The Promise Ring

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As my son is turning 16 this month, I set out to buy him a promise ring (a ring symbolizing a covenant between him and God to keep himself pure or a virgin until marriage). I couldn't believe the responses I've gotten as I've browsed christian stores. Several people (christian people) decided to tell me that promise rings were only for girls and that boys shouldn't be held or more likely COULDN'T be held to those same tuff standards. I couldn't believe it. I have taught my sons and daughter they should be married without premarital sex and have taught them christlike character and values from the time they were babies. Ultimately, what my children choose will be their decision as we all have our own free agency. They are accountable to God and not me. Still, I have raised them to have Christlike character. I believe in them and am cheering for them! Tell me, is there anyone out there who agrees that our sons should also be taught abstinance outside of marriage. Or am I as one woman told me "setting my standards too high?" What do you think?
 

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Blessings to you, Kathleen, and welcome to the forum!!!

Keep steadfast in the Word of God and don't listen to the liberal talk these days. There is nothing wrong in giving a "promise ring" to your son. Young unmarried guys need to keep themselves pure just as young unmarried women.

You're doing what God has commanded and that's the only thing that matters, a rarity these days. It makes my heart glad to see another mother that is God-centered rather than being man-centered.

Nice to meet you, Kathleen. Keep up the great work in raising your children!

Grace to you,

Pat
 
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I think it is a great idea for a guy to have a promise ring. I myself, being a guy, have worn one since I was 16. I am now twenty years old and it is one of the decisions I am most proud of, not to mention, the most sure of. I can not say that it has been easy, but I know that without my parents instilling within me the importance of waiting, I would not have. However, the decision to wear the ring was my own, not my parents'. Your son must know why he is to wear it and also WANT to wear it. The main reason I am waiting is this: on my wedding night, I want to tell my wife that I am giving her a gift that I have given to no one else, myself. There are many other reasons, if you would like to chat about them, or have your son contact me, please feel free. I would love to help out. Email: SeabassMGM@hotmail.com

Take care and God bless
 
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the promise ring, or covenant ring i have worn as a man since 19 years of age has been with me for years, and will be with me for years more. i have discussed this at some length in prior threads to do with virginity and patience for Christ, to be morally pure!!!
the ring i wear was not purchased at a Christian store, and the liberalism dosen't suprise me (sadly)... the ring i wear is merely a token Sterling Silver ring, but it HAS been a constant reminder for an otherwise real challenge. Assuming that men NEED pre-marital sex is ludicris (sp), and just the lies and deceit that would continue to erod the lives of our future generations. Stay strong, and most of all, portray that strength of God to your son as he takes the ring and makes a honest committment to our Lord to be morally pure!!!
being married now three years, i can't begin to tell you how i perceive this decision in Christ has benefitted my realtioship with my Lady, and how it formatted my lifestyle with here, long before the Lord had us cross paths!!!
 
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These days many may call us too conservative, fundamentalist etc.

But if it means that we will abide in God's standards and obey His laws in morality and purity?

You can call me fundamentalist/ conservative anytime :)

BTW the promise ring is a great help to single men.

Good work on your kids kathleen7!!!

Keep it up. :)
 
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you guys have been such an encouragement! thanks so much for responding. i'm going to direct my son to this sight and hopefully he will feel more encouraged as even his friends and grandfather are teasing him... his name is shieldwolf777@angelfire.com.... either ie or ei in shieldwolf... i have it saved... ha ha. again.. thanks so very much. good to know he's not alone! And maybe his mama isn't so fanatical after all! God Bless! :p
 
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I was 16 when I asked God that He would help me to be a virgin when I got married. I was 25 when I got married and my wife and I were virgins. It was a long wait but very worth it. Society pushes kids to have sex and they don't consider the destruction that pre-marital sex causes. Christians are the guilty of this also. Pulpits blast homosexuality (probably few to none in the church are doing this) but they do not address premarital sex. Pre-marital sex leads to abortions, unwanted pregnacies, diseases and divorce. I encourage all people who are virgins to wait. At times it can be very difficult but hang in there. I come from a family were divorce is rampant and family relationships are in tatters. I believe that pre-marital sex was the root to many of these problems.
Premarital sex is a selfish act and leads to a life of selfishness where children end of being the casulties.
I hope this helps your son.
Take care.
 
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WHO DARE TELL SUCH A LIE THAT A SPIRIT FILLED MAN CANNOT CONTROL HIS WAYS?
let anyman "walk after the spirit, AND HE WILL NOT FULLFILL THE LUST OF THE FLESH!"
i am 19.
i am a virgin.

