Why do christian women only want tall guys?

VCR-2000 said:

I think AI human-like men and women will be the future especially if this trend of antagonism between the human sexes continues and neither can be satisfied by the other. And I honestly accept it. I know that the Bible says that the traditional model that works is one man and one woman, but because of social engineering by not so Christ-like people that have agendas and whole host of other factors like demographic shifts, that ship has sailed and is never coming back. The Bible might have something to say on the position of human-like AI and sexual relationships with them, but for a lot of people it is irrelevant because we are desperate. Christianity or the Bible doesn't really provide a completely satisfactory answer to this paradox, except saying "either sin and possibly be damned to Hell or accept being single for eternity".

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If you think God is in any way approving of humans trying to have "relationships" with computers instead of other people... I don't think you know Him very well.

I know many wonderful, awesome men who'd make amazing partners. There's no reason for anyone to just throw in the towel and dismiss the entire opposite sex.

VCR-2000 said:

I think AI human-like men and women will be the future especially if this trend of antagonism between the human sexes continues and neither can be satisfied by the other. And I honestly accept it. I know that the Bible says that the traditional model that works is one man and one woman, but because of social engineering by not so Christ-like people that have agendas and whole host of other factors like demographic shifts, that ship has sailed and is never coming back. The Bible might have something to say on the position of human-like AI and sexual relationships with them, but for a lot of people it is irrelevant because we are desperate. Christianity or the Bible doesn't really provide a completely satisfactory answer to this paradox, except saying "either sin and possibly be damned to Hell or accept being single for eternity".

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Ironically, web algorithms are strongly responsible for the dysfunctional behaviors people have fallen into.

"Viral trends" in the internet and social media are promoting such behaviors and the behaviors are handsomely rewarded in terms of $$$money$$$. And the internet is now the #1 influencing factor in an individual's behavior.

SO....AI is luring everyone into such dysfunctional behavior which then tempts people to "open the back door" to not just let AI in digitally but also physically in all aspects.....

It could all be just coincidence or the start of something far more sinister. Someone might think an AI uprising but it could something more primal like a small group of very rich individuals or large companies getting ready to take over the entire world.

TheLastGeek said:

If you think God is in any way approving of humans trying to have "relationships" with computers instead of other people... I don't think you know Him very well.

I know many wonderful, awesome men who'd make amazing partners. There's no reason for anyone to just throw in the towel and dismiss the entire opposite sex.

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A lot of people are being left out & stuck being single

DragonFox91 said:

A lot of people are being left out & stuck being single

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Few people are genuinely, completely unable to find partners. Most people who cling to this thinking simply refuse to put in the work that's needed to become better partner material.

TheLastGeek said:

Few people are genuinely, completely unable to find partners. Most people who cling to this thinking simply refuse to put in the work that's needed to become better partner material.

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That's not how the world is. There's thousands of people who aren't good partners at all but are still able to get partners. Lot of good people are unable to find partners. It's just how it works. God just has to give you the one
that's for you, or he doesn't. There's no other way.

In the past the man basically made the decisions. This has changed, especially since women went into the workplace in large numbers. What that means is that you have two people who may disagree often on how to spend their time, money, how to vote, etc. This can become worse in times of political strife and economic difficulties. People who under different circumstances may have been willing to compromise might not anymore. It's also true that those who are less happy, resulting from a stressful world, are likely to be more irritable.

Now some people are more immune to the state of the world than others. Some are better able to compromise. But many will struggle at serious relationships and eventually say it is not for them. There are a lot of factors that can go into this like being conflict-averse.

DragonFox91 said:

That's not how the world is. There's thousands of people who aren't good partners at all but are still able to get partners. Lot of good people are unable to find partners. It's just how it works. God just has to give you the one
that's for you, or he doesn't. There's no other way.

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It is, in fact, how the world is. Most people find a partner/spouse at some point in their lives. Very few people live and die single. "Finding" and "not finding" partners is typically a season in a person's life. People go years with/without partners and then things change for them.

TheLastGeek said:

It is, in fact, how the world is. Most people find a partner/spouse at some point in their lives. Very few people live and die single. "Finding" and "not finding" partners is typically a season in a person's life. People go years with/without partners and then things change for them.

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Agreed

TheLastGeek said:

It is, in fact, how the world is. Most people find a partner/spouse at some point in their lives. Very few people live and die single. "Finding" and "not finding" partners is typically a season in a person's life. People go years with/without partners and then things change for them.

