This is a question that my boyfriend and I struggle with, and I have a feeling it's something that all couples struggle with to some extent, and I was just wondering what you guys have to say about all of it. The quesiton is this: How do you know how to appropriately pace a relationship (physically, emotionally, spiritually, mentally etc) and how do you know if you're where you should be at the stage you are at in the relationship? I'd really like to know what you all have to say. (And yes, I'm expecting a ton of differing answers )