- Apr 13, 2017
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Hoping for some prayers. Maybe some advice. The past few yrs ive developed tremendous social anxiety and depression. It has messed me up and messed with my head in many ways. Ive lost most of my friends and other than my gf i dont really have any close friends anymore at all. When friends do text and wanna hang out i immediately make an excuse not to go as i know im just not the fun, goofy, great guy to be around i once was.
Today i attended the funeral of a relative. Great uncle. I feel like i said the wrong things to those in his immediate family and was overly shy. I saw one of my second cousins whom i grew up with as kids (we r 40 now) and would occasionally see each other at family reunions thro the years etc and other than basically saying sorry for your loss i just didnt know what to say to her. I had opportunity at gravesite to go and talk some more but was too shy to do it and felt like i went out of my way to avoid getting into a conversation with many of my distant relatives for fear i would say something dumb or just act shy. So i missed an opportunity to catch up with someone i would have liked to catch up with. In fact im almost worried i seemed like a jerk or a snob or whatever. That really bothered me today and made me see just how bad this has gotten.
Also - being 40 now almost 41. Things have not really panned out in my life the way i expected. Instead of paving my own path and being successful ive just stayed employed at family business where im basically doing the same thing ive done since i was a teenager. Ive watched all my siblings move off to big nice towns and big nice homes and good jobs and all i am doing is the family business and renting a small old house in a small old lonely town. And all my siblings r younger. All my friends have hit it big and moved to the top of their jobs. All building new big homes and have families and everything going great. While i still feel like a teenager who just moved out of his parents house or something.
My relationship with God has been off and on. Ive almost gotten to where i feel God gave up on me im too selfish, narcissistic,worldly. Im unsure if He even hears my prayers at all as i am unsure if he has truly answered any or spoke to me in any way. Part of me questions my belief and sometimes i even question our whole existence if its all even real or just some weird simulation or something we cant comprehend. I got caught up in doom and gloom prophecies by all these youtube folk ever since last year and i just feel numb to everything now as everyone was date setting this or that and things didnt happen the way any of them said. So after that its basically hard to trust anyone at all who calls themself a prophet or teacher or even pastor.
Ive got to fix my life things hav got to change for me. Ive been like this awhile now but ive just gotten worse and days and years go by and im just completely stuck. I feel if i died not many would be at my funeral. And probably no one would say anything good about me as ive not really helped anyone. Or impacted anyone in any way or done anything worth mentioning at all. I dont know why im even here what is my purpose? I bring nothing good to anyone. Ive qccomplished absolutely nothing. Ill be 41 soon and i have no children. I just dont know what to do. Even my gf when we fight tells me im always just wanting to be alone and im selfish and im gonna end up dying alone. I pray and ask God for help to get me on the right path but He wont answer me. Im sorry this is long guys i just have no one to talk to about this.
Today i attended the funeral of a relative. Great uncle. I feel like i said the wrong things to those in his immediate family and was overly shy. I saw one of my second cousins whom i grew up with as kids (we r 40 now) and would occasionally see each other at family reunions thro the years etc and other than basically saying sorry for your loss i just didnt know what to say to her. I had opportunity at gravesite to go and talk some more but was too shy to do it and felt like i went out of my way to avoid getting into a conversation with many of my distant relatives for fear i would say something dumb or just act shy. So i missed an opportunity to catch up with someone i would have liked to catch up with. In fact im almost worried i seemed like a jerk or a snob or whatever. That really bothered me today and made me see just how bad this has gotten.
Also - being 40 now almost 41. Things have not really panned out in my life the way i expected. Instead of paving my own path and being successful ive just stayed employed at family business where im basically doing the same thing ive done since i was a teenager. Ive watched all my siblings move off to big nice towns and big nice homes and good jobs and all i am doing is the family business and renting a small old house in a small old lonely town. And all my siblings r younger. All my friends have hit it big and moved to the top of their jobs. All building new big homes and have families and everything going great. While i still feel like a teenager who just moved out of his parents house or something.
My relationship with God has been off and on. Ive almost gotten to where i feel God gave up on me im too selfish, narcissistic,worldly. Im unsure if He even hears my prayers at all as i am unsure if he has truly answered any or spoke to me in any way. Part of me questions my belief and sometimes i even question our whole existence if its all even real or just some weird simulation or something we cant comprehend. I got caught up in doom and gloom prophecies by all these youtube folk ever since last year and i just feel numb to everything now as everyone was date setting this or that and things didnt happen the way any of them said. So after that its basically hard to trust anyone at all who calls themself a prophet or teacher or even pastor.
Ive got to fix my life things hav got to change for me. Ive been like this awhile now but ive just gotten worse and days and years go by and im just completely stuck. I feel if i died not many would be at my funeral. And probably no one would say anything good about me as ive not really helped anyone. Or impacted anyone in any way or done anything worth mentioning at all. I dont know why im even here what is my purpose? I bring nothing good to anyone. Ive qccomplished absolutely nothing. Ill be 41 soon and i have no children. I just dont know what to do. Even my gf when we fight tells me im always just wanting to be alone and im selfish and im gonna end up dying alone. I pray and ask God for help to get me on the right path but He wont answer me. Im sorry this is long guys i just have no one to talk to about this.