Hi Amie and MyJhongfist - This has been an interesting thread. I said earlier in the thread that maybe it would be better for a child to be raised in a loving home by gay parents rather than tossed around in the system, never feeling part of a family or a sense of belonging. I go back and forth on that statement because I do believe that gay people can be loving parents. However, I also believe that they are promoting a sinful lifestyle that will probably ultimately twist the morality of the child, expecially regarding the gay lifestyle. I know someone who is gay, and he really twists what the Bible says regarding homosexuality. He really tries to justify what he lives.
But there are a few other things to consider here... what about the embarrassment a child will feel when they get to the age of understanding and caring what their friends think? I have a teenager - kids can be unbelieveably cruel. That's a stress on top of all others that kids encounter today that could just put them over the edge. The second thing is that, as a parent, I don't wish to see any child raised under a roof where flagrant sinning is boasted before the world. I wouldn't want a child to be raised by someone who is a serial rapist. I wouldn't worry that the child would be raped, because that's a pedophile. But the rapist's sense of right and wrong is just as twisted, I think, as the gay persons. We can see that a gay lifestyle is wrong, and so is a rapist. But would a rapist's secret sin affect their parenting? They could be a rapist, and yet be a loving parent. Doesn't that sound like what we're trying to say when we want to think that a gay lifestyle does not pervade raising children? Sin is sin. And many sins are much more serious and do more damage than other sin. You may say that a rapist is a violent person and the gay probably isn't and that's why a rapist would not make a good parent. But isn't it really the mind, and how they think, that makes each of them sin. It's their thought process, their lack of truth, and their lack of morality that would make them bad parents. The truth is, I would like all children to have a loving home. And I think I'm trying to justify a gay home because it seems to better than "the system". But is it? We know that sin pervades our very being. Sin is much easier to keep doing once we've allowed it out, and are willing to try and justify it. So I think I'm over with RT on this one. The final thing you need to consider is this: From my experience with my husband and most males I have known, men usually have a very rigid stance on homosexuality. It's very hard for a lot of men to look past the lifestyle to see what else there is about the person. And the men who have strong feelings on this will probably never change. As woman, I think it's easier to separate the "gay" from the person, and for a man, the "gay" is the person. I am certainly not saying all men feel that way and I'm not trying to offend - that's just my opinion. What do you think?