How do you show your spouse that you love them?

Can I share one he did for me? Please please. I didn't hear any nos so here goes!!

When we were expecting our daughter 3 years ago, I decorated her nursery. I hand drew and painted a bunch of cartoon characters on her walls (pooh's group, peanuts, garfield etc..) Now we are moving. He went into our daughter's room with a skill saw and cut those pictures, sheetrock and all, right off her wall and he is going to frame them for me for all future houses we live in (oh and yes we own this house for all the quaking landlords out there .)

I didn't even ask, and I almost tried to discourage him, since obviosly now we have to fix the BIG whole in the wall. It is about 18" H X 10' long!!! Which he is fixing with no complaints. Aint he a sweetie!!!!!

A foot massage... get him a drink or a snack when he hasn't asked... do one of his chores... that's all I can think of..

InTheFlame said:

A foot massage... get him a drink or a snack when he hasn't asked... do one of his chores... that's all I can think of..

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The occasional suprise little gift...even if its something as small and silly as a package of jelly beans. A bear hug accompanied with a football style tackle Doing something around the house that neither of us like doing without discussion. Back rubs. Holding hands like we're still teenagers.

This is a hard one for me to answer. My husband does so much for me that it doesn't give me much of a chance to do for him. I'm a stay-at-home mommy so...the house is clean and quiet when he comes home from a hard day at work. I try to make it his sanctuary.

I show my husband that I love him by listening to him, doing my best to complete any task he sets before me, cooking healthy meals, cleaning our home, asking him about his work day, and snuggly time w/ whatever happens next. For special treats, I will show up at his workplace and take him out for lunch, rub his back, and let him steal the blanket at night.

I love to do stuff for my husband, but I have so little time!

The traditional:
I give him a back rub. That's a big deal to him, cuz he knows I hate giving massages!
I do all the usual household stuff. He really appreciates it cuz we both work full-time

The special: Last Valentine's Day, we couldn't afford going to the restaurant, so I made a 5 star restaurant meal at home. It was a 7-course meal by candlelight... so romantic! And it only cost me 15$, believe it or not!

Show appreciation for what he does, who he is. I'll refill his mug with ice and water. I'll wash his back, in the hard-to-reach place, during a shower. Mostly just little things. Smooch him on his head. Blow kisses at him. Make jokes with him.

Little things mean a lot.

Sex.

Oh, I do lots of other stuff, - notes in his lunch, favorite foods, foot rubs, but the longer we are married, the clearer to me it is that nothing says "I love you, I REALLY love you!" to this man like sex. Hinting to him in the morning that there will be sex in the evening makes his day! Initiating oral sex? That makes his week!

Yep! Sex. Sex, sex, sex.

I do a lot of things; sometimes as little as cards and notes while he's at work...but usually I clean the house, do the laundry all the things that he knows I don't like doing!!

Since I stay at home also...I try to make special suppers for him since I love to cook...or I will bake him a fave treat of some sort...I couldnt name all the special stuff he does for me..so sometimes I feel like I should do more.