, and weighed 110-115ish...
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    anyone here had a preference for either a boy or girl before they became a parent?

    My husband and I both wanted a boy first, but our first child is a little girl. For the next baby, I'm torn between wanting a boy because then we'll have our son, and wanting a girl because I want my daughter to have a sister. I wouldn't change my girl for anything. I like her much, much...
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    Your relatives or your spouse's

    Homosexuality has nothing to do with it. Having an equal income, number of children, etc, has nothing to do with it. The important question is, which family would be a better fit for my child? If both my husband and I die, that is going to throw my child's world upside down. I want as little...
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    High School Politics for the 30+ Crowd

    Have you met her? Could you give her a call? Nothing weird, just say "Hey, we heard the news and wanted to let you know we're here if you need anything." She'd probably really appreciate it.
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    Save That Kiss!

    At my sister's wedding, the best man told the most awkward story about a drunken misadventure they'd had on a playground one night. My grandmother was not particularly impressed... ;)
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    Save That Kiss!

    Actually, before my husband and I got married, we limited our kissing significantly. I can think of only a handful of occasions where we kissed during our engagement. The reason we did this was because we'd had sex, and were committed to waiting until our wedding night to have sex again. We...
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    Tights are Not Pants! Neither are leggings!

    I agree, it's not a good look. There's nothing quite like knowing exactly what a woman would look like without her clothes on because she's just wearing thin tights or leggings and unsupportive underwear...
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    Burning with lust as a teenager?

    Absolutely it is more complex than that. I should have specified that I was being quick and not getting in to it at all. Thank you for including some additional info :) The crux of what I was trying to say (though reading back, I didn't make it clear at all, haha, oops), was that you don't get...
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    High School Politics for the 30+ Crowd

    When my parents divorced, my mum lost several friends. In particular, one of her best friends was told by her husband that she wasn't allowed to speak to my mum anymore, out of fear that my mum would convince her to leave him. For a good 8 years or so, we would go over to see her and her son...
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    Burning with lust as a teenager?

    You are not married to your ex girlfriend simply because you had sex with her. The Bible uses two different words when talking about a couple having sex. The first is yada, which means to know, to be known, to be deeply respected. It is more than the act. When the Bible says Adam lay with Eve...
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    what is having sex, in the eyes of a christian

    Where are these droves of people? I have never met anyone who has thought that.
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    Burning with lust as a teenager?

    I'm sorry that she broke up with you. What makes you sure it is the Holy Spirit speaking to you about this girl?
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    The forbidding of marriage (teen & poly?)

    I see. Then we differ in terms of ideal age, but I do agree that it is appalling how long it takes people to grow up these days. Adolescence, as it is studied in tertiary institutes, used to cover the ages of 13 to 17 years old. It now covers 10 to 25 years old. Children are starting to grow up...