Some of the things you state are correct …..but some are not…
Anything that is
not done decently an in order is certainly off…. and maybe worse.
I don’t know where your understanding comes from or how you have discerned the things you have…..but experiences good or bad are not a guarantee for truth….the only guarantee for truth, is truth, which as we know…. is the Word of God….but people will distort truth, and use the distortion to justify their action.
Your idea of tongues is way off… as is interpretation … Not saying it’s your fault …it seems to be the distortion you have been exposed to.
The manifestation of prophecy is for edification, exhortation, and comfort …as is the interpretation of tongues →which is given by the person speaking in tongues… not a separate interpreter. Nothing in a prophecy or interpretation will contradict the written Word…. and 99% of the time it is
forth-telling not
fore-telling. And if it is foretelling it is complementing what the Word of God states …. (The Gift ministry of a prophet (
Eph 4:11) is a bit different)
As far as being born again …………
God is the one who make the statement that by speaking in the spirit is your proof of being born again …You certainly may be born again (and many are) who do not speak in tongues.
It sounds like you have had some unkind experiences with Pentecostal or whatever ….I am not nor have I ever been associated with those, so I don’t know how they act and I am sure they are not all like what you have experienced. Although, I have run into some of what it appears you have experienced.
Don’t judge the Word of God by what people say or do …they could be right or they could be in left field…the only way to separate truth from error… is the Word.