God doesn't speak to me the way he used to

Macchiato · Aug 12, 2021

I feel like im doing something wrong to not be able to hear clearly from God.
I have a lot of responsibility such as my kids and work. Had a bf i broke up with him.

Idk what God wants me to do abt my job. Its all a mess and in shambles(bby sitter situation) so ive been thinking of making this week my last.

And perhaps spending more time with God. I have a lot of things taking up my time.. Bjut idk if thats what God wants me to do.

Something is wrong. I cant hear God nor do i feel lead. Nothing is resonating with me. I feel so lost like I just do what I know is right likr breaking up with a bf. Get a job go to work but i just feel lost like no one is leadinh me

Yet i feel i dont have time to pursue God. Cant go to church( 2 small kids are hard to transport alone ..my brothers are already at church by then a n d my mom is sleep from work and my dad wont help. I feel like ive been isolated and left to die alone bc... Nothing is working. God is barely speaking.

I have no contact with godly people.

The only thing i can do is watch sermons online.

Faith cant survive like this i dont think.

Albion · Aug 12, 2021

Well then, perhaps these forums will address your need to some extent! But on the bigger question of being led by God, I think it's a mistake to feel that every action or decision should await a personal message from God concerning what to do.

Of course a person will become anxious if there doesn't seem to be a specific contact...and he's expecting one.

But God is never removed from us, and he's given us his word in the Holy Scriptures, so it may be that a more dedicated and consistent policy of you reading the Bible will be helpful. That was the approach that a lot of famous Christians in history took, and with great success.

Pavel Mosko · Aug 12, 2021

Macchiato said:
I feel like im doing something wrong to not be able to hear clearly from God.
I have a lot of responsibility such as my kids and work. Had a bf i broke up with him.

Idk what God wants me to do abt my job. Its all a mess and in shambles(bby sitter situation) so ive been thinking of making this week my last.

And perhaps spending more time with God. I have a lot of things taking up my time.. Bjut idk if thats what God wants me to do.

Something is wrong. I cant hear God nor do i feel lead. Nothing is resonating with me. I feel so lost like I just do what I know is right likr breaking up with a bf. Get a job go to work but i just feel lost like no one is leadinh me

Yet i feel i dont have time to pursue God. Cant go to church( 2 small kids are hard to transport alone ..my brothers are already at church by then a n d my mom is sleep from work and my dad wont help. I feel like ive been isolated and left to die alone bc... Nothing is working. God is barely speaking.

I have no contact with godly people.

The only thing i can do is watch sermons online.

Faith cant survive like this i dont think.

I hate to say it but none of this stuff is unusual. I got my own version of what your describing. A famous saint described it as "the Dark Night of the Soul".

I think it would be good for you to try to find something positive to work on to take your mind off your problems. I know I have been ruminating a lot on my problems and this is something that I am trying to get in the habit of doing. There is a psychological term for this Dereflection.

Macchiato · Aug 12, 2021

Pavel Mosko said:
I hate to say it but none of this stuff is unusual. I got my own version of what your describing. A famous saint described it as "the Dark Night of the Soul".

I think it would be good for you to try to find something positive to work on to take your mind off your problems. I know I have been ruminating a lot on my problems and this is something that I am trying to get in the habit of doing. There is a psychological term for this Dereflection.

I feel like im always going through a dark night of the soul. I know it shouldnt always be this way. When i first was saved I experienced a lot of God but that quickly went away. Now i rarely hear him.

I dont know what Im doing wrong.

timf · Aug 12, 2021

It may be that the feeling of disconnection you are experiencing is a result of having confused your previous feelings as from God.

God speaks to us through his word. It could be that the "drought" you are experiencing regarding your feelings is to get you to immerse yourself in His word and draw you closer that way.

The path of seeking God trough feelings can be dangerous and lead people into trouble like cults, etc.

You might call different churches and see if they could provide help like day care or someone to visit you and pray with you. You may find someone you can connect with someone that would even help you with a person to person bible study.

Albion · Aug 12, 2021

Macchiato said:
I dont know what Im doing wrong.

You're thinking that he will speak to you personally and on a daily basis (or something close to it). There is no reason to assume such a thing.

But if that is what you expect--and it doesn't happen--of course you will begin to think you did something to turn God against you or you've misunderstood your place in life or something else like that.

And all of that is a mistake.

Pavel Mosko · Aug 12, 2021

Macchiato said:
I feel like im always going through a dark night of the soul. I know it shouldnt always be this way. When i first was saved I experienced a lot of God but that quickly went away. Now i rarely hear him.

I dont know what Im doing wrong.

Acts 14:22

NIV
strengthening the disciples and encouraging them to remain true to the faith. “We must go through many hardships to enter the kingdom of God,” they said.

1) I got to say I've had the mystical, "God is speaking to me" kind of phenomenon. But often not, more over from what I can tell even in the Bible many important people did not have that all the time, or everyday, or even regularly. I'm talking about people like Abraham, David, saint Paul and so on.

2) Beware of the people who say they do! The Eastern Orthodox have a saying called Prelest that describes a state of spiritual delusion. The lady below is a perfect example, I can also point to Ken Copeland with a number of things he said recently about Covid, the past election etc.

NBB · Aug 12, 2021

Seek being filled with the Holy spirit.

com7fy8 · Aug 12, 2021

Start fresh . . . right now. And simply trust God, and be encouraged that our Heavenly Father is being honest with all of us. He knows what is really going on with you . . . in you.

And His word can help you.

