Salvation question, struggling with sin, anger etc

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Struggling in my walk guys. Bigtime. Cant seem to focus on reading Gods word. Feel like a spirit of anger and confusion has come over me. Find myself short tempered, very selfish with my time, lashing out easily at certain ppl in my life, struggles in my relationship with gf, sins that im stuck in, sometimes taking a step back and looking at my fruit and shaking my head in disgust. If i was another person looking at myself in no way whatsoever would i think this person was a christian. I pray pretty much everyday that God would help me. Forgive me. But i cant seem to change my ways. Is it even possible to struggle like this if you are truly saved?? Or is this all signs that in no way im saved? I worry and stress everyday cuz i know we r in last days and many so called watchmen,etc are basically saying get your houses in order right now and repent daily cuz we are in last seconds. Who knows. Im just wondering what someone in my shoes should do? I want to get on the right path,narrow path but sorta feel like im too far gone
 

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Struggling in my walk guys. Bigtime. Cant seem to focus on reading Gods word. Feel like a spirit of anger and confusion has come over me. Find myself short tempered, very selfish with my time, lashing out easily at certain ppl in my life, struggles in my relationship with gf, sins that im stuck in, sometimes taking a step back and looking at my fruit and shaking my head in disgust. If i was another person looking at myself in no way whatsoever would i think this person was a christian. I pray pretty much everyday that God would help me. Forgive me. But i cant seem to change my ways. Is it even possible to struggle like this if you are truly saved?? Or is this all signs that in no way im saved? I worry and stress everyday cuz i know we r in last days and many so called watchmen,etc are basically saying get your houses in order right now and repent daily cuz we are in last seconds. Who knows. Im just wondering what someone in my shoes should do? I want to get on the right path,narrow path but sorta feel like im too far gone
Here's how I overcome this.

“Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;” (2 Corinthians 10:5) (KJV 1900)

We censor every impure thought or imagination. And change the channel in our thinking on any thought that does not conform to obedience to Christ.

And we replace it with:

“Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.” (Philippians 4:8)

Knowing Jesus is God and God is love, Jesus is Lord of our lives when love rules our thoughts and actions.
 
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m just wondering what someone in my shoes should do? I want to get on the right path,narrow path but sorta feel like im too far gone

Basicly take small steps.
Get a set of dail bible reading notes and start using them, at the same time every day. Get a habit started.
with your temper, before you speak count slowly to ten.
Try listening to your girlfriend, rather than you talking to her, do share with her something of your struggles as her help and suport can enable you to make progress.

If you want more spiritual input, start doing a bible study and prayer time with her.

We set ourselves up to fail by trying to run befor we can walk.
 
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Struggling in my walk guys. Bigtime. Cant seem to focus on reading Gods word. Feel like a spirit of anger and confusion has come over me. Find myself short tempered, very selfish with my time, lashing out easily at certain ppl in my life, struggles in my relationship with gf, sins that im stuck in, sometimes taking a step back and looking at my fruit and shaking my head in disgust. If i was another person looking at myself in no way whatsoever would i think this person was a christian. I pray pretty much everyday that God would help me. Forgive me. But i cant seem to change my ways. Is it even possible to struggle like this if you are truly saved?? Or is this all signs that in no way im saved? I worry and stress everyday cuz i know we r in last days and many so called watchmen,etc are basically saying get your houses in order right now and repent daily cuz we are in last seconds. Who knows. Im just wondering what someone in my shoes should do? I want to get on the right path,narrow path but sorta feel like im too far gone

If you have trusted in The Messiah for God's free gift of Eternal Life, then you have Eternal Life, never to lose it.

And if you have received God's free gift of Eternal Life, then you are having problems in the area of discipleship and growing as a believer. Which you will never grow if you allow yourself to be dragged down by sin. God expects his children to be as sinless as possible, some are more able to do this than others. It really takes a mature and discipline faith.

This site has good information on how to practice a well lived believers life.
 
