reconciliation of marriage

tammyhw67

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A little over a year ago, my husband of 7 years divorced me, we were having problems but nothing that God couldnt have fixed. His family are all christians but they didnt approve of me, I cant go into full detail but they convinced him to divorce me and take our children from me, we were in a court battle for several months and finally ended up joint custody, him having them most of the time. we started to see one another again on the hopes of remarrying each other some day but his mother has a very big influence over him and she has forbidden him to get back together with me, we still see each other but not out in the open, I did not want this divorce and I believe that it is Gods will that we reconcile, but until my ex husband realizes that , God can not move on this situation, I am asking for any advise and also for prayer that the Lord touches his heart and brings him and my girls back where they belong, I domt know if I am even praying right about the situation all I know is that in the past year, God has moved impossible mountains in other areas of my life and I pray that He will move this mountain too. Am I wrong in thinking that God wants couples to remarry one another after a divorce (even though divorce shouldnt happen in the first place) I know the bible says that for the cause of fornication but even that was only because of the hardness of hearts? Please pray for me, and any helpful or encouraging words would help. thank you and GOD BLESS YOU.:help:
 

sarah marie

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I prayed for you and your husband. That is the most powerful thing that you are doing.

You are not wrong to think that God wants couples to remarry. Marrying the spouse you divorced or who divorced you is reconciliation. It is restoring what God blessed. God does not want us to simply move on with our lives and try again. But because of the hardness of heart of one or both, he does allow us to. Since you can't know how hard your husband's heart is, it's in God's hands to restore your marriage. Pray that God will reveal to your husband that he never truly left his family to cleave to you, so that his heart may be softened without this evil obstacle in the way. That's right! I did say EVIL!
 
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sarah marie

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Psalm 126:4-6

Restore our fortunes, Lord,
as streams renew the desert.
Those who plant in tears
will harvest with shouts of joy.
They weep as they go to plant their seed,
but they sing as they return with the harvest.

By standing for your marriage and crying out to the Lord, you are tearfully planting seeds. I don't know what the harvest will be, but I know it will blow you away in how it glorifies God.
 
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Jaywalk

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tammyhw67 said:
we started to see one another again on the hopes of remarrying each other some day but his mother has a very big influence over him and she has forbidden him to get back together with me, we still see each other but not out in the open

Pray that God will grant him the grace to grow a friggin' backbone. :mad:

Okay, so that probably wasn't the most helpful way to put it, but Scripture says that, "a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh." There's nothing about divorcing if mom doesn't like the wife. But that's a realization he needs to come to on his own. If he hasn't married someone else and continues to see you, then he must realize at some level that this is where he is meant to be.

And it wouldn't hurt either to pray for his mom some too. To claim to be Christian and then to encourage your son to divorce (and divorce a Christian woman on top of that) is a pretty weird contradiction.

You'll be in my prayers.
 
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Once you marry a girl the apron strings are supposed to be cut.

You are your own family.
Plus, you made the promise to each other in front of God and everybody who was there.
I'd be more concerned about keeping that committment I made before the eyes of heaven than I would be about irritating my mother.
My mom is not going to be sitting in the throne on judgment day.
 
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