Should I or should I not?

I don't see a problem with it as long as the guy in question isn't married or it isn't a situation that would go against God's Will.

I understand your fear, but you can't go through life carrying that with you. that's what love is all about. it's a wonderful feeling, but it's also a risk everytime you put yourself out on the limb and express yourself to someone else to that extent. your ex must understand that, othewise he wouldn't have taken the jump to begin with. i feel that you owe it to this person to tell him you care about him. it's the truth, and everyone deserves to know the truth. I pray to the Lord that He leads you in this situation and all goes well
God Bless!

What everyone else said...

Sending a prayer out to you for God to give you wisdom and peace to know when it's time to say something.

Hey girl,
If you care for the guy...don't let fear hold you back. We always seem to let fear be an excuse, but it isn't a very good one. Hold your head up and just let the guy know you don't want things to change, you just want to let him know how you feel.

*HUG*

Jess

Well, you're an Otaku. Just pull a giant mallet out of the air and clobber him really hard. If he's the one for you, he'll know how you feel.

I would say let it come up naturally...if you force it, it will only be harder.

Jess

Go with the groove.
be the groove.

Well...it's a hard thing. Believe me, I know.

In many cases, guys aren't ones to beat around the bush about things. If they feel a particular way, they'll let you know. And in return, they want the same thing. It's a hard thing to learn and to get used to doing.

Personally, I would tell him. I mean, the worst thing he could say is that he's not interested in you the same way as you're interested in him. But he's obviously not going to hate you or anything just because of that.

PS - Feel free to PM me about this if you want...I've been through the same thing.

i encourage you to tell him how you feel about him, a while back i gave the guy that i feel strongly for i gave him a note to say it without having to face him and then he read it and said he understood but for awhile we hadnt even mentioned it, but as of last sunday he seemed to act a little more interested in me and we talked on the phone almost every night this weekend and on wednesday we finally had the talk, cause some things came out of me, and i started to cry and ran out of the room and he ran after me and all this stuff wen he couldnt find me i went back to were we were and sat by myself and started to read the bible and he slowly inched his way to me and was like can i sit own and talk to you or do you still hate me and im like i could never hate you and from then we just kinda started talking about us, and he said i love you, and i said it back. i mean im really glad i told him a while back and we had this talk, because if i never wouldnt have said anything i wouldnt have known that he felt the same for me. good luck with everything tell us how it goes.

Today at 06:20 AM Susan said this in Post #14

I went to my nondenominational church's first ever Good Friday service today. At the end of it, we who went took papers with something we wanted to lay aside in our lives and symbolically nailed them to a cross. I chose "bad relationships" and did that. (though I can't handle a hammer without smashing my hand, so I gave it to someone else to do because I didn't want to be the laughingstock of everyone present) Maybe kind of superstitious of me, *shrugs* but anything that can help. . .lol. 

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As an aside, I've done this at a retreat...and it's a very emotional thing.  I don't think it was superstitious of you at all to do that Susan.

Talking longer is a good start.  You should be proud of that!    And keep praying.  God will definitely lead you in the right direction.

so what happened ?

every one goes through this by the way.

A friend of mine fell in love with someone, and they'd previously agreed that they were "just friends". She was so nervous that they had to play hangman; she wrote down some blanks on a piece of paper, and let him guess letters, until she'd spelled out "I love you even if you can't love me back". She couldn't even write it, but she could write a couple letters at a time.

(dramatic pause)

I was the best man at their wedding. They're still together, and she's pregnant.

That's such an awesome story seebs!