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    Step parenting and letting go?

    Thank you for your post Hannity it really means a lot to me. It makes me want To laugh and cry :-) I'm going to read it and re-read it to remind myself. Thank you for taking the time. I am going to go see a counselor on Thursday by myself to hopefully work through some of these issues.
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    Step parenting and letting go?

    Hanna thanks for your prayers. It's not that he wants to spend time with her because she spends all her time in her room and he just leaves her there. I don't know if he checks on her every day but he does check on her some. You would think that not having money would motivate her but it...
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    Step parenting and letting go?

    yeshuaslavejeff Thank you so much for your encouraging post. Social Security disability and long term disability are very interesting programs. My husband been has been in physical labor type jobs all his life. He is 60 years old and can't exactly start work-from-home desk job. He's just not cut...
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    Step parenting and letting go?

    Thank you for your reply ValleyGal. I wish it were that simple. Her mom is a loser and hasnt worked in about 8 years. She depends on her live in boyfriend. I can write more about them another day. That's a whole other book. My husband was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer and can't work because of...
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    Spare the rod...?

    I would say the spanking I got was a 5. Open hand on my butt by my mother only. It was confusing to me because the worst whooping I got was for not going to bed because I was scared and wanted to be with my mom. I had watched a scary movie and I was terrified to be alone. I know I had other...
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    Step parenting and letting go?

    I have told her all those benefits you mentioned. Thanks for your input and responding. It helps to hear I'm not being unreasonable. After my big blow up with my husband about it I hear him laughing at his shows in the living room and now he is snoring away without a care in the world. While I...
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    Desperate for Advise, Prayers, and Insight

    Leave him asap. He is abusive and unfaithful. Find out what your options are. Call your mom and ask if you can move there with your kids. Call a women's shelter. Those are options. You are modeling to your kids what marriage is like. I'm sorry my heart breaks for you. This is not a good...
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    Step parenting and letting go?

    My husband has 2 daughters. The first one lived at his exwifes home with no job till she got pregnant at 24 years old . Then she moved out and got a job and is doing fine. The second one is 16 and moved in with us in November. She has never had a job and didn't have her drivers license. I...
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    Modification of Child support tarnishing the reputation of the other parent.

    Thank you both for your different views. I feel like I can and will do better. Now that the courts are involved I feel less angry and not so backed into a corner.
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    Modification of Child support tarnishing the reputation of the other parent.

    Thank you 3 for your replies. It's been interesting to hear her be the one badmouthing her mom. I haven't had to. Nor will I . I have told her desperate people do desperate things. Because of the dysfunctional relationship her Mom is in with her boyfriend, she is not thinking clearly and...
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    Modification of Child support tarnishing the reputation of the other parent.

    I have been a single Mom for 22 years so I have experience dealing with co-parenting and have always prided myself with not bad-mouthing the ex in front of the kids. Sometimes even lying to the kids to protect them from the truth and tarnishing the reputation of the other parent. However, I...
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    my dailey commitment

    Thanks FRM48 will do!
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    AVRT and Saul Hudson

    Hi Saul, I saw two of your posts about AVRT. I am reading up on it now. My question is do you think you can you use the same principles for depression and anti-depressants? What about Hormone issues with women in menopause? Maybe not a good question or a guy named Saul LOL! :) And Food...
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    my dailey commitment

    Thanks Midas. It is actually proven to be harder than I thought which I believe is a sign of trouble or maybe it is because I focus on it more. I used to drink Thurs - Sunday. Last week I just did Fri and Sat. So I knocked out two days - not bad. Yesterday I had to pray and pray hard to not...
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    my dailey commitment

    I first became a Christian in 1995; In November of 1996 I made a commitment to stop drinking. I didn’t want to stop but I prayed the Lord change my desire if he wanted me to stop, and he did. Long story short. In 2011 I was breaking free from a lot of Legalism I lived and the window of...
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    My Daily Prayer Commitment for help if needed

    I first became a Christian in 1995; In November of 1996 I made a commitment to stop drinking. I didn’t want to stop but I prayed the Lord change my desire if he wanted me to stop, and he did. Long story short. In 2011 I was breaking free from a lot of Legalism I lived and the window...
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    My husband calls in sick a LOT

    Your right akmom. I think he is just not familiar with the concept. When we go on vacation without him, I think will be an eye opener.
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    My husband calls in sick a LOT

    We have talked about it a little. We have vacation scheduled for a week in July and he was the one who told me he doesn't have time off and he didn't think he would be able to go. He might join us on the weekend. I think we are both at a point in our life where we are learning to be content...
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    My husband calls in sick a LOT

    My husband calls in sick a lot. He never goes in late or leaves early. If he has a doctor appointment he just takes a day off. He has the time, but if he has 8 hours of sick or vacation accumulated, I know its coming. I just don't get it. My work ethic doesn't allow me to do that. I had...
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    Dating someone with bankruptcy or bad credit

    Thank you so much for your replies. Your right, I never "lend" money. If someone wants to borrow money, I only give if I don't expect it back. If I don't have the money to freely give, I don't have the money to lend.