- Apr 19, 2021
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Hi everyone !
I have been with my Christian boyfriend for about a year now, and he is a great guy to me, very loyal sweet and caring. The only thing that continues to bother me are his current goals/ambitions in comparison to mine. I am 29, I have my career, live on my own, and have goals such as buying a home in the future and working towards being a better practitioner in my field. He is 38 years old, currently has a regular job (in which he cannot move up) and makes around $16/hour. He keeps telling me he is studying for a specific career manager license, but I never see him studying. Everyday I ask him he tells me, I couldn’t study because I was tired, or tomorrow I’ll study, or next week Etc. There is always an excuse to not study. Mind you , when I first met him he told me he was working on getting his career license within the first 3 months that I knew him. One year later and nothing has gotten done. I tell him my concerns, because I worry that I’m going to be with someone who is not ambitious or tries to better himself. It also worries me that I currently live alone, and I have no help. He does not make enough to be able to help me. I don’t want to come off like I want someone with money. That is not the case at all. But it’s concerning to me because it feels like everything in his life is always delayed or never happens. I kind of feel like he is comfortable in his parents home because he doesn’t need to provide rent or anything , whereas in my situation I had to do everything alone and did not receive help from anyone. As a Christian , it is also concerning because as a Christian woman, you submit to your husband. But how could I submit to someone who doesn’t have it together (career wise)? He keeps telling me not to worry and that he will get his license, but how can I not worry if I don’t see anything getting done? I feel bad sometimes because I don’t want to have that “worldly” persona. And I do want to have faith in him. And I have prayed. But sometimes I just don’t know what to do anymore. Any advice ?
I have been with my Christian boyfriend for about a year now, and he is a great guy to me, very loyal sweet and caring. The only thing that continues to bother me are his current goals/ambitions in comparison to mine. I am 29, I have my career, live on my own, and have goals such as buying a home in the future and working towards being a better practitioner in my field. He is 38 years old, currently has a regular job (in which he cannot move up) and makes around $16/hour. He keeps telling me he is studying for a specific career manager license, but I never see him studying. Everyday I ask him he tells me, I couldn’t study because I was tired, or tomorrow I’ll study, or next week Etc. There is always an excuse to not study. Mind you , when I first met him he told me he was working on getting his career license within the first 3 months that I knew him. One year later and nothing has gotten done. I tell him my concerns, because I worry that I’m going to be with someone who is not ambitious or tries to better himself. It also worries me that I currently live alone, and I have no help. He does not make enough to be able to help me. I don’t want to come off like I want someone with money. That is not the case at all. But it’s concerning to me because it feels like everything in his life is always delayed or never happens. I kind of feel like he is comfortable in his parents home because he doesn’t need to provide rent or anything , whereas in my situation I had to do everything alone and did not receive help from anyone. As a Christian , it is also concerning because as a Christian woman, you submit to your husband. But how could I submit to someone who doesn’t have it together (career wise)? He keeps telling me not to worry and that he will get his license, but how can I not worry if I don’t see anything getting done? I feel bad sometimes because I don’t want to have that “worldly” persona. And I do want to have faith in him. And I have prayed. But sometimes I just don’t know what to do anymore. Any advice ?