- Feb 2, 2020
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- Country
- United States
- Faith
- Christian
- Marital Status
- Divorced
My mother is 94 years old. She recently told me I was trash and had brought shame on the family. I have an older brother and younger sister. My sister has minimal contact with her even though she lives 2 minutes from mother. I am the major caregiver. Mother has not been able to drive for the last 5 years. I take her to appointments, the bookstore, grocery, etc. I spend between 2 1/2 and 4 hours per week with her. My mother has given a lot of her valuables to my brother, sister and grandchildren. She begrudgingly has given me a few inexpensive items. Sometimes I feel like a fool. It is like I am a glutton for punishment. How can she, in good conscience, accept my help and treat me this way? Sure, I have made mistakes. My mother purports to be a good, Christian woman. I am exhausted. I had surgery on Monday and Mother started feeling ill on Friday so I sat in the waiting room for 3 hours with her. I have visited her each day. Tomorrow, I have to rest. She thinks I should let her move in with me. I am helping her because Jesus would want me too. I wonder why a mother sometimes chooses a child to abuse. I feel guilty for being hurt that she does not wish to give me any of her jewelry or nice things. I remind myself that those things pass away. I am not sure why my siblings do not seem to care how I feel. Does anyone have any idea why this is happening and how can I carry on and keep quiet about it? She has always been verbally and emotionally abusive to me.