What do you find attractive about the opposite sex?

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Moustache. Having kind and chilled/easygoing vibes.

Nice to see a woman appreciate some facial hair.

I have read a study that women tend to find beards attractive and masculine, despite personally hearing many women say otherwise. Which I would find bizarre if most women didn't find it attractive on some level, given it's a natural feature for most men. Also given it probably evolved as a sexual signal of maturity, and in my opinion also as a response to an increasingly neotenous evolution of humanity through the generations.

Plenty of men feel like they have to sport a beard, in order to hide weak chins and jawlines. The features of a masculine men are just not as common as the features of a feminine women. Beards are nature's makeup.. lol.
 
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Plenty of men feel like they have to sport a beard, in order to hide weak chins and jawlines. The features of a masculine men are just not as common as the features of a feminine women. Beards are nature's makeup.. lol.

Stop spilling our secrets, man! Geez!
 
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Nice to see a woman appreciate some facial hair.

I have read a study that women tend to find beards attractive and masculine, despite personally hearing many women say otherwise. Which I would find bizarre if most women didn't find it attractive on some level, given it's a natural feature for most men. Also given it probably evolved as a sexual signal of maturity, and in my opinion also as a response to an increasingly neotenous evolution of humanity through the generations.

Plenty of men feel like they have to sport a beard, in order to hide weak chins and jawlines. The features of a masculine men are just not as common as the features of a feminine women. Beards are nature's makeup.. lol.

I don’t care much about beard but moustache, I mean come on. Especially if man is taking good care that they look nice. What is better than that? Don’t waste your time in gym :D

Stop spilling our secrets, man! Geez!

Someone’s gotta do it there is too many women out there spilling our secrets!:eek:
 
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Being a chauvinistic male, the first thing I notice is a lady's appearance. I'll stop there for myself ...

I'm not the only one. I've got a DVD featuring Bishop Fulton Sheen. In one chapter he said he was talking to an air hostess on a flight somewhere. She asked him what she could do and he suggested she go to a leper colony so the people there could see what real beauty was like. I'm not sure if I agree with his logic, but that was his suggestion.

He said "She was gorgeous!' Then he added with a grin "We can look, but we can't touch!"

He was a bishop. It looks like us chauvinistic males share a common weakness with the church hierarchy - well, some of them anyway.
 
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Being a chauvinistic male, the first thing I notice is a lady's appearance.
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(If you are smitten with her, you might notice her disappearance, too...! ;))
 
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Being a chauvinistic male, the first thing I notice is a lady's appearance. I'll stop there for myself ...

I wouldn't feel bad about it (if you are), it's just how humans are hardwired.

Physical appearance matters a lot even beyond the romantic and sexual. Attractive people have a halo effect and are generally treated better and are assumed to have more positive qualities compared to average and especially ugly people. Even going as far as receiving more lenient sentencing when it comes to crime. While we should be mindful of this and to an extent curb this behavior at the end of the day it is a deeply ingrained aspect of humanity that is not going away and for mental health sake we should make some peace with this.
 
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Being submissive

I agree with you on this one. A submissive woman can give off a powerful feminine aroma.

I do feel uneasy and guilt ridden about these attractions though, even more so than my attraction to women in pain. My childhood was diverse. I like to say I grew up in a conservative home and a liberal public education system. My exposure was to both sides of the coin, and I always favored towards liberalism as a child and teenager.. especially when considering men and women.

Saying this, I have experienced a lot of phoniness from both the conservative and the liberal side. From my observance of many conservative relationships I grew up around the man was leading and the woman was following on paper and in public appearances but from behind the scenes the relationships was much more egalitarian. Often going the other way around where the woman was ultimately bossing the man around. The man "decided" only if the woman agreed.. and often times the man just gave into whatever the woman wanted. It would only be presented to others as the man's "decision". I believe this charade was done in order for the man to feel "masculine" and the woman "feminine". The relationship usually ended with the man slaving away at work all day while the woman was being lazy around the house doing the "hard" work of watching the kids.. and nothing would change even when the kids became older and no longer had to be watched over.

