Kaye8 said:
How do you show love to others by not asking for forgiveness after wronging them?
Hello, before you read this, ernie would like to Thank You for taking the time to read it, and would appreciate any suggestions you may have.
Hi, ernie is sorry to bump this, but ernie is still somewhat at odds with this.
Maybe ernie should explain a bit more...
ernie dated a woman on and off for about 18 months.
She went back and forth between ernie, and another man.
Last November, she and ernie had a fallout, and didn't speak to one another for about 3 months. During this time, ernie lost all *Being IN Love* feelings. He still cares about/loves her, but just as a friend.
We started talking again, brought back together by an E Mail situation with one of her friends.
Anyway...
Recently this woman told ernie something that was quite hurtful.
She stated that she never was *In Love* with ernie, but did Love him.
Now, to 99% of the world, when you are holding one another and say "I Love You" it means your IN love. This is her *Loophole*, so to speak.
So, she said she asked God to forgive her for her sins. And asked ernie forgive her as well.
As one could imagine, ernie is finding it difficult, because he does not believe her words to be true. (Its NOT an ego thing that will not allow ernie to believe this, just too long and not appropriate to get into in this forum. The above example of holding one another should allow you to understand. And she is NOT a Proverbs 7 *type* woman. NOR, is it a jelousy thing, where ernie still wants to be with this woman.)
Now, to the meat of the matter...
ernie believes she should explain herself thoroughly to ernie, so he can fully understand. She claims no explanation is necessary, as she only needs God to forgive her, its up to ernie if he wants to forgive her, and that God will explain things to ernie.
ernie feels she is doing this, to *Cleanse* herself of any relationship, so she can carry on to another, without feeling guilt for having had been in Love. Possibly, to even end a freindship, so she does not fall in love again. ernie has told her he could never Love her that way again.
She and ernie, until recently, had been BEST friends. Still able to talk, see one another, go to dinner together, hang out, ect.
Is ernie wrong to think this way?
Or, (Maybe this is a STRETCH, but than maybe you will understand ernies questions better)
Or, would God allow a killer in heaven, just because said killer asked God to forgive his sins. Without the killer even giving an explanation to the victims family?
Yes, ernie understands that we have to ask God to forgive us, but isn't there more to it than just God understanding?
Shouldn't the one who was hurt/harmed be given some compassion, and helped to understand the situation? So forgiveness can be had, and all parties can be at peace?
Oh, BTW, she has said God will explain to ernie all that is needed to know, ernie thinks God would want her to explain, God don't want to do her work, right?
Thank You for taking the time for a somewhat long read.
God Bless You.
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