Matthew 5:23-24, Repent before Forgiveness.
Matthew 6:14-15 For if ye forgive men their trespasses,
your heavenly Father will also forgive you:
But if ye forgive not men their trespasses,
neither will your Father
forgive your trespasses.
Matthew 18:33-35 Shouldest not thou also have had compassion
on thy fellowservant, even as I had pity on thee?
And his lord was wroth, and delivered him to the tormentors,
till he should pay all that was due unto him.
So likewise shall My heavenly Father do also unto you,
if ye from your hearts forgive not every one his brother their trespasses.
"Forgiveness does not mean the instant restoration of trust. Forgiveness is instant. Trust must be rebuilt over time. Forgiveness is based on grace. Trust is built on works."
You Can Forgive Before You Trust - Pastor Rick's Daily Hope (I don't agree with all of this page.)
"... These times are so uncertain,
There's a yearning undefined
And people filled with rage,
We all need a little tenderness
How can love survive
in such a graceless age
The trust and self-assurance that lead to happiness
They're the very things we kill, I guess
Pride and competition cannot fill these empty arms
And the work I put between us,
You know it doesn't keep me warm
I'm learning to live without you now,
But I miss you, baby
The more I know, the less I understand
All the things I thought I figured out, I have to learn again
I've been trying to get down to the heart of the matter
But everything changes,
And my friends seem to scatter
But I think it's about forgiveness,
Forgiveness
Even if, even if you don't love me anymore..."
--Don Henley, The Heart Of The Matter
Pride and Competition /\ ... leading to selfishness and revenge \/:
"others can’t bring themselves to forgive as they don’t feel that it brings them any relief."
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/disturbed/201208/why-you-dont-always-have-forgive
Forgiveness is an act of love, done for those who repent. If they repent, and keep repenting, their minds will change their actions.
What happens when someone repents, and the other only pretends to forgive... because they keep bringing up the forgiven action which was never repeated?