I am getting advice that I should marry "up", a man who will be a provider, who has already got a house and will be able to make me a SAHM when the time's right for kids... While financial provision is important to me in marriage, because I expect that the man I marry should be able to provide, what is most important to me is the will of God for the marriage. Also, I don't just depend on a man to provide for me because a man is only human. I first depend on God to provide for us and then I will depend on the man. As a Christian, since my faith is most important to me in this and I am getting secular advice, is this a good way of thinking? Am I realistic in my expectations?