your dream wedding

Mine's simple:

I want to elope.

That's so unromantic Two Feathers.

My ideal wedding is a small intamate wedding with just family and close friends. And I'd want it to be in a Chapel of somekind. There's a pretty one on campus, but I don't know if I would get married in Texas or Iowa. I want calla lilies and tulips in the flower arrangements. And if I got married in the winter I'd want a dark red to be the color, but if in the summer a light pink/peach color. I really want my mom to make the dresses for my bridesmaids and even my dress, but I don't know if she really would want to because she made the bridesmaid dresses for my brother's wedding last year, and it somewhat stressed her out.

Depending when I get married, say during college or after college, would make a difference when I'd get married during the day (because of costs, etc.) I was thinking it would be cool to have a late morning wedding and then just have cake, snacks, and punch/drinks after, because meals get expensive and no one really cares that much. But the reception was one of the best parts of my brother's wedding so maybe I'd like to have a evening wedding with a dance reception afterwards, I don't know. Those are some of my thoughts and you are right, Life in you, I think about it from time to time.

I want a huge, extravagent, traditional wedding, in an amazingly beautiful church, with the great windows and all that. And a beautiful white dress, my bridesmaids in pale blue. My groom and his men in black tuxes. Lots of people. Very expensive. All the women dressed in light blue, all the men in black/dark blue/dark grey suits. If everyone looks all different in the audience, it just makes everything look bad. Around 11, a big lunch for a reception, in a nice country club. A live band. I want to march to this really beautiful classical piece I found for one of my friend's weddings. I want all my bridesmaids to have the same dresses, and the same hairstyles. I want my friend Christian's dad to marry me, because he's an awesome man. Or my Pastor Mark. Or if one of my friend's is a minister by then, then maybe one of them.

I'll add more details later.

I don't want a dream wedding...I want a dream marriage.

Ahhh.. women! Good grief. Expensive, all out.. how is that romantic? It's always a headache for the guy, who really doesn't care. I think if the two people involved are in love, a small inexpensive wedding is not only God honoring (wise use of money) but can be extremely romantic if the people involved truly love each other with biblical love. No offense, but I think it's sad when young girls already know the details of their wedding before they even meet their future spouse.

My girlfriends room mate just met a guy 2 months ago and she's got all the wedding plans in her mind, and they even both started talking about baby names. It's truly sad. God wants us to focus on the present. To think about all this stuff now is a waste of time because more often than not it's not going to turn out that way, if in fact it turns out at all.

Not trying to ruin your girlie fun, but, realistically speaking.. focus on God now, let the little details come to pass if and when the time comes.

More details on the above one later...but my other dream wedding:

Very simple. April. In this beautiful park in Hot Springs, Arkansas. White folding, wooden chairs. Either one of those white, picket fence kind of arbors...or a chuppah to stand under. A very simple white dress. I can totally see it in my mind. It's like my sister's prom dress, but white. And for music, a few particular friends playing guitars as we walk. Me barefoot. The reception really simple. Punch and cake, outside under a white tent. Very little make-up. Hair really simply done. Soft curls.

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My ideal wedding would be me at home watching rugby while the service is on. When it comes to the bits where I have to say ID and all that, the Best Man can call me on his Cellphone and he can pass on my "I Do" and "I will" stuff, like at an auction.

After that, some fish & chips down the local Harry Ramsden's or steak and chips down the M4 motorway services off the Penllergaer junction. Anybody who wants can come, but they pay for their own grub. Simple.

Then off to honeymoon somewhere nice.

How does that sound? Any takers?

My dream wedding would be simple but elegant. Small,, just good friends and family. Will be traditional as well. Not sure if i want it in a church, park or beach... it will depend who i marry. I see a beautiful day, i don't have the details worked out, but i know i want it to be beautiful!!! But most of all incredibly romantic!!
It will also depend on my fiance and what he wants!!

Yesterday at 05:53 PM rach said this in Post #4

That's so unromantic Two Feathers.

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Not so, rach.

I see escaping to a far off place, to marry the one you love, as being terribly romantic.

Now, spending two years paying off debts procurred by a needlessly extravagant wedding...How romantic is that?

True, I totally understand how an expensive wedding can be a big problem, especially since it's just the start of all these new bills to pay, but I'd still rather plan a wedding in a church. I would make sure I didn't spend an incredible amount. I just want a simple and small wedding. And it will be perfect because it will be the start of a new life. I know someone said that they want a dream marriage, not a dream wedding and I do too, I just want it to start with a pretty wedding.

And just for the record, my desires may and probably will change when I plan my actual wedding with my fiance. It's just fun as girls to think about it. We of course always have to remember that our dreams will only become reality if it's God's will. Sorry if I made anyone think otherwise in my other post.

And Two Feathers, I guess it would be pretty romantic and save from planning headaches, but being a girl I'd rather have a pretty wedding with family and close friends there.

if i do decide to get married afterall, which would be after much persuasion from God it would be very simple, me , the luck guy and a priest, oh so romantic, i know , i guess i am not like most females, i dont want to go mushy over wedding clothes and brides maid and who should seat next to who and wedding gifts and all that. no offense or anything, i admire people that want to go through all that, but its just one day and then its gone, like that!

Here's my dream wedding:

* It'll be in a church with a really long aisle. Tons of flowers everywhere.
* My bridal march song will be Pachelbel's Kanon in D. My entourage will walk either to Bach's Jesu, Joy's of Man's Desiring or Air on the 'G' string. Songs to be performed by a string quartet.
* Everyone I love will be there, which basically means hundreds of people. This is really important to me since majority of my friends are non-Cs. I sort of wanna use my wedding as a way to evangelize to them.
* I want my reception to be underneath the stars. Huge tent, lots of candles.
* Josh Groban will sing all of his songs during the reception.

Remember, the operative word here is dream, which to me, is synonymous to unrealistic. A girl can dream, can't she?

I agree with SoldierofChrist on this-
" ... focus on God now, let the little details come to pass if and when the time comes."

James 4:13-15
Now listen, you who say, "Today or tomorrow we will go to this or that city, spend a year there, carry on business and make money."
14Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes.
15Instead, you ought to say, "If it is the Lord's will, we will live and do this or that."

Well it all depends on my fiancee!

I ask only one thing at my wedding.  I ask that our first dance will be to the song "Folks who live on the Hill" performed Diana Krall style.  If you've heard the song, you will know what i'm talking about.  However, I'll need to persuade the Mrs. to-be of course   She might have something else in mind.

Conceived in Fire has the right idea - if you place too much focus on the wedding, you might experience post-honeymoon depression, and it creates an awkward transition because more focus is placed ont eh wedding than the marriage. Just something to keep in mind, especially when fantasizing about weddings and such.

I see nothing wrong with dreaming of how your wedding will be, SO long as you don't let it become an obsession in your life. Don't let it be the main focus of your life. Always focus on God. But it doesn't hurt anything to dream a little. I think it is something that almost everybody thinks about once in while, but remember don't let it become the focus of your life, that focus should be on our Most Heavenly Father

With that said, I think I would like a small wedding maybe out in a field or in the mountains with just a small gathering of friends and family

Anna