My husband about a month and a half ago fell into a one time incident with someone he had made friends with online that involved a sexual situation via IM.
he felt horibble, and told me, i forgave him. BUt, it set him on a path of self loathing.
My husband (of 11 years) has always been faithful, loving and kind. He took care of me when i became very immobile with disability (i am just now 33), he has been a wonderful husband.
but... after this... he changed... and he started saying about amonth ago he wanted to seperate, that there is somehtnig better ut there for me. and in the same process he has started chatting up women on the internet, and even met with two for a sexual liason on july 7th and 8th.. Now ht you need to understand is that we had decided not to seperate, and were moving back to the state we came form where my mother had rented us an apartment, because he has not worked steadily in 2 years, lay offs just seemed to follow him. we d no way to pay our rent or bills in the state we were. I left on july 5th with our stuff and my mom, he was to wrap up the utilities etc over the weekend and join me july 6th. On that day he recived a phone call for a job. decided that was God saying stay there.
He now says he is filing for divorce as soon as possile and that it is not about any woman. He says he has been unhappy for three years because i changed and became less affectionate, and he says he tried to tell me ithurt him, but i just did not realize.
i feel in my heart this is not Gods will. But atthe same time i am so emotionally devastated, as well as scared because i am disabled to the point i can not provide for myself what so ever. I have no kids so alot of social services are not available. I am trying for SSI but it will not be much.
I have forgiven my husband and want him back so very much, i love him so much. And i do not want anyone else or "anyone better" which he says i deserve.
he plans to stay in my life as a friend.
he has also been talking of suicidal thoughts, relapsed into drug use and drinking, he is in trouble finacially for bad checks, he has no place to live after two days form now and no money for food.
the jobsstarts trainning on august 1st (ironicly our 11th wedding anniversery)
i have put it in Gods hands. after spending the last two weeks cru=ying and begging my husband to ome back and explaining tohim divorce is wrong, and he is indeed a christian as am i, but he is definetely in crisis mode.
I am just a nervous wreck, devastated and confused!
i cant see a life without my husband and i seriously feel its not what Gods will.
any words for me?
he felt horibble, and told me, i forgave him. BUt, it set him on a path of self loathing.
My husband (of 11 years) has always been faithful, loving and kind. He took care of me when i became very immobile with disability (i am just now 33), he has been a wonderful husband.
but... after this... he changed... and he started saying about amonth ago he wanted to seperate, that there is somehtnig better ut there for me. and in the same process he has started chatting up women on the internet, and even met with two for a sexual liason on july 7th and 8th.. Now ht you need to understand is that we had decided not to seperate, and were moving back to the state we came form where my mother had rented us an apartment, because he has not worked steadily in 2 years, lay offs just seemed to follow him. we d no way to pay our rent or bills in the state we were. I left on july 5th with our stuff and my mom, he was to wrap up the utilities etc over the weekend and join me july 6th. On that day he recived a phone call for a job. decided that was God saying stay there.
He now says he is filing for divorce as soon as possile and that it is not about any woman. He says he has been unhappy for three years because i changed and became less affectionate, and he says he tried to tell me ithurt him, but i just did not realize.
i feel in my heart this is not Gods will. But atthe same time i am so emotionally devastated, as well as scared because i am disabled to the point i can not provide for myself what so ever. I have no kids so alot of social services are not available. I am trying for SSI but it will not be much.
I have forgiven my husband and want him back so very much, i love him so much. And i do not want anyone else or "anyone better" which he says i deserve.
he plans to stay in my life as a friend.
he has also been talking of suicidal thoughts, relapsed into drug use and drinking, he is in trouble finacially for bad checks, he has no place to live after two days form now and no money for food.
the jobsstarts trainning on august 1st (ironicly our 11th wedding anniversery)
i have put it in Gods hands. after spending the last two weeks cru=ying and begging my husband to ome back and explaining tohim divorce is wrong, and he is indeed a christian as am i, but he is definetely in crisis mode.
I am just a nervous wreck, devastated and confused!
i cant see a life without my husband and i seriously feel its not what Gods will.
any words for me?