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It took me a long time to understand that having many sexual partners was not a good thing. I had many in the past. Now I understand that when you do that, you join them physically, but also emotionally and spiritually, and they take away a piece of you, so you never become what God intended you to be.
God has blessed me with a new start. A good Christian man. I have been married for 4 years now. I remarried at 49 yrs old. I am grateful for this new opportunity. I try to live a God pleasing life, in spite of all the problems I have to face.
But I regret my past.
There is no way for me to make amends for my past? Is there a way to get back what I lost because of my bad choices?
Is there a possibility that I still become what God meant me to be?
Even now?
 

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It took me a long time to understand that having many sexual partners was not a good thing. I had many in the past. Now I understand that when you do that, you join them physically, but also emotionally and spiritually, and they take away a piece of you, so you never become what God intended you to be.
God has blessed me with a new start. A good Christian man. I have been married for 4 years now. I remarried at 49 yrs old. I am grateful for this new opportunity. I try to live a God pleasing life, in spite of all the problems I have to face.
But I regret my past.
There is no way for me to make amends for my past? Is there a way to get back what I lost because of my bad choices?
Is there a possibility that I still become what God meant me to be?
Even now?

In the Bible - Rahab is mentioned as "Rahab the prostitute" or "Rahab the harlot" - yet she is the ancestor of Christ. Though past sins can be a psychological burden they need not be a wound that never heals since the Gospel brings spiritual healing. Look to Jesus. Stay in the Word.

Satan's plan is for you to relive the past in regret - God's will is for a complete "new creation" 2 Cor 5 - "if anyone is in Christ he/she is a new creation old things past away - all things become new".

Paul said "I am the chief of sinners" - his crime included getting Christians put in jail and killed for their faith. And even getting some to renounce their faith.

As much as you may think you are in the big-leagues of sin - Paul as Saul shows just how much God does forgive.
 
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It took me a long time to understand that having many sexual partners was not a good thing. I had many in the past. Now I understand that when you do that, you join them physically, but also emotionally and spiritually, and they take away a piece of you, so you never become what God intended you to be.
God has blessed me with a new start. A good Christian man. I have been married for 4 years now. I remarried at 49 yrs old. I am grateful for this new opportunity. I try to live a God pleasing life, in spite of all the problems I have to face.
But I regret my past.
There is no way for me to make amends for my past? Is there a way to get back what I lost because of my bad choices?
Is there a possibility that I still become what God meant me to be?
Even now?
Absolutely there is every chance!
This is what being reborn in Christ is all about!
God sees our heart, and He forgives. Then He cradles us to Himself, carrying us to where we should be, and teaches us gently the lessons that we need to know, in order to live a life that is good and pleasing.
All of this takes time, because we also need to learn how to trust Him, and to follow Him.
But it is His delight to see us grow into what He wants, and to do so with wisdom, kindness, charity for others, and obedience to Him.
It sounds like you are on that pathway already!
 
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they take away a piece of you, so you never become what God intended you to be.

Oh? They took pieces of you but you did not take pieces of them? I doubt that.
All the same, Christianity is about handing over whatever pieces you have to Christ, and getting them back as Christ.

Is there a way to get back what I lost

No, trust me, if there was a way I would have found it.
And you don't want to waste the time trying
Something entirely new is being offered
To a person who is entirely new
Rejoice and be glad in it
 
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Both David and Moses were murderers. We are all sinful. It is the opportunity to become a new creation in Christ that often brings us to both humility and gratitude.

One of Jesus's ancestors was a prostitute (Rahab).

There is none so damaged as cannot be made new in Christ.

It may not be healthy to dwell on your past. You certainly don't want to bring it up with your husband. Simply look to the future and the life you and your husband can grow in the Lord.
 
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It took me a long time to understand that having many sexual partners was not a good thing. I had many in the past. Now I understand that when you do that, you join them physically, but also emotionally and spiritually, and they take away a piece of you, so you never become what God intended you to be.
God has blessed me with a new start. A good Christian man. I have been married for 4 years now. I remarried at 49 yrs old. I am grateful for this new opportunity. I try to live a God pleasing life, in spite of all the problems I have to face.
But I regret my past.
There is no way for me to make amends for my past? Is there a way to get back what I lost because of my bad choices?
Is there a possibility that I still become what God meant me to be?
Even now?
You ARE what God meant you to be. This is not about you —it is about Christ.

No, you can't go back, and God never intended you to. You are the result of all that has happened, and a lot more that is yet to happen. He is turning you into the specific member of the Bride of Christ, that he intended all along.

Pursue Christ, love him with all your being. Look at him.
 
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It took me a long time to understand that having many sexual partners was not a good thing. I had many in the past. Now I understand that when you do that, you join them physically, but also emotionally and spiritually, and they take away a piece of you, so you never become what God intended you to be.
God has blessed me with a new start. A good Christian man. I have been married for 4 years now. I remarried at 49 yrs old. I am grateful for this new opportunity. I try to live a God pleasing life, in spite of all the problems I have to face.
But I regret my past.
There is no way for me to make amends for my past? Is there a way to get back what I lost because of my bad choices?
Is there a possibility that I still become what God meant me to be?
Even now?

You have become a new creation in Christ ... embrase that. Let the past go.

Every day is a new day with the Lord ... we will mess up here and there ... we fall down ... but He is always there to pick us up .... we just need to be willing to keep getting up.

Dwelling on the past serves no good purpose.

You are His work in progress ... and this continues throughout your lifetime .... He will indeed finish His work.

Philippians 1:6

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I am convinced and confident of this very thing, that He who has begun a good work in you will [continue to] perfect and complete it until the day of Christ Jesus [the time of His return].

Believe it and walk with Him.
 
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It took me a long time to understand that having many sexual partners was not a good thing. I had many in the past. Now I understand that when you do that, you join them physically, but also emotionally and spiritually, and they take away a piece of you, so you never become what God intended you to be.
God has blessed me with a new start. A good Christian man. I have been married for 4 years now. I remarried at 49 yrs old. I am grateful for this new opportunity. I try to live a God pleasing life, in spite of all the problems I have to face.
But I regret my past.

There is no way for me to make amends for my past? Is there a way to get back what I lost because of my bad choices?
That's not explicitly promised in Scripture for this life. Maybe you get some blessings in this area on top of what is guaranteed, maybe you don't. If you repented, you are forgiven though.

Is there a possibility that I still become what God meant me to be?
Even now?
Sure. The main event for what God ultimately means us to be is Heaven, because none of us will be finished products until Heaven. In the meantime, everyone has a calling:

"For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them." - Ephesians 2:10

God made us new creations when we became Christians. This new self is to grow, and the new person has good works to do in this life. Find your good works, keep an eye out for the opportunities to do them, and step up when they come up.
 
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