I never want to end up in a spot like that.

On the liberal side you have feminism where equality and the strong and capable women are desires on paper and idealized in media representation, but the reality often boils down to the woman acting like a hyper victim and the man taking on more and more accountability. This dynamic doesn't scream 'challenging gender roles' to me. The man is still engaging in the parental role and the woman the child role.. and in some cases to an even more extreme degree than many conservative relationships.

I never want to end up in a relationship like that. Grinning my teeth and trying to delude myself into thinking I'm actually being progressive when I'm not. I do not see how so much cognitive dissonance can result in a loving relationship.

Finally there is the in the eyes of many the perverted and psychologically damaged people of the kink/fetish community. A major theme there being the dominate man and the submissive woman. In my opinion this is the scene with the highest degree of self awareness and honesty displayed. There are certainly issues in the community..

But this is the spot I'd rather be in.
 
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I wouldn't feel bad about it (if you are), it's just how humans are hardwired.

Physical appearance matters a lot even beyond the romantic and sexual. Attractive people have a halo effect and are generally treated better and are assumed to have more positive qualities compared to average and especially ugly people. Even going as far as receiving more lenient sentencing when it comes to crime. While we should be mindful of this and to an extent curb this behavior at the end of the day it is a deeply ingrained aspect of humanity that is not going away and for mental health sake we should make some peace with this.

Am I naive if I say all people are beautiful. I mean I see that all people have some beautiful details in them. And also I see many people who are considered beautiful, I see them not very beautiful. Im not sure how to explain this. Sometimes when you know someone very deeply you start seeing them beautiful even when you didn’t see them like that first. Is it something to do with ’blinded by love’ or something? But you don’t really need to be ’in love’ with them. And some beautiful people can ’change’ to ugly if they treat you bad. Does this make any sense?
 
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Am I naive if I say all people are beautiful. I mean I see that all people have some beautiful details in them. And also I see many people who are considered beautiful, I see them not very beautiful. Im not sure how to explain this. Sometimes when you know someone very deeply you start seeing them beautiful even when you didn’t see them like that first. Is it something to do with ’blinded by love’ or something? But you don’t really need to be ’in love’ with them. And some beautiful people can ’change’ to ugly if they treat you bad. Does this make any sense?
Part of that equation is pheromones. (That is where on-line dating fails.)
The other part is where character supersedes appearance (for better or worse).
Whomever you marry, you will actually have to live with. So, we must not ignore that consideration.
 
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Am I naive if I say all people are beautiful. I mean I see that all people have some beautiful details in them. And also I see many people who are considered beautiful, I see them not very beautiful. Im not sure how to explain this. Sometimes when you know someone very deeply you start seeing them beautiful even when you didn’t see them like that first. Is it something to do with ’blinded by love’ or something? But you don’t really need to be ’in love’ with them. And some beautiful people can ’change’ to ugly if they treat you bad. Does this make any sense?

Yeah, I think it is normal and biological. Since.. (not talking about anyone here..) some people will realistically have to settle with others who are low status in the dating market place. Value is still there, because they are still beings with which they can pass on their genes. High or low status fundamentally does not matter regarding this aspect. So it makes sense that the brain has the ability to develop some sense of attraction when there initially was none.

This does not change what I talked about in another thread about couples who are both low status having troubles connecting with one another romantically. Human psychology is complex, and is not static.
 
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Is "Attractive" the same as "Appealing"?

I mean attractive could mean, it turns your head,

whereas appealing can mean much more than just looks.

Small simple things, there was a nurse at the hospital where I stayed,

and simply the way she was, well I don't think I have met a person like her before.

Difficult to explain but there are millions of attractive women going by looks,

but wondering if there is only one that has the key to your heart.

IDK, but was wondering about this(theme of thread) before it came into being.
 
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