dilemma

PloverWing · Jun 3, 2021

mama2one said:
so we're looking at only 7th & possibly 7 & 8 th grade

If your daughter is as old as this, she probably has an opinion. How does she feel about changing schools vs staying at the same school?

mama2one said:
child's been in our "excellent" rated public schools since K

however, a former teacher I know once said
"do not send your child to the middle school!"

Did the teacher give you some specifics? If the problem with the middle school is a narrow one (e.g., Teacher Smith is a really bad math teacher), then you might be able to work around it. If the problem is larger -- if the overall environment of the school is bad in some way -- then it could be reasonable to switch to the parochial school for one or two years, and then switch back to the public school for high school. And if it's tuition for only one year, that's less of an expense than tuition for all 12 years; maybe that would be manageable.

Also: @chevyontheriver can confirm or correct me here, but I think the whole RCIA process for becoming a Catholic isn't quick, as the church wants to allow ample time for discernment and formation. Joining the church quickly, in time to get discounted tuition by September, may not be an available option.

chevyontheriver · Jun 3, 2021

PloverWing said:
Also: @chevyontheriver can confirm or correct me here, but I think the whole RCIA process for becoming a Catholic isn't quick, as the church wants to allow ample time for discernment and formation. Joining the church quickly, in time to get discounted tuition by September, may not be an available option.

RCIA (Rite of Christian Initiation of Adults) is not quick. It can take a year. And you might have to wait for a session to start. Quite often there is only one a year and it culminates at Easter. So the timing may be a challenge.

BUT there is no absolute requirement for RCIA. One can meet with the pastor and one can become a Catholic much faster than waiting a year for some program to finish. It all depends. Depends mostly on how informed and ready a person is. Could be a day, could be weekly meetings for a year. Point is we want people to be ready and know what they are getting in to. Being Catholic is not like a shirt you put on and take off casually. It's more like a tattoo that you better be sure about before getting one. Becoming Catholic is a good thing but not everyone will want to do it. Talking with a priest is only a first step in a process of making a solid commitment. Formation is the actual operative word. Ideally we make disciples of Jesus Christ whose lives are changed in the process.

Maria Billingsley · Jun 3, 2021

mama2one said:
we are raising our child Christian & have attended more than one Christian church but not a member

considering sending child to the private school in town next yr which happens to be Catholic
the tuition is more than double if you're not Catholic or member of their church

it seems hypocritical to join the Catholic church in order to save tuition
however, it is just so expensive if we don't & we need the money for child's college

I don't want to discuss why we want to switch from public school at this point but I think it would be better for child

HELP....what would you do?
what should we do?

I am not sure what grade your child is in but before you decide on the switch, think about the next level, high school. Pretty expensive to attend a Catholic High School. You need a long term plan. If you are speaking of high school then it will be a shock to your child to suddenly attend a Catholic School after being in public school. Blessings.

mama2one · Jun 3, 2021

mama2one · Jun 3, 2021

thank you everyone for your input!

tturt · Jul 12, 2021

Is her school one that distributes condoms to 5th graders?

mama2one · Jul 12, 2021

tturt said:
Is her school one that distributes condoms to 5th graders?

^ never heard of that happening in our state

there's been no health or sex education at the school whatsoever.....I asked

mama2one · Jul 12, 2021

PloverWing said:
If your daughter is as old as this, she probably has an opinion. How does she feel about changing schools vs staying at the same school?

we had a tour scheduled at the Catholic school

weekend before tour, husband said daughter told him she wasn't up to changing schools

going to have us do tour anyway but more I thought, a tour wouldn't change anything...so cancelled

Joined2krist · Jul 13, 2021

mama2one said:
we had a tour scheduled at the Catholic school

weekend before tour, husband said daughter told him she wasn't up to changing schools

going to have us do tour anyway but more I thought, a tour wouldn't change anything...so cancelled

I think you and DH should make the decision on her behalf, until she is old enough (18).

mama2one · Jul 13, 2021

Joined2krist said:
I think you and DH should make the decision on her behalf, until she is old enough (18).

since she's adopted, we do have more to consider
don't want to stress out child

after learning what she shared with husband, it seemed best not to "force" a major change

she initially said yes to tour but she obviously thought more about it to tell husband "not up to change"

Jeffwhosoever · Jul 13, 2021

We have two Catholic schools and two protestant schools and one non-affiliated private school, where we sent our son and now he is in medical school. My wife and I both attended public school, but we live in a part of town where the public schools are not to par even for public schools, so either we had to move or send our son to a private school, so we chose a college prep private school due to its reputation, which would up helping our son get paid to attend undergraduate school on 3 different academic scholarships. Had we lived in the area of town with the better public school, we would have gone that route, but we have no regrets for our choice.

Ask God for guidance and seek an answer through prayer. Do your homework on college admissions and such if that is your intent for your child.

mama2one · Jul 13, 2021

Jeffwhosoever said:
Do your homework on college admissions and such if that is your intent for your child.

our child has already chosen an allied health field which a local college offers
yes- no dorm fees!

Jeffwhosoever · Jul 13, 2021

Is it a 3 year from bachelors degree to MD that you describe or something else? My son is in a 4 year program and knows a couple of people who chose an accelerated route. Both had to take a year off due to stress so they will wind up taking the same amount of time. My son averages 85 hours a week during his 4 year program, and I cannot imagine compressing that down to 3 years if we are talking BS to MD.

mama2one · Jul 13, 2021

physical therapy assistant

Jeffwhosoever · Jul 13, 2021

Great then. I just feared you were talking accelerated MD. That should be a great program!

mama2one · Aug 29, 2021

update- one week of school & things went great
since daughter did online choice last yr, a rumor went around school that we moved, lol

everyone was asking "where were you?"

teen likes all her teachers & has friends and/or people she knows in every class

at lunch she is at a round table of 6 with all her friends

I'm driving her to school instead of her riding bus morns
we arrive when door opens & she can chat with friends before school starts

so happy daughter had a great first week

PloverWing · Aug 29, 2021

I'm so glad school is going well!

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