:mad:
let a man grab hold of the anointing!
where he wrestles with god like jacob! God WILL TOUCH HIM! AND HELL NEVER BE THE SAME! IT WILL CHANGE HIS WALK FOREVER! it will CRIPPLE HIM UNTO GOD, GOD WILL STRIP AWAY THE SUPPORTS OF OUR FLESHLY MAN, TO WHERE WE FALL IN HUMILITY AND CRY "IM NOTHING, ILL DO WHATEVER YOU SAY" AND IN THAT SUBMISSION, WHERE WE ARE "DRIVEN BY THE SPIRIT" WE ARE MORE AND MORE COVERED WITH THE ANOINTING!

let a man know god, and in that secret place, where his eyes search our souls, and his flaming mouth spews forth wisdom and knowlegde, AND HE WILL BE MELTED, AND MINTED INTO THE IMAGE OF CHRIST!

a man is no greater than his prayer life. but prayer is the fuel for revival!
let a man touch god, and hell be healed of any issue of blood!
 
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Originally posted by kathleen7
As my son is turning 16 this month, I set out to buy him a promise ring (a ring symbolizing a covenant between him and God to keep himself pure or a virgin until marriage). I couldn't believe the responses I've gotten as I've browsed christian stores. Several people (christian people) decided to tell me that promise rings were only for girls and that boys shouldn't be held or more likely COULDN'T be held to those same tuff standards. I couldn't believe it. I have taught my sons and daughter they should be married without premarital sex and have taught them christlike character and values from the time they were babies. Ultimately, what my children choose will be their decision as we all have our own free agency. They are accountable to God and not me. Still, I have raised them to have Christlike character. I believe in them and am cheering for them! Tell me, is there anyone out there who agrees that our sons should also be taught abstinance outside of marriage. Or am I as one woman told me "setting my standards too high?" What do you think?

Hi Kathleen.

If you and your son like the idea then go for it and don't worry about what others say. It is very noble to want to remain chaste until marriage as our Lord has designed it, but the world scoffs at us who believe that. I am reminded of the story I heard David Jeremiah tell on the radio one day of how a young girl was keeping herself a virgin until marriage, and how all of her friends gave her a hard time constantly. One day after hearing the other girls tease her about not giving her virginity away before marriage she turned and said to them, "I can be like any of you any time I want to, but you can never be like me." Something to think about!

God Bless,

Michael
 
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Originally posted by kathleen7
I couldn't believe the responses I've gotten as I've browsed christian stores. Several people (christian people) decided to tell me that promise rings were only for girls and that boys shouldn't be held or more likely COULDN'T be held to those same tuff standards.

And just who do these "Christian" people imagine your Christian son having sex with? :confused: LOL!!! :D

Such poor logic.... :p

God bless you for the way you've raised your son. :)
 
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It brings a smile to my face to see young Christian guys emphatically say they are a virgin and they are proud of it! Good for all of you! I am MarmaladePRO's wife and I am so blessed and so happy that he and I waited for one another! Kathleen, I encourage you to buy that ring for your son. Not only as a symbolic reminder of the choice he had come to make (due, in part, to your example and leading) to stay pure until marriage, but it also strikes me as a perfect chance for you and him to draw closer to one another at the same time. I know if the tables were reversed and my dad had thought to come to me with such a special token, it would bring a special element to our relationship. God bless you, Kathleen and your son also! May He grant blessings and patience and determination to you both! Amen
 
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Well, thanks so much to all of you for your uplifting responses! I'm sending off my sons ring today (he's currently attending a school for the gifted in Oregon) and a copy of all these posts from his brother's and sister's in Christ! I've told him to check this sight on the 29th (his birthday)... Just from mom to you son, I'm so proud of you! You're faith and stand encourage me everyday! Happy birthday Randy!!!! Love, mom :D
 
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Kathleen,

How wonderful that you have been so strong in your convictions all this time. Don't let anyone say a promise ring for your boy isn't a good thing. I think it is wonderful for you to put faith in your son, that a lot of parents don't.

I hope Randy has a wonderful birthday!! I know if my parents had given me a ring that held an oath like that to God when I was younger, I certainly would have put more consideration into my actions back then. I know my husband and I both have regretted not saving ourselves for each other.

I had not even thought about giving promise rings to teenagers before, but am truly inspired to do so when both my son and daughter turn that age. I think it will mean a lot to them to wear with them something showing not only my trust in them, but also a promise they are keeping to God and themselvess.

I think people shouls wear more outward symbols of their faith, even if only if it means anything to them.

Amen, Kathleen! Thanks for the inspiration!
 
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