Lets hear from the happily married

I'm very happily married!! First, last and only marriage.

I wouldn't trade my husband for anyone or anything in the world. ( Please don't tell him that.) LOL!!

We have always put God first in our lives. We look at our home as His home. Our children are His children. Through prayer, respect and treating each other always with kindness we have weathered many storms. Plus too we both have an odd sense of humor. I know once we start making each other laugh, the disagreement or crisis is over. Of course threatening to make my tuna casserole for him helps to keep him in line too. LOL!!!

God has truly blessed me with this family. It's something I know I can never take for granted and I'm blessed enough to have a husband that understands that too. Nice to see so many happy people in this thread!!

Great posts!


I too am a happily married!





Like others have said, it's NOT because everything's perfect!!! It's becuase we have our eyes on something bigger than just making ourselves happy all the time! HA!



God comes first, spouse comes second, third is children, then whatever else you want to put in there... (work, etc...)


Marraige absolutely stinks when you're always thinking of yourself and trying to play the, "You do your 50% and I'll do my 50%" game. YUCK!
Think, 100%-100%, and then you'll always be doing great!




One of the best books on marriage that we've ever read is by Douglas Wilson, called, "Reforming Marraige." Whew. Excellent...






We work at our marriage mainly because we know that our marriage relationship is an exact reflection of our relationship with the Lord.



It's kind of a neat (or maybe not so neat) trick to see how your relationship with God is---just look at your relationship with those closest to you...which, if you're married, would be your spouse!



How a husband treats his wife is a direct reflection as to how important he thinks God is... God gave the husband a mandate to lead, nurture, cleanse, and cherish his wife. Big job!!!!! And a good husband will be careful to do a good job, studying his wife and learning how he can best lead and nurture her.

Some lead by dominating and repressing (blech!), some lead by abdicating leadership altogether (argh!), but some lead in a godly manner, loving their wives as their own selves--and that is so wonderful and attractive, I can't even tell you!!!! A woman feels so safe and protected with a man like that. A man who submits to God is the kind of man a wife can TRUST.






How a wife treats her husband is a direct reflection on how she REALLY treats her Lord. (Ouch!)... God gave wives a command to honor and respect her husband (for his position as husband, not because he's better or personally deserves it or something!). Does she rebel? Does she nag? Does she undermine? Whine and complain???


...Or is she a support, a help, a blessing--is she FOR him? If she's FOR her man, with him, then that man can do just about anything! Talk about empowering a man! Whew...






We've also seen, in varous counseling situations, that when one spouse stops blaming the other, but starts working on THEMSELVES, getting THEMSELVES right with God and getting THEIR role in line with God's word, the other spouse will often come right along beside...maybe that week, maybe not for 10 years, but we've watched it happen many times! Very cool!











Anyways, there's a few of my two pennies...
Blessings,
Mol

I love being married. I can't imagine living any other way.

I'm also glad I waited a few years.

Great post, Molly. I really enjoyed it.

well said molly, you packed a punch.

Thank you so much for sharing that with us Molly!

i am VERY happily married! 3 months now, so we're still in the "honeymoon phase", i suppose, but i know that it will continue to be a blessing to share my life with the man i love!

great post, molly!

looksgood said:

I have only been to this foum a few times but all I find is adultery and pain. Is there anyone with a happy marriage? Lets hear from you! Tell us why u are so happy and why you feel so safe with each other! Tell us your secrets to success!!! I know I didnt spell that right

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My wife and I love each other 100%, but I think more importantly, we are committed to each other 100%. That, to me is what gives a sense of security in our marriage--not that we wouldn't fight, hurt each other, or even at times be not so sure about that "being in love" stuff. We know, deep down, that we are never going to desert one another.
Of course, we share common interests (we're both full time pastors, both full time students, both full time parents, etc). We also are so different that we complement each other well.
Here's for a happy marriage--and to being in love--and all that other stuff

Amen, I would never be any other way......

