Hi! Of course I know that. And I do not mean any conscious intent on your part to do so. Though when we as parents order our children to do things, we usually try to put it in the form of a "request" even if there's nothing optional about it - we want our will complied with with a maximum sense of willingness on the part of others. So willy-nilly there IS an attempt to soften the blow built into the language usage regardless of intent.
I think we can find any number of leaders in the Church who have followers who act fanatically and/or out of pride, sometimes grossly and obviously, sometimes subtly so. Whether that can be attributed to the leader or hierarch really depends.
But when you say "I love to dissect each and every word". you touch on a truth, though your expression seems to suggest that choice of words doesn't matter much, and that all ought to be able to divine your intent regardless of how you put things. I am a word smith, a language guy. I have to teach language at its root level almost every day, professionally. So yes, I am something of an authority on language, just as the mechanic is an authority on automobiles. I do reflexively what my job requires, and I am often forced to think deeper and further than the native speaker who is merely a user rather than a smith, or programmer, if you will, of his language. Most of you never think about how you say what you say. Native speakers spit out whatever's on their minds automatically. It is the teacher of his own language as a foreign one that can see that things are not so simple, that has encountered hundreds and thousands of misunderstandings and interference from an L2 (2nd language). And I have learned that words and word choice matter very much - Leftists understand this; thus their insistence on "politically correct" language. If the good guys understood that better, they would not cede the territory so quickly. Nobody would be using the filthy lying modern language of sexual relations that they actually do, even the most pious believers. No one would be saying "have sex", "sleep with", "be gay", speak of one's sex as one's "gender", of "boyfriends" and "girlfriends" who are neither children nor merely friends. Wickedness would lie bare as wicked, revealed by the language itself.
So yes, I do dissect words and will continue to do so, not as a mere matter of enjoyment, but because I think it helps us get at the truth better. I commend to you the idea of "precision of speech", something beaten into CS Lewis's head by "The Great Knock", his Scottish atheist tutor Kirkpatrick, and of which Chesterton was one of the world's greatest virtuosos. It's a challenge, but if you're ever up to it, Hilaire Belloc wrote a fabulous essay after GK's death, in which precision of speech was one of the six points he laid out. (It's the second point)
http://www.gkc.org.uk/gkc/Belloc-essay.txt