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Hi, Zimmer. It doesn't sound as though "the last days" has anything in particular to do with this, and possibly not your relationship with God, either.

If you are down on life, feeling generally negative, and are constantly irritated and upset, it may be that there is another, overriding issue that needs to be addressed. Maybe you can identify it (or them). If not, speaking with a professional counselor could help and, either way, getting a handle on that will cause the rest to fall into place.
 
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Struggling in my walk guys. Bigtime. Cant seem to focus on reading Gods word. Feel like a spirit of anger and confusion has come over me. Find myself short tempered, very selfish with my time, lashing out easily at certain ppl in my life, struggles in my relationship with gf, sins that im stuck in, sometimes taking a step back and looking at my fruit and shaking my head in disgust. If i was another person looking at myself in no way whatsoever would i think this person was a christian. I pray pretty much everyday that God would help me. Forgive me. But i cant seem to change my ways. Is it even possible to struggle like this if you are truly saved?? Or is this all signs that in no way im saved? I worry and stress everyday cuz i know we r in last days and many so called watchmen,etc are basically saying get your houses in order right now and repent daily cuz we are in last seconds. Who knows. Im just wondering what someone in my shoes should do? I want to get on the right path,narrow path but sorta feel like im too far gone

Audio Bible.

John 15:3
1 John 1:9
 
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Struggling in my walk guys. Bigtime. Cant seem to focus on reading Gods word. Feel like a spirit of anger and confusion has come over me. Find myself short tempered, very selfish with my time, lashing out easily at certain ppl in my life, struggles in my relationship with gf, sins that im stuck in, sometimes taking a step back and looking at my fruit and shaking my head in disgust. If i was another person looking at myself in no way whatsoever would i think this person was a christian. I pray pretty much everyday that God would help me. Forgive me. But i cant seem to change my ways. Is it even possible to struggle like this if you are truly saved?? Or is this all signs that in no way im saved? I worry and stress everyday cuz i know we r in last days and many so called watchmen,etc are basically saying get your houses in order right now and repent daily cuz we are in last seconds. Who knows. Im just wondering what someone in my shoes should do? I want to get on the right path,narrow path but sorta feel like im too far gone

My opinion, for what it’s worth

What are you being “saved” from?

Ask yourself this.

You are being “saved” from yourself. Your bad behavior. Your bad desires and bad “fruit”. Your false beliefs.

As long as you continue to bear bad “fruit”, well, you are in need of the Lord’s help.

The Lord says this:
Matthew 7:18. A good tree cannot bring forth evil fruit, neither can a corrupt tree bring forth good fruit.

See, it’s NOT me speaking to you. Ignore everything I say, but listen to the Lord please.

So, what’s the answer?

Recognize your behavior for what it is. Bad.

Decide that you don’t want to be bad.

Yes, you MUST ask the Lord for help. He is the ONLY one who can help. But you MUST cooperate, you must work with the Lord.

You MUST refrain from bad behavior. Consciously turn away from it.

Now, listen. It’s not going to change instantly. The Lord must work very very slowly to move you from your bad behavior. It may take a long time for you to see results, but DON’T stress over it.

If your heart desires to be a better person, the Lord will work, and you will be successful. I have no doubt you WILL be successful.

Don’t stress over being “saved”. Your desire is to be a “good” tree with good fruit. You WILL be saved from your bad behavior.

When I struggle with certain bad behaviors I often condemned myself when the behavior showed up. The Lord doesn’t want you to condemn yourself. If you are earnestly trying, you are on the right path. You are being “saved” from your bad behavior. You will eventually see noticeable progress.

I said a lot, but I feel for you. I have been in your shoes.
But after some time, I could actually see meaningful progress with my battles against impatience and anger.

Remember, this is all my opinion and understanding.

Your journey is between you and the Lord.
 