EmSchmem said:

I am quite happily married. I think it is hugely a matter of perspective. I am not happy becuase there is nothing wrong with my marriage. There is. We're young and still new at this and we still hurt each other a lot over dumb stuff. I am happily married becuase I am realistic. I know he sins and I try not to be surprised about it. I know we are both selfish people and cannnot be otherwise on our own. God is the center of our marriage. Well we are learning to put God at the center of our marriage. So our marriage is far from perfect but I love it. I love being married to my husband and he is a wonderful giving man who tries his best to love me they way I desrve and the way God wants me to be loved. He is the best husband ever!

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I feel the exact same way about my marriage. It has taken me awhile to develop a mature realistic attitude. In a marriage you need room to be human. My husband has overcome alot of adversity in his life.I am very proud of him and i admire the person he has become.

Praise Lord,

Marriage in Christian life, is the key of Success. Jesus in our home is the true way of keeping our marriage new daily.


Christopher H. Makunzo
TANZANIA

Mr. Christopher Makunzo said:

Praise Lord,

Marriage in Christian life, is the key of Success. Jesus in our home is the true way of keeping our marriage new daily.


Christopher H. Makunzo
TANZANIA

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Amen.....

11 years and more to come!

He empowers, enables, encourages, and all sorts of other things- he has been instrumental in me being able to be the person God calls me to be at this time.

My wife and I have been married for almost two years and it honestly gets better every day. We are constantly challenged, mostly by the world, but in Christ we are strengthened, and coming thru together brings us closer to each other and we grow stronger each time. The biggest thing....pray. Pray for your spouse. Pray more for your spouse than you do for yourself. Pray for blessing, pray for healing, pray for strength, joy, peace, etc.

I guarantee YOU will be happier if you pray for your spouse.

Prayer doesn't bring man's will to be done in heaven, but God's will to be done on earth.

I pray that God will bless your marriages and bring you closer together as you draw closer to our Lord Jesus Christ.

While I am only a little over a month married... I can not believe how much my love for my husband has grown in that one month!! I feel like we're a whole new couple!!

It is so uplifting reading through this thread. Thanks to the OP for starting it! I am a little (pleasantly) surprised at the number of men who have responded. It's nice to read your posts. Maybe I am just spending too much time in the women's forums.

I am very happily married for 3.5 years. Gosh it seems like longer. I believe the secrets are keeping the Lord at the center of your marriage and being 100% fully commited to the marriage. I think WAY too many people go into marriage these days only partially commited to it, then when the first rough patch comes along they run out & get a divorce before giving it a decent chance. Knowing that my husband and I are together FOREVER no matter what is the rock that the foundation of our marriage is built upon.

And of course flexibility and a good sense of humor are helpful too.

I was worried last night with a few things that have been weighing on my mind. I believe that good communication is essential and so I talked with my husband. It helped no end. I feel much closer to him now and much happier. I could have just held my worries inside and tried to deal with them in my own mind but that would not have helped. Aside from me being a crabby mare when I'm worried, I knew the worries would have just re-surfaced had I not talked them over with my husband. Communication really does help strengthen relationships.

The biggest thing....pray. Pray for your spouse. Pray more for your spouse than you do for yourself. Pray for blessing, pray for healing, pray for strength, joy, peace, etc.

I guarantee YOU will be happier if you pray for your spouse.

Prayer doesn't bring man's will to be done in heaven, but God's will to be done on earth.

I pray that God will bless your marriages and bring you closer together as you draw closer to our Lord Jesus Christ.

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I have been restarting my journey into Christianity after drifting away for a while. Because of that I have never prayed for my husband but I believe I shall start.

starelda said:

I have been restarting my journey into Christianity after drifting away for a while. Because of that I have never prayed for my husband but I believe I shall start.

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Praise the Lord! I will also pray for you and your marriage!

God Bless.

I am very happily Married.