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Tyler52

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My wife and I are struggling to maintain any form of relationship with God right now just because of all that we have to do now that we have our child. What can we do to seek God more? It’s especially going to be hard if I get put on 10s at work and am getting up at 3 in the morning. I’m not really sure what to do other than have a rigid schedule, does anyone else have advice?
 

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Congratulations on the birth of your baby!

Your life will probably be a sleep-deprived fog for the next couple of months, and then things will get better as the baby starts sleeping for long stretches at night. As I recall, my prayer life for those first couple of months was chiefly "Please, God, let the baby fall asleep!"

God sees it all, and loves you. Be gentle with yourselves. You may be able to do some Bible reading at 4am while you're feeding the baby. But if you can't, because you haven't slept in a week, then okay. In a few months, when the baby is sleeping more regularly, you'll be able to return to your regular spiritual practices.

I'm not sure what you mean by a rigid schedule. My advice is the opposite, to be as flexible in your schedule as you can. The demands of work schedules are what they are. But for everything else, be prepared to eat meals or take showers or do the laundry at odd hours, because newborns have their own idea of time. Hang on. It'll get easier.
 
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Yes, congrats on your newborn.

We rotated the main responsibility nightly, learned when we were anxious the baby responded accordingly, reluctantly accepted our mothers' help but that the previous level of order and organization wasn't possible, batch cooked meals, & prayed even more.

As PloverWing posted, It will get easier.
 
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Congrats on your newborn!

Life with a little one is no joke, and when you're pulled in a million directions, it can feel like there's nothing left in the tank for your spiritual life. One thing that's helped my wife and me in similar seasons is shifting our mindset from "structured devotional time" to "constant connection."


Even if it's just whispering a prayer while feeding the baby, listening to worship music on the way to work, or reading a single verse in the morning — those small moments matter. God meets us in the chaos, not just in the quiet.


Also, don't underestimate the power of including your child in your spiritual life. Praying over them, reading simple Bible stories aloud, or singing hymns as lullabies are all ways to keep God in the center, even when you're exhausted.


And lastly — grace. Tons of it. God's not measuring you by how many minutes you clock in but by your heart's desire to stay near Him. Keep showing up, even imperfectly.


You're not alone in this — you’ve got a whole body of believers walking similar roads. Hang in there.
 
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