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Very good advice. I think most people feel discouraged about this at some point in their life. Anytime a person has to encounter obstacles or go through a hard phase in life, they will inevitably worry that it will never end. When you are struggling it is hard to remain positive. I think it is good to keep in mind that there are phases in life. I know some people who struggled for years to get a job in their field. It was seemingly impossible. Then the breakthrough finally came. The key is to keep trying and to ask God for help.

I also find that it helps to remember that life is a vapor and we have limited time and opportunities to be useful and reach others. It is a shame to waste years of life worrying about the future. We never get those years back.

YankeeGirl said:

Very good advice. I think most people feel discouraged about this at some point in their life. Anytime a person has to encounter obstacles or go through a hard phase in life, they will inevitably worry that it will never end. When you are struggling it is hard to remain positive. I think it is good to keep in mind that there are phases in life. I know some people who struggled for years to get a job in their field. It was seemingly impossible. Then the breakthrough finally came. The key is to keep trying and to ask God for help.

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Read Hebrews 11. Not everyone will have their breakthrough in this life even to those championing the cause of our Lord and because if you are doing something quite substantial for the Lord, the whole world will be fighting against you (John 15:18, 1 John 5:19).

The lack of breakthrough in this life isn't the result of the lack of faith and this is explained in Hebrews 11.

If something has become fruitless we should analyze the situation. Is the THING we are pursuing have any relevance to eternity? If not, then we should probably drop it and focus our energy on things that truly matter. In the New Testament, we find from the Lord's teachings and His disciples that families, relationships, and even your own children more often than not will become an obstacle to following the Lord. They will stop you from doing what is right. It remains true today, even among Christian families.

"Now to the unmarried and widows I say this: It is good for them to remain unmarried, as I am."
1Cor 7:8

"Each one should remain in the situation he was in when he was called"
1 Cor 7:20

Because of the present crisis, I think it is good for a man to remain as he is. Are you committed to a wife? Do not seek to be released. Are you free of commitment? Do not look for a wife.
1 Cor 7:26

I want you to be free from concern. The unmarried man is concerned about the work of the Lord, how he can please the Lord. But the married man is concerned about the affairs of this world, how he can please his wife, and his interests are divided.
1 Cor 7: 32

So then, he who marries the virgin does well, but he who does not marry her does even better.
1Cor 7: 38

But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, as long as he belongs to the Lord. In my judgment, however, she is happier if she remains as she is. And I think that I too have the Spirit of God.
1 Cor 7:40

Singleness is the most recommended state in the New Testament. Its recommended over marriage. So, chasing after marriage is not a sin, but its not a Christian mindset. Its like chasing after a house, a career or other worldly (and sometimes useful) things. We all know that romantic relationships complicate life a lot and take away our focus. Its very difficult to attain a mastery in any area, while in a relationship or even having a family. Not to mention that the majority of romantic relationships end badly or are not happy.

TheLastGeek said:

Few people are genuinely, completely unable to find partners. Most people who cling to this thinking simply refuse to put in the work that's needed to become better partner material.

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DragonFox91 said:

That's not how the world is. There's thousands of people who aren't good partners at all but are still able to get partners. Lot of good people are unable to find partners. It's just how it works. God just has to give you the one
that's for you, or he doesn't. There's no other way.

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Those who want good partners don't settle for lousy matches. In my experience, that is the most common reason for singleness. Even among those who claim to not be single by choice. Pair them with somebody they don't get along with and see how quickly they change their tune! We should put in the work to better ourselves regardless of whether we have a partner or not.

I'm continually surprised at how many don't seem to care about the quality of their relationships. It's like basic interpersonal compatibility isn't a consideration for them. They might be unhappy, but they're rarely alone.

timewerx said:

Read Hebrews 11. Not everyone will have their breakthrough in this life even to those championing the cause of our Lord and because if you are doing something quite substantial for the Lord, the whole world will be fighting against you (John 15:18, 1 John 5:19).

The lack of breakthrough in this life isn't the result of the lack of faith and this is explained in Hebrews 11.

If something has become fruitless we should analyze the situation. Is the THING we are pursuing have any relevance to eternity? If not, then we should probably drop it and focus our energy on things that truly matter. In the New Testament, we find from the Lord's teachings and His disciples that families, relationships, and even your own children more often than not will become an obstacle to following the Lord. They will stop you from doing what is right. It remains true today, even among Christian families.

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I have been thinking more often that God is saying "I am sovereign and control everything that happens, and if you don't get something despite wanting it a lot, tough then. I am the only one that has the power to effortlessly grant what you desire, but I won't necessarily do that except for my own sake."

