This is a simple question that is not being answered simply. Your friend is simply very confused and deceived. Whoever gave him such a silly notion.
Your friends first concern should not be with elestion but rather with salvation. The Bible is very very clear about that, and oh yes you can know NOW if you are going to Heaven, and you do not have to wait to stand before God to hear "His decision" about that.
John 3:16 PLAINLY says "Whosoever". That means your friend also.
Romans 10:9,10 also applies to your friend, as does every other verse pertaining to salvation.
It is not a matter of God's choice, it is a matter of your friends choice.
It it by Grace through FAITH we are saved, and that is open to WHOEVER.
Titus 3:5: "Not by works of righteousness which we have done, but according to his mercy he saved us, by the washing of regeneration, and renewing of the Holy Ghost;"
Romans 4:5: "But to him that worketh not, but believeth on him that justifieth the ungodly, his faith is counted for righteousness."
The Bible is clear that we ae saved by His Grace and our Faith. Your friend needs only to exercise that Faith, without doubting. In order to do that all he has to do is BELIEVE God's Word and not some man's silly idea. Salvation is not complicated. God has made simple enough for a child to understand.
Once you have exercised that faith there are many verses that ASSURE one of salvation. I have written on over 100 verses that assure you of salvation.
Jesus said, in John 11:36: "And whosoever liveth and believeth in Me shall NEVER die." My friend THAT is eternal life, and that only applies to those who go to Heaven.
Romans 6:23 says: "For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord." Once you have exercised your Faith in Jesus Christ you receive the gift of ETERNAL LIFE offered through the finished work of Jesus.
I Peter 1:23: "Being born again, not of corruptible seed, but of incorruptible, by the word of God, which liveth and abideth for ever."
Note that when we are born again, we are born of INCORRUPTIBLE seed that lives forever.
I Peter 1:4: "To an inheritance incorruptible, and undefiled, and that fadeth not away, reserved in heaven for you,
5 Who are kept by the power of God through faith unto salvation ready to be revealed in the last time."
Once you are born again there is an inheritance reserved for you in Heaven. How pray tell could you collect that inheritance in hell?
You see it is just a simple matter of BELIEVING God. To many liars and deceivers are busy filling heads with non sense that does NOT come from God's Word.
If you are alive you can be saved simply by accepting the Gift of salvation offered to "WHOSOEVER" by His Grace through FAITH.
I John 5:13: "These things have I written unto you that believe on the name of the Son of God; that ye may know that ye have eternal life, and that ye may believe on the name of the Son of God."
***Notice that in the above verse it plainly says that you may K-N-O-W that you H-A-V-E ETERNAL LIFE.
Again the choice is up to each individual. Either you will believe God or believe a deceiver who is a liar, because God CANNOT lie.
Titus 1:2: "In hope of eternal life, which God, that cannot lie, promised before the world began;"
You see the old addage we have all heard is appropriate here. "The proof is in the pudding" In other words, by exercising your free will choice to accept Jesus as your personal Saviour, you have the PROOF that you are indeed one of God's elect.
Jesus PLAINLY said: "All that the Father giveth me shall come to me; and him that cometh to me I will in no wise cast out." John 6:37
Simply come in simple faith. Did God lie? Did Jesus lie? Or was it satan, the father of lies, that has deceived your friend?
Only God can open our eyes to see the truth that God loves them and has sent Jesus to die for all men... yes all men. Those who accept that then are opened to the relization that you are one of the saved elect.
