ABUSE? WHAT ABUSE?

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The Catholic Church in France is reeling with a report that over the last sixty or seventy years tens of thousands have been abused by priests, nuns and religious.

The response, of course, is one of shock, dismay and horror. We condemn all forms of abuse–especially sexual abuse of minors.

However, it is fair to ask what the researchers consider to be “abuse”. It is not an attempt to downplay or dismiss the abuse claims in the least, but in the quest for truth, transparency, clarity and justice it is right to ask what, exactly, this abuse consists of.

Here’s why I ask: it is now a commonplace to throw around the word “abuse” like it is to use the word “affair” for adultery.

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https://dwightlongenecker.com/abuse-what-abuse/
 

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I think one issue here is how language changes. In the media, “sexual assault” is a term used to describe everything from being grabbed rudely to rape. Those are two wholly different set of experiences, yet both are described with the same phrase. “Sexual harassment” can be verbal, written (crude text messages), physical, and can include vulgar gestures and in some definitions, staring or ogling.

Maybe it would help to be more specific in describing what was done, and how that effected the person on the receiving end of the concerning behavior?
 
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It’s turned into a blanket term. From the article:


Is sexual abuse whatever the victim perceives? I heard about one priest who was charged with sexual abuse because a boys’ mother said she didn’t like the way the priest looked at her son.

When I served as a High School chaplain a student came to me complaining that her parents abused her. I took the claim seriously and worried about it, but when I asked for more details it turned out that the girls’ mother would yell at her to clean up her room. Was that abuse? The girl perceived it as abuse–so what do we do with a claim like that?

I came across a middle aged man who complained that he was abused by a Catholic priest when he was a boy. The crime? The priest told him he couldn’t wear his sneakers to serve as an altar boy. Was that abuse?

I am not attempting to dismiss abuse claims or gaslight victims. I am proposing that claims of abuse should be taken seriously and part of taking them seriously is to ask all relevant questions to find out what really happened so that victims can receive proper support and perpetrators proper punishment…and that those who are innocent of any real crime will also find justice.
 
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I think in this particular case the word "abuse" is accurate. The commission which investigated the claims was set up by French Catholic Bishops.

https://www.voanews.com/a/pope-fran...-to-protect-child-abuse-victims-/6259693.html

The independent commission was set up by French bishops in 2018. Investigators went through court, police and Church records and interviewed thousands of victims and witnesses. The findings, which were published Monday, revealed that at least 216,000 children, mostly boys, were abused by up to 3,200 priests and other clerics since 1950. When lay members of the Church are included, the number of victims is estimated at 330,000.

The French commission follows similar investigations in other countries, including the United States and Australia. Pope Francis has described sexual abuse within the Catholic Church as a "worldwide catastrophe."

We had a commission in Australia and the Catholic Church wasn't the only institution investigated. It was a wide ranging commission, and quite a few other organisations were investigated including the Scouts, Jehovah's Witnesses, YMCA NSW, Salvation Army, Grammar Schools and the Australian Defence Force, amongst others.

The abuse happened. I shared digs with a chap for a while and he had been through a place called the Enoggera Boy's Home. At one point there was a pedophile on the staff, who was named in the commission. It didn't mean much to me as I didn't go through it, but I remember the other chap naming the pedophile years before the commission became a reality.

It was Anglican incidentally, not Catholic.
 
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