Hi
@ButterflyJA
Just wanted to clarify something as I understand the Scriptures. I don't believe that Jesus ever gave approval of divorce. The Scriptures are fairly clear that God hates divorce and I honestly can't imagine Jesus giving approval of something that he knows his Father hates.
In reading the words of Jesus concerning divorce, what he seems to be saying is that whether or not one is considered an adulterer depends on whether or not they were unfaithful to their marriage vows as regards sexual relations. His comment is that in the case of one spouse committing adultery before any divorce, then that person has already identified themselves as an adulterer. But he is making clear that in all other cases, then it is the charge and action of the divorce, that makes the other spouse an adulterer. In fact, when Jesus, in explaining to Israel that Moses did give them a law by which they could divorce an unfaithful spouse, he made it clear that Moses did that because their hearts were hard. So, I think it should be pointed out that even if we do believe that Jesus approved of divorce as regards an unfaithful spouse...it's because the one who seeks the divorce has a hard heart.
So, I don't really subscribe to the thinking that God sees divorce as OK if a spouse has committed adultery. That's just another sin for which God expects His children to forgive, and of course, also makes even more important that we make sure that a marriage candidate is also a 'born again' believer and not just a hanger on of the faith. Many of us, myself included, are not very careful about weighing a prospective spouses faithfulness to God. Many of us were not even of God ourselves when we got married, which Paul addresses. Which often culminates in situations such as yours.
God bless,
Ted