The experience of chronic singledom and involuntary celibacy for me and a lot of other people feels like it's own purgatory itself. It's like we are being teased with it.

VCR-2000 said:

I have been thinking more often that God is saying "I am sovereign and control everything that happens, and if you don't get something despite wanting it a lot, tough then. I am the only one that has the power to effortlessly grant what you desire, but I won't necessarily do that except for my own sake."

The experience of chronic singledom and involuntary celibacy for me and a lot of other people feels like it's own purgatory itself. It's like we are being teased with it.

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But that's not His nature, so this thinking is wrong. I know it can FEEL this way sometimes, but those are flawed, incorrect emotions that we should correct with what we know of our Father. God does not tease, torment, and torture His children.

There's also the fact that when it comes to human relationships, God cannot and does not force anyone into them. God cannot "effortlessly" force a woman (or man) to love someone. He can guide peoples' paths to cross, and He can influence hearts, but the final choice is always ours to make. Therefore, I think it's much wiser to remind ourselves that His timing is perfect, He is good, kind, and generous, and if we don't have something we earnestly desire, there's a reason (or multiple reasons) for it. Rather than railing against it, we should look for lessons that we can learn during the waiting.

VCR-2000 said:

I have been thinking more often that God is saying "I am sovereign and control everything that happens, and if you don't get something despite wanting it a lot, tough then. I am the only one that has the power to effortlessly grant what you desire, but I won't necessarily do that except for my own sake."

The experience of chronic singledom and involuntary celibacy for me and a lot of other people feels like it's own purgatory itself. It's like we are being teased with it.

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The Father provides exactly what we need when we need it in the amount we need it.
He knows what is best for us. We do not.

God has called you to be single right now. Maybe it is just a long but
temporary season. In that case you are developing character &
skills you will need to be married. You want to be the absolutely best you can be
for her, it's only fair for her, & God will make sure for the both of you, you
are where you need to be. He knows what that may mean & how long it'll take.

If it's not just a temporary season, he will bless you in ways you don't understand
yet. In time you will appreciate them, although right now that idea may seem like
a consolation prize, it is very good & perhaps better for you.

Can you tell God how your days will go? God counted them out before you.
Your singleness isn't a surprise to him. He knows you don't like it.
Instead of being upset, draw closer to him & give thanks he cares for you.
Be joyful of the state you're in, have confidence in the promsies God gives his children, & build
your foundation not on marriage, but Christ.

Make sure to stay busy. I don't mean simply hobbies like what most
people seem to mean when they say that,, but find committments.
Whether it be work or friends or church groups. I find committments very
helpful in getting thru my time, (God-willing temporary time), being single
because they require you to be at your best. You can't say 'maybe later' or 'I
don't feel like it now.' If God will let you get married someday, view the
committments as getting practice w/ committments & building skills for
them, because a relationship will be a commitment. & if he doesn't lead you
to marriage, it will keep you occupied & you will come to see the blessing it is.

If you are mad at God you have bigger problems to worry about than singleness

VCR, you do want to be married, right? Not just flings? If all you want is a fling, you clearly have some more growing & development to do. Marriage is more than that. I believe despite the hassel, marriage will be more than worth it. But it will require work, & a lot more work than a fling. So you must
understand that time has to go into it.

What kind of woman are you looking for, VCR?

Blind post without reading through the whole thread. Why do women want tall guys? They have a deathly phobia of being unable to reach something on the top shelf.......

mojoboy31 said:

Blind post without reading through the whole thread. Why do women want tall guys? They have a deathly phobia of being unable to reach something on the top shelf.......

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that's where the bats are

TheLastGeek said:

But that's not His nature, so this thinking is wrong. I know it can FEEL this way sometimes, but those are flawed, incorrect emotions that we should correct with what we know of our Father. God does not tease, torment, and torture His children.

There's also the fact that when it comes to human relationships, God cannot and does not force anyone into them. God cannot "effortlessly" force a woman (or man) to love someone. He can guide peoples' paths to cross, and He can influence hearts, but the final choice is always ours to make. Therefore, I think it's much wiser to remind ourselves that His timing is perfect, He is good, kind, and generous, and if we don't have something we earnestly desire, there's a reason (or multiple reasons) for it. Rather than railing against it, we should look for lessons that we can learn during the waiting.

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If God isn't a cosmic tease, then why are we allowed to be alive on this planet and desiring something so bad that isn't really for us, with the implication that you will never ever be allowed to have it, even in paradise. Allowing somebody to have an existence of wanting something very much but not having it fulfilled sounds like teasing to me.

It isn't fair, it makes a lot of what you said above irrelevant.