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Struggling in my walk guys. Bigtime. Cant seem to focus on reading Gods word. Feel like a spirit of anger and confusion has come over me. Find myself short tempered, very selfish with my time, lashing out easily at certain ppl in my life, struggles in my relationship with gf, sins that im stuck in, sometimes taking a step back and looking at my fruit and shaking my head in disgust. If i was another person looking at myself in no way whatsoever would i think this person was a christian. I pray pretty much everyday that God would help me. Forgive me. But i cant seem to change my ways. Is it even possible to struggle like this if you are truly saved?? Or is this all signs that in no way im saved? I worry and stress everyday cuz i know we r in last days and many so called watchmen,etc are basically saying get your houses in order right now and repent daily cuz we are in last seconds. Who knows. Im just wondering what someone in my shoes should do? I want to get on the right path,narrow path but sorta feel like im too far gone

We have all gone through similar things, just keep walking down the track that the LORD has for you.

Don't let the thinking enter your mind that you are too far gone, just push in hard. Sometimes it is a struggle. But it is never too late with God.
 
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Struggling in my walk guys. Bigtime. Cant seem to focus on reading Gods word. Feel like a spirit of anger and confusion has come over me. Find myself short tempered, very selfish with my time, lashing out easily at certain ppl in my life, struggles in my relationship with gf, sins that im stuck in, sometimes taking a step back and looking at my fruit and shaking my head in disgust. If i was another person looking at myself in no way whatsoever would i think this person was a christian. I pray pretty much everyday that God would help me. Forgive me. But i cant seem to change my ways. Is it even possible to struggle like this if you are truly saved?? Or is this all signs that in no way im saved? I worry and stress everyday cuz i know we r in last days and many so called watchmen,etc are basically saying get your houses in order right now and repent daily cuz we are in last seconds. Who knows. Im just wondering what someone in my shoes should do? I want to get on the right path,narrow path but sorta feel like im too far gone
Not that you're not aware of the fact that none of us know the depth of our own sin, but... It occurs to me to tell you that no matter how bad you think you are, and how disgusted you get with yourself, there is no way you can know how bad your sin is, in God's eyes. Yet, such are all of us, whom he has chosen for his particular use.

In fact, so much do we not know, that I think, in comparison, we have to conclude that it almost isn't our business how bad we are. God doesn't convict us so that we can kick ourselves about accordingly and sufficiently, but to get up and continue to pursue him.
 
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Struggling in my walk guys. Bigtime. Cant seem to focus on reading Gods word. Feel like a spirit of anger and confusion has come over me. Find myself short tempered, very selfish with my time, lashing out easily at certain ppl in my life, struggles in my relationship with gf, sins that im stuck in, sometimes taking a step back and looking at my fruit and shaking my head in disgust. If i was another person looking at myself in no way whatsoever would i think this person was a christian. I pray pretty much everyday that God would help me. Forgive me. But i cant seem to change my ways.

It can take some people a very long time to get to the point where they finally realize God never intended they should change themselves for Him. We are far too weak, too self-deceived, too foolish to properly change ourselves. Instead, God changes us.

Philippians 1:6
6 Being confident of this very thing, that he who began a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ:


Philippians 2:13
13 for it is God who is at work in you, both to will and to work for His good pleasure.


Philippians 4:13
13 I can do all things through Him who strengthens me.


Ephesians 3:16
16 that He would grant you, according to the riches of His glory, to be strengthened with power through His Spirit in the inner man,


2 Corinthians 3:18
18 But we all, with unveiled face beholding as in a mirror the glory of the Lord, are changed into the same image, from glory to glory, even as by the Spirit of the Lord.


1 Thessalonians 5:23-24
23 And the very God of peace sanctify you wholly; and I pray God your whole spirit and soul and body be preserved blameless unto the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ.
24 Faithful is he who calls you, who also will do it.


And so on.

God does this, though, ONLY as we are living in constant submission to Him. He won't force upon us the transformation He wants to make in us.

Romans 6:13
13 Do not present your members to sin as instruments for unrighteousness, but present yourselves to God as those who have been brought from death to life, and your members to God as instruments for righteousness.

