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For Those Who Are Angry With the Church…

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Fr. Longenecker

For Those Who Are Angry With the Church…​

On social media I seem to get an increasing number of links to blog posts, X-Twitter posts, articles and memes that rant and rage about the failures of Christians and the failure of the church. It could be hatchet jobs on famous Christians showing how they were secret Nazis, anti-Semites, white supremacists, homo or trans phobes, secret homosexuals, masturbators, misogynists, cat haters, alcoholics, teetotalers, people who once cut down a tree or hated their mother or loved their mother too much, frigid, sex obsessed, emotionally frozen and sexual abusers…

You get the idea. Christians–and especially white Christian men–are blamed for being, well, human.

Now I get it. There are a large number of people who have been wounded by their experience of the church. They’ve been ostracized by narrow minded, hypocritical Christians. They’ve been scandalized by the ignorance, incompetence, hypocrisy and stupidity of clergy. They’ve been angry at what seems deliberate obscurantism, legalism and judgmental attitudes. They’ve been angry at the corruption, sexual abuse, cover up and injustice shown by church leaders. They’ve been hurt by the greedy, fraudulent, scamming preachers. They’ve been disappointed by the hardness of heart, lack of compassion for the poor and the self serving church people and leaders.

So they not only leave the church, they go on a long, weary tirade and campaign against the church and Christians in general. I get that too. If one is wounded deeply, then it hurts and when one hurts, one howls in pain. I get all that.

What I don’t get is how immature and blinkered this is. Are grown up people really so lacking in both self awareness and realism about human nature and the way of the world? I can remember at the age of twelve I overheard my fundamentalist pastor engaged in a rip roaring, screaming match with the music director. “This church isn’t big enough for the two of us!” etc. etc.

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Fr. Longenecker

For Those Who Are Angry With the Church…​

On social media I seem to get an increasing number of links to blog posts, X-Twitter posts, articles and memes that rant and rage about the failures of Christians and the failure of the church. It could be hatchet jobs on famous Christians showing how they were secret Nazis, anti-Semites, white supremacists, homo or trans phobes, secret homosexuals, masturbators, misogynists, cat haters, alcoholics, teetotalers, people who once cut down a tree or hated their mother or loved their mother too much, frigid, sex obsessed, emotionally frozen and sexual abusers…

You get the idea. Christians–and especially white Christian men–are blamed for being, well, human.

Now I get it. There are a large number of people who have been wounded by their experience of the church. They’ve been ostracized by narrow minded, hypocritical Christians. They’ve been scandalized by the ignorance, incompetence, hypocrisy and stupidity of clergy. They’ve been angry at what seems deliberate obscurantism, legalism and judgmental attitudes. They’ve been angry at the corruption, sexual abuse, cover up and injustice shown by church leaders. They’ve been hurt by the greedy, fraudulent, scamming preachers. They’ve been disappointed by the hardness of heart, lack of compassion for the poor and the self serving church people and leaders.

So they not only leave the church, they go on a long, weary tirade and campaign against the church and Christians in general. I get that too. If one is wounded deeply, then it hurts and when one hurts, one howls in pain. I get all that.

What I don’t get is how immature and blinkered this is. Are grown up people really so lacking in both self awareness and realism about human nature and the way of the world? I can remember at the age of twelve I overheard my fundamentalist pastor engaged in a rip roaring, screaming match with the music director. “This church isn’t big enough for the two of us!” etc. etc.

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I find the get-over-it, grow-up, this is reality, look-in-the-mirror "advice" to be unworthy and condescending. There is much in the institutional Church that is of Christ, and is to be loved. There is much in the institutional Church that is of fallen man, and is to be (in Scriptural terms) hated. To the angel of the church at Ephesus, we read:
Rev 2:4 But I have this against you, that you have abandoned the love you had at first.
Rev 2:5 Remember then from what you have fallen, repent and do the works you did at first. If not, I will come to you and remove your lampstand from its place, unless you repent.
Rev 2:6 Yet this you have, you hate the works of the Nicolaitans, which I also hate.
The angel of the church of Ephesus hated what he ought to hate, but did not love as he ought to love.

To the angel of the church at Thyatira, we read:
Rev 2:19 "'I know your works, your love and faith and service and patient endurance, and that your latter works exceed the first.
Rev 2:20 But I have this against you, that you tolerate the woman Jezebel, who calls herself a prophetess and is teaching and beguiling my servants to practice immorality and to eat food sacrificed to idols.
Rev 2:21 I gave her time to repent, but she refuses to repent of her immorality.
Rev 2:22 Behold, I will throw her on a sickbed, and those who commit adultery with her I will throw into great tribulation, unless they repent of her doings;
Rev 2:23 and I will strike her children dead.
The angel of this church loved as he ought to have loved, but did not hate as he ought to have hated. Instead, he tolerated abomination worthy of hatred.

Augustine [City of God, Bk XIV Ch 6 -Of the Character of the Human Will Which Makes the Affections of the Soul Right or Wrong] focuses on this two edged sword of discernment (emphasis added to the text by me):
Wherefore the man who lives according
to God, and not according to man, ought to be a lover of good, and
therefore a hater of evil. And since no one is evil by nature, but
whoever is evil is evil by vice, he who lives according to God ought to
cherish towards evil men a perfect hatred, so that he shall neither
hate the man because of his vice, nor love the vice because of the man,

but hate the vice and love the man. For the vice being cursed, all
that ought to be loved, and nothing that ought to be hated, will
remain.
 
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The best way to reform the Church is to reform yourself. I don’t know who told me that, but I always found it interesting.
 
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From the op:

How best to deal with the disappointment, disgust and dismay one so often feels about the Church and Christianity? First to have the right priority. Your focus is on Jesus not other Christians. Second, get real–a paradigm shift is an act of the will. Decide to be realistic in your expectations. Hope for the best, expect the worst. Third, don’t get too focussed on your church leaders. Let them do their job. You do yours. Support them if you can, avoid them if you can’t. Fourth: focus on the ordinary people in the pew. They’re more likely to be the saints you are looking for. Fifth: live local, love local. What’s the old saying, “Nothing is real if it is not local.” Getting involved with the struggles, the triumphs and tragedies of your local Christian community and local extended community is where it gets real. If you meet a Christian failure at that level you are far more likely to be sympathetic and if your sleeves are already rolled up in action you’re likely to be able to do something about it and more likely to forgive and help that person. Sixth –look in the mirror. Very often we blame others most vehemently when their failure is something we are also struggling with. PS: it’s called “projection” Seventh – don’t forget a sense of humor. Humor is linked with humility and believe me, one day we will see the foolishness, failures and frailties from the divine perspective and understand that “all things work together for good to those who love God and are called according to his purpose.”

The sin and darkness will turn out to be the necessary shadows–the chiaroscuro of a beautiful painting.
 
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The people doing the judging are also under judgement - not just those who remain in the church and quietly go about their Christian lives from year to year.

As my old pastor used to say "One bunch of sinners is pretty much the same as the next" and it won't make much difference if they're in the church or out of it.
 
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