I don't see how I will be able to enjoy Heaven.

So sorry to hear about your wife Daniel

Regarding Heaven, my sense is that from that vantage point you wouldn't simply be watching the horror-show of his suffering but instead would see the broader story that God has created for him, with it's ups and downs and God's continual hand in his life, and the commensurate rewards in the New Earth that will be his when you join him there. All in the same way that your own ancestors are in turn watching you now.

There is not one piece of pine straw the Lord did not take into account when laying the foundation of this world Daniel. How much more so then the passing of your wife, the care of your son, and your own mortality? One day you will see in full, and you will know as fragile as it all seems, it was always in the palm of His hands. My heart goes out to you tonight Daniel. Your son has a good father. But, you know what? You have a good heavenly Father too. You are in my prayers.

Daniel Peres said:

This is my dilemma. A little over three years ago my wife died from breast cancer. I desperately want to be with her in heaven. However, our only child, a teenage boy with autism needs me. Fortunately, he is high functioning, he can even drive a car, and he know how to use an iphone better than me. However, he is easily taken advantage of by evil people. I do everything I can to stay healthy, to live as long as possible. I cannot stand the thought of knowing one day I will die, and he will be on earth for about 40 more years without my protection. How will I be able to enjoy Heaven knowing my son is living without my guidance and protection? I live everyday knowing that this day will come, and it horrifies me. Any words of advice would be greatly appreciated.

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I have good news for you ... that can never happen.

God has arranged it so that you and your son and your wife all arrive at the same time no matter when each one of you dies in this world. In a moment in a split second each one of you will cross over and arrive at the same time... only an instant from the moment of your death.

According to the Bible

Start by reading 1 Thess 4:13-18 and John 11.
Then Eccl 9:5 Is 38:18

Phil 1:21 For to me, to live is Christ, and to die is gain. 22 But if I am to live on in the flesh, this will mean fruitful labor for me; and I do not know which to choose. 23 But I am hard-pressed from both directions, having the desire to depart and be with Christ, for that is very much better; 24 yet to remain on in the flesh is more necessary for your sakes. 25 Convinced of this, I know that I will remain and continue with you all for your progress and joy in the faith, 26 so that your pride in Christ Jesus may be abundant because of me by my coming to you again.

Well in heaven you won't give it another thought. In fact you will never have that thought. Why you ask? Because there you KNOW never once will you doubt He is taking care of it. Here we doubt worry fear but in heaven.. it can never happen.

Daniel Peres said:

my son is living without my guidance and protection?

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May I suggest that you research Christian supported living.
I have seen adverts for supported living in the states, so you have to find one that your son will be happy to live in and provide the financial support.
Whjen you find one publicise it in your community and start supporting it. Charities need constant finacial support.

Daniel Peres said:

This is my dilemma. A little over three years ago my wife died from breast cancer. I desperately want to be with her in heaven. However, our only child, a teenage boy with autism needs me. Fortunately, he is high functioning, he can even drive a car, and he know how to use an iphone better than me. However, he is easily taken advantage of by evil people. I do everything I can to stay healthy, to live as long as possible. I cannot stand the thought of knowing one day I will die, and he will be on earth for about 40 more years without my protection. How will I be able to enjoy Heaven knowing my son is living without my guidance and protection? I live everyday knowing that this day will come, and it horrifies me. Any words of advice would be greatly appreciated.

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I don't believe you will know what's going on on earth once you are in heaven. Is there any one in the family that would take over your guidance when you're gone?. I have a similar problem so i know your frustration and worry over it. Maybe a good friend would take over. You can appoint someone in your will. I hope it works out for you soon. It weighs heavily. I have no answer for mine. Someone said, trust in God that he will work it out.
Merry Christmas

Daniel Peres said:

his is my dilemma

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Daniel Peres said:

This is my dilemma. A little over three years ago my wife died from breast cancer. I desperately want to be with her in heaven. However, our only child, a teenage boy with autism needs me. Fortunately, he is high functioning, he can even drive a car, and he know how to use an iphone better than me. However, he is easily taken advantage of by evil people. I do everything I can to stay healthy, to live as long as possible. I cannot stand the thought of knowing one day I will die, and he will be on earth for about 40 more years without my protection. How will I be able to enjoy Heaven knowing my son is living without my guidance and protection? I live everyday knowing that this day will come, and it horrifies me. Any words of advice would be greatly appreciated.

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I have HFA. Have you tried coaching him regarding this? I'm sure there's lots of YouTube videos about how not to be taken advantage of. Probably some by people on the spectrum. He should also learn about those with narcissistic personally disorder, as it's easy for someone with autism to get get caught up in the web of a narcissist. Also there's an autism forum very similar to this one called christianforums.com where you might get some good advice.

sorry for the loss of your wife

I sometimes think like you do
we adopted our daughter from another country so in a way she is alone here w/o her people
praying I don't leave earth before she is married & I know someone will care for her

if I were in your situation, once your son is an adult, I would help him find a living situation with other roommates & oversight
help him become as independent as possible so you know he'll be okay

Daniel Peres said:

He receives a lot of ABA therapy, as well as guidance from me, and it helps a little. However, I compare Autism to my color-blindness. No matter how hard I try, I cannot see green, red, purple, orange, and other colors. My son cannot seem to fully grasp human behavior.

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I don't grasp human behavior very well either, but there's certain telltale things I've leaned to look out for. And when in doubt I ask someone. Just like you're asking people here. I'm a solitary person, but between relatives, people at church and people on the internet like this place, I'm not exactly all alone.

Brad D. said:

Your son has a good father. But, you know what? You have a good heavenly Father too. You are in my prayers.

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We do have to trust God that He has the situation under control. I have a friend with Parkinson's that married a girl from a third-world nation to take care of him. He is happy with the way things are going. She takes good care of him and also she has a good job so her income and life are better here in America than they would be in her country.

Daniel Peres said:

This is my dilemma. A little over three years ago my wife died from breast cancer. I desperately want to be with her in heaven. However, our only child, a teenage boy with autism needs me. Fortunately, he is high functioning, he can even drive a car, and he know how to use an iphone better than me. However, he is easily taken advantage of by evil people. I do everything I can to stay healthy, to live as long as possible. I cannot stand the thought of knowing one day I will die, and he will be on earth for about 40 more years without my protection. How will I be able to enjoy Heaven knowing my son is living without my guidance and protection? I live everyday knowing that this day will come, and it horrifies me. Any words of advice would be greatly appreciated.

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Certainly a valid concern. I would think a good church would be invaluable. Over the years he will develop relationships there, especially with people that are more understanding or are just more compatible. Autistic people can be difficult at times and it takes patience and not everyone has that patience. Thankfully you have lots of time for this preparation. If he is quite headstrong it can make things very difficult because when they are being scammed or lead astray they may not step back to get perspective and just steamroll ahead. Autism is challenging!