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There has been an active post elsewhere on the forums about "Purity Culture." Purity Culture, at it's worse, is believed to be where women are encouraged to remain abstinent until marriage and if they don't do that then they are told that they are worthless in the eyes of God and man. At it's best, it's simply encouraging both sexes to remain pure until marriage as sex is meant as a gift from God in a marriage between one man and one woman and the Bible forbids in multiple areas pre-marital sex.
However, one thing I've noticed is that popular culture and secular society seem to believe that this is stressed only to females but not males. That males are told to do whatever they want because boys will be boys.
Personally, this was not my experience in church. I'd say about 75% of all interactions in small group discussions, whether as a teen or now, and youth group in general was addressing lust and thereby purity as well, whether it be in a small male-only setting or a youth group sermon, it was always made clear that the commands from God to remain pure is not only for females but for males as well.
I hypothesize that this was for two reasons:
1. Males aren't as open as women about what they discuss or their struggles or anything. Therefore, what is said in small group stays in small group...especially as teens. Come home from youth group, mom asks, "How was church?" "Oh it was fine." "Oh yeah, what did you talk about." "I dunno, church stuff." Therefore, it shouldn't be all that well known or obvious how often we do talk about purity and sexual temptation.
2. We do tend to overemphasize modesty to women only, and modesty and purity goes hand in hand. That, however, is because the Bible does only tend to address modest dress towards women, but the reason for this is a simple one. Males, historically, don't really dress provocatively...that's never been the male style. However, even in this times are changing, what with thirst traps on TikTok, sexting, skinny jeans, and whatnot. Therefore, I do believe that there is room for change in that and I do know that especially when it comes to sexting, that change is happening in discussions.
My ultimate question for the men and youth is, how often did or do you talk about sexual temptation and purity in your small group/men's group/youth group interactions?
However, one thing I've noticed is that popular culture and secular society seem to believe that this is stressed only to females but not males. That males are told to do whatever they want because boys will be boys.
Personally, this was not my experience in church. I'd say about 75% of all interactions in small group discussions, whether as a teen or now, and youth group in general was addressing lust and thereby purity as well, whether it be in a small male-only setting or a youth group sermon, it was always made clear that the commands from God to remain pure is not only for females but for males as well.
I hypothesize that this was for two reasons:
1. Males aren't as open as women about what they discuss or their struggles or anything. Therefore, what is said in small group stays in small group...especially as teens. Come home from youth group, mom asks, "How was church?" "Oh it was fine." "Oh yeah, what did you talk about." "I dunno, church stuff." Therefore, it shouldn't be all that well known or obvious how often we do talk about purity and sexual temptation.
2. We do tend to overemphasize modesty to women only, and modesty and purity goes hand in hand. That, however, is because the Bible does only tend to address modest dress towards women, but the reason for this is a simple one. Males, historically, don't really dress provocatively...that's never been the male style. However, even in this times are changing, what with thirst traps on TikTok, sexting, skinny jeans, and whatnot. Therefore, I do believe that there is room for change in that and I do know that especially when it comes to sexting, that change is happening in discussions.
My ultimate question for the men and youth is, how often did or do you talk about sexual temptation and purity in your small group/men's group/youth group interactions?