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And people are too polite to say so?
I get interrupted a lot. Not just by one or two individuals, but by people in general. Somebody may cut me off in the middle of a sentence to talk about another topic, or something happens while I'm speaking that immediately demands their attention. Usually it's something that cannot be avoided, but not always. Sometimes I'm interrupted several times in a row while trying to speak the same sentence, and I never do get it out.
Just now, for reference, I was starting to tell my husband a funny story while he was cleaning his CPAP equipment. He noticed a leak in the hose, and while I was in the middle of a syllable, he said out loud, "Whoops, sprung a leak." Conversation then turned to how to replace the equipment, and I never did finish what I was saying.
To sum it up, this is a clinical and factual observation, based on actual testing.
Of course, if I ever point any of this out, or act frustrated to any degree at all that I can't get a word in, then whoever I'm talking to acts like I'm ridiculously self-centered. I'm taking it far too personally. After all, it's not THEIR fault that whatever happened at that moment to interrupt me, happened.
They tend to address only the individual incident. I'm looking at the pattern.
The conclusion I've come to is that I'm just boring and nobody wants to talk to me. I don't have anything to say that's worth hearing. As a good wife, my duty is to shut up and not try to have conversation with my husband.
What's a Christ-like way to deal with that fact?
I get interrupted a lot. Not just by one or two individuals, but by people in general. Somebody may cut me off in the middle of a sentence to talk about another topic, or something happens while I'm speaking that immediately demands their attention. Usually it's something that cannot be avoided, but not always. Sometimes I'm interrupted several times in a row while trying to speak the same sentence, and I never do get it out.
Just now, for reference, I was starting to tell my husband a funny story while he was cleaning his CPAP equipment. He noticed a leak in the hose, and while I was in the middle of a syllable, he said out loud, "Whoops, sprung a leak." Conversation then turned to how to replace the equipment, and I never did finish what I was saying.
To sum it up, this is a clinical and factual observation, based on actual testing.
- I tend to get interrupted more than other people do.
- It can be just about anybody on the other end of it, not merely a person who has a habit of interrupting.
- If I shut my mouth and stop talking, there is no, "I'm sorry; what were you saying?"
- If I then quietly walk away instead of resuming the conversation, NOBODY EVEN NOTICES.
Of course, if I ever point any of this out, or act frustrated to any degree at all that I can't get a word in, then whoever I'm talking to acts like I'm ridiculously self-centered. I'm taking it far too personally. After all, it's not THEIR fault that whatever happened at that moment to interrupt me, happened.
They tend to address only the individual incident. I'm looking at the pattern.
The conclusion I've come to is that I'm just boring and nobody wants to talk to me. I don't have anything to say that's worth hearing. As a good wife, my duty is to shut up and not try to have conversation with my husband.
What's a Christ-like way to deal with that fact?