I kissed Dating goodbye....

JesseB.

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No, this is not about the book. It is about me. See, I thought I was in a long-distance relationship and I thought I loved Amanda, my friend. Turns out, it was a love bent on lust and sexual desire. From this day forth, I will not fall in love, kiss a girl, or has lustful thoughts and desires for any girl ever again. Dating is pointless, IMHO. How do y'all survive singledom? :scratch:
 

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Seek the Lord's grace and will for your life. There may be a time when God does want you to marry and have lustful thoughts and fulfill your sexual desires. Also, you will not be able to say no to these thoughts except by the LORD. Don't try to do it yourself, but seek the Lord, ask for His Grace and submit to Him brother. I'll be praying.
 
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JesseB. said:
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From this day forth, I will not fall in love, kiss a girl, or has lustful thoughts and desires for any girl ever again.

I would be very, very careful about saying I will "never" do something. What happens when you want to get married and share your life with someone? That involves falling in love. You usually want to share affection (or kisses) with those you love, and after you get married, lustful thoughts and desires are perfectly wonderful feelings for your spouse...I understand that you are hurting right now, but I urge you to be careful about things you say at this point. ;) You're in my prayers.
 
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JesseB. said:
How do y'all survive singledom? :scratch:


I personally prefer a much closer relationship with God than with anyone on earth. There are many things that put me aside from being with God, but I'm struggling towards that.

I've given my life to God, so if I were ever to date, I would only love that person through God. IMHO theres no such thing as direct love, it's either love through God or through the world. Both are difficult, but through God and he'll guide you. Through the world, and it will manipulate your love.

Thats how I think of it.
 
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Athlon4all said:
Seek the Lord's grace and will for your life. There may be a time when God does want you to marry and have lustful thoughts and fulfill your sexual desires. Also, you will not be able to say no to these thoughts except by the LORD. Don't try to do it yourself, but seek the Lord, ask for His Grace and submit to Him brother. I'll be praying.

Great thoughts Athlon! :)

The way I see it, if you have these thoughts to start with, you will probably be tempted in this way for the rest of your life. Satan knows where to hit you and he will consistantly go for that weakness. Just remember that, because many men who attempt to stay single will eventually cave in to their desires because they were never able to express those in a marriage. I'm not saying you should get married for that reason, but just something to think about. ;)
 
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JesseB. said:
Hi,
No, this is not about the book. It is about me. See, I thought I was in a long-distance relationship and I thought I loved Amanda, my friend. Turns out, it was a love bent on lust and sexual desire. From this day forth, I will not fall in love, kiss a girl, or has lustful thoughts and desires for any girl ever again. Dating is pointless, IMHO. How do y'all survive singledom? :scratch:

For many years I (diligently) sought a wife. Although I listened to the Apostle Paul, I felt like he didn't know me very well. It took a lot of disappointment for me to "rethink" what the Apostle was trying to say to single folks (like me).

When repentance came, I (sort of pledged) that I would never....

Then during my honest times with the Lord I had to confess to Him that I still desired to have a godly wife. That is where I left it. I stopped looking at women my age as potential marriage partners.

What freedom I received from this repentance.

Now, with all the grace that I can find and receive, I look at women as mothers and sisters in the Lord first and foremost. I pray that I never fall back but only get stronger in this area.

I remain honest before the lord about my desires, pain and loneliness and like Paul, I cling to the fact that God's grace is sufficient for me.

Now I "minister" to married folks, instead of envying them. Now I can speak to a woman my age and care for her like a sister in the Lord. Instead of thinking: What or how can she make me happy.

Amen.

Dave
 
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