Yes.
Jesus knew before Judas knew. Jesus also knew Judas didn't have to betray Him. (But then, someone else would have or something else would have happened. "If" stuff gets real complicated.)
However Cheryl (my lovely bride's name, by the way), that really does not address your concern.
In post #22 you presented some scriptures asking essentially "...what about this:"
I'm going to go the short route and see if it helps any. I suppose the long route is available if needed.
When Jesus told us to forgive, He meant it. However, an integral part of forgiving is repentance on the part of the offender. That's why not all are saved, even though Jesus died for all.
If your friend who betrayed your secrets confessed the misdeeds and asked for your forgiveness, you are obliged to forgive. Even seventy times seven. If that's the way the friend does business, you are a dope to tell any more secrets, what?
One of the things Jesus gave us all is a brain. He expects us to use it.
The passage about being struck on the cheek?
To be struck on the right cheek (presumably by a right handed person) is a back hand blow. This is not a punch, this is a slap. It is more in the nature of an insult than a physical assault.
In other passages, (Matthew 12:29 and Mark 3:27) Jesus talks about a man robbing a house. The tone and wording make it plain that Jesus spoke of home defense (the strong man) as a normal and expected action. Then of course, He warned His disciples (Luke 22:36) of coming times when a sword (pistol?, assault rifle?) would be more valuable than a coat.
The command is about insults, not self defense.
The extra mile? What Jesus says is do a proper job and then some. A subject of Rome could be conscripted to carry a soldier's pack for one mile. Jesus is saying, do what you are obliged to do and then give some extra. It is a way of addressing life in general, if you think about it.
About lending and giving. Don't be stingy. (Duh.) When you give with a cheerful heart because the love of God compels you, you are blessed. Maybe not with "stuff", but you are blessed. Now if you give because you think God will "owe" you something, you are wrong. If you give to impress the neighbors or the church, you have your reward in hand, the applause from those who saw you.
Taking up crosses and drinking cups.
Follow God. Obey God. Be where He wants you to be, doing what He wants you to do. It does not mean being miserable (not required, anyway), but being faithful. It's a long story, but one of the most fun work days I've ever had was tearing up a landing strip with about 10 other Marines on a hot August day at MCAS El Toro. Rotten job. Good day.
Like I said, this is the short version. When Jesus said give, He meant give. He meant forgive. He meant don't be easy to offend.
He never meant any of us to be a sucker or victim.
Does this make any sense?
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There ain't no free lunch. Except Jesus.
Archie