Romans 8:14
14 For all who are led by the Spirit of God are sons of God.

Romans 12:1
1 I appeal to you therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship.

James 4:7-10
7 Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.
8 Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded.
9 Be wretched and mourn and weep. Let your laughter be turned to mourning and your joy to gloom.
10 Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will exalt you.

1 Peter 5:6
6 Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time he may exalt you,


Is it even possible to struggle like this if you are truly saved??

Yup. Most Christians I meet have little to no idea how to actually walk well with God. They've never been properly discipled, you see, and have to figure out the Christian life typically through an endless patchwork of Bible studies of varying lengths and topics. Or they go to seminary and jam their heads full of knowledge, thinking that knowing a lot of information about the Christian faith and about God is the same as walking in intimate, spiritually-fruitful communion with Him every day. Eventually, some realize that something is deeply, profoundly wrong between them and God. Only then do they begin to crowd up to God looking for the answers a process of good discipleship would have given them years ago. This was me for a number of decades.

Im just wondering what someone in my shoes should do? I want to get on the right path,narrow path but sorta feel like im too far gone

What Am I Supposed to Do?

I tried that. It didn't work. Got anything else?

Crocodile Tears.
 
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Basicly take small steps.
Get a set of dail bible reading notes and start using them, at the same time every day. Get a habit started.
with your temper, before you speak count slowly to ten.
Try listening to your girlfriend, rather than you talking to her, do share with her something of your struggles as her help and suport can enable you to make progress.

If you want more spiritual input, start doing a bible study and prayer time with her.

We set ourselves up to fail by trying to run befor we can walk.
Wonderful advice.
My wife and I started daily Bible study a few years ago, and try not to miss a day. I believe these are part of what has brought us closer and closer.
 
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Struggling in my walk guys. Bigtime. Cant seem to focus on reading Gods word. Feel like a spirit of anger and confusion has come over me. Find myself short tempered, very selfish with my time, lashing out easily at certain ppl in my life, struggles in my relationship with gf, sins that im stuck in, sometimes taking a step back and looking at my fruit and shaking my head in disgust. If i was another person looking at myself in no way whatsoever would i think this person was a christian. I pray pretty much everyday that God would help me. Forgive me. But i cant seem to change my ways. Is it even possible to struggle like this if you are truly saved?? Or is this all signs that in no way im saved? I worry and stress everyday cuz i know we r in last days and many so called watchmen,etc are basically saying get your houses in order right now and repent daily cuz we are in last seconds. Who knows. Im just wondering what someone in my shoes should do? I want to get on the right path,narrow path but sorta feel like im too far gone
As I grew up in a military family, I suffered anger and rage issues. These diminished as I considered Jesus teachings.

Matthew 5:39 But I tell you, do not resist an evil person. If anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to them the other cheek also.
 
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So, over the last few months I was experiencing a paranoid delusion that there was going to be an atomic bomb dropped on us. Of course, this hasn't happened, but it did get me thinking about what I should or would do if I were really living in the last few moments or days of my life. The time is approaching, soon, though, that Christ reclaim his people... Think about how you'd want to act inside the walls of his perfect kingdom. Righteous, happy, holy, pure, etc. and try to emulate that. Actively think in situations, "What's the BEST possible way I could handle this, in the eyes of Christ?" and don't sell yourself short.
Do what you can to ignore provocations; turn the other cheek. Realize how destructive your anger, how much it hurts those around you for no good reason, when God will work the issues out for you, in time; let Him.
I know this struggle all to well. I don't want to be hurt again, and if I feel like people are trying to pull one over on me, because they think they can (due to viewing me as weak/dumb) I tend to just lose it. I have to remember, though, not to sin with wrath and rage, but that God will have his vengeance on Him. For me it definitely stems from a lack of trust that God will handle things, because when I was younger he didn't *seem* to handle them, at least in the way that I would have wanted Him to. You know, the word IS a lot to remember and put into practice, especially in this world that demands and expects so much of our attention.
 
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