Plus, we have mature senior Christian examples to help us.

Have you, by any chance, been isolating yourself and/or only associating with people who are more your age and interests? We need our mature senior examples of faith and love which are in Christ Jesus.

They can feed us how to share with God and one another as His family and how to love any and all people . . . including forgiving >

Is your forgiving up-to-date??

And I believe it is possible with God for you to find out how to take care of your children so you can bring them to church. So, I would not limit yourself . . . by what you suppose is possible with you!

Be careful . . . beware of how your own controlling can keep you from sharing with God > any of us can limit ourselves by dictating what we have the ability to do, or dictating how we want things to be.

Dave G. · Aug 12, 2021

He's calling you deeper than into feelings but knowing and assurance. You will find that in deeper bible studies. Don't rely on just online sermons, find a good pastor you like and follow his service. Right off the top of my head Robert Morris comes to mind to name one. God's looking for your personal attention beyond internet, though you can use it for some of your studies. He has you right where He needs you, where you need to seek Him more deeply,more intimately.

How about if your brothers already go to church you have a daily prayer time and bible reading together ?

As far as church, if you make that effort to get to a good one you may suddenly find they have Sunday school for the kids while you are at service and fellowship after, if you express your needs for transportation you may suddenly find a willing transporter who will pick you up and drop you off. A good church body can be like that.

I very highly encourage you to watch the movie War Room.

Pavel Mosko · Aug 12, 2021

Macchiato said:
Faith cant survive like this i dont think.

The Beatitudes of the Sermon on the mount were originally spoken and recorded for people like you and me that feel desperate, depressed, forsaken etc.

Matthew 5:3–12[edit]

3Blessed are the poor in spirit,
for theirs is the Kingdom of Heaven.
4Blessed are those who mourn,
for they will be comforted.
5Blessed are the meek,
for they will inherit the Earth.
6Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness,
for they will be satisfied.
7Blessed are the merciful,
for they will be shown mercy.
8Blessed are the pure in heart,
for they will see God.
9Blessed are the peacemakers,
for they will be called children of God.
10Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness,
for theirs is the Kingdom of Heaven.
11Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of me.
12Rejoice and be glad, because great is your reward in heaven, for in the same way they persecuted the prophets who were before you.

Blade · Aug 12, 2021

Macchiato said:
I feel like im doing something wrong to not be able to hear clearly from God.
I have a lot of responsibility such as my kids and work. Had a bf i broke up with him.

Idk what God wants me to do abt my job. Its all a mess and in shambles(bby sitter situation) so ive been thinking of making this week my last.

And perhaps spending more time with God. I have a lot of things taking up my time.. Bjut idk if thats what God wants me to do.

Something is wrong. I cant hear God nor do i feel lead. Nothing is resonating with me. I feel so lost like I just do what I know is right likr breaking up with a bf. Get a job go to work but i just feel lost like no one is leadinh me

Yet i feel i dont have time to pursue God. Cant go to church( 2 small kids are hard to transport alone ..my brothers are already at church by then a n d my mom is sleep from work and my dad wont help. I feel like ive been isolated and left to die alone bc... Nothing is working. God is barely speaking.

I have no contact with godly people.

The only thing i can do is watch sermons online.

Faith cant survive like this i dont think.

Hi..we know He will never leave us nor forsake us..He can't lie. We know He does not condemn us. I will tell you what I notice. You said "feel" six times. Well we walk by faith not by how we feel or see or hear. There are times it FEELS as if GOD left. Yet thats a lie. Ask Him if you did anything wrong.. repent of any sins. But He never left you. Remember He can't lie. You are right now in the Fathers hands

Read again what He said in His word and simply trust it. He leaves the 99 to go after the one. Lol yeah.. Hes not going anywhere. There are times I pray ask Him to forgive me for the things I might have done yet didn't know about it and hold them not to my charge.

Don't let the enemy steal your joy. Those thoughts should be your first red flag that.. NO He has not gone anywhere. The enemy can only LIE. Bless you in Jesus name

anna ~ grace · Aug 12, 2021

Macchiato said:
I feel like im always going through a dark night of the soul. I know it shouldnt always be this way. When i first was saved I experienced a lot of God but that quickly went away. Now i rarely hear him.

I dont know what Im doing wrong.

Well… perhaps what the Lord is challenging you with is less emotional comfort or joy or peace (which feel great, but we don’t always get those), and more trusting in, leaning on, and obeying Him, even when it’s tough, lonely, difficult, or painful.

You sound like a caring, attentive Mom and a helpful daughter, and you are trying to take care of everyone. That is tough. Try getting into the Scriptures, take life one day at a time, ask Christ for help and trust Him even if you don’t feel that He is there, and be the best Mom you can be, at every moment. God loves you, and can lead and help you, even if you don’t sense that He is close.

TzephanYahu · Aug 13, 2021

Hi @Macchiato

I hear what you are saying.

Typically what I would advise someone in this situation is to examine the last time when things were good and when it ceased to be so. For example, did when things felt good between you and God, did you feel He was guided you to do something or to stop doing something and you didn’t? Often, the relationship can get to a stalemate if we started walking in disobedience or defiance. Yet, things can be picked up again if we go back to that point and address the issue.

However, if nothing comes to mind, then this might be a period of testing for you. Yahweh maybe testing your resolve and faithfulness under pressure or He may be preparing your heart for the road to come. Though it’s presumptuous of me to speak on behalf of the Creator as I’m no spokesman nor sent by Him. I’m just giving you the answers according to my experiences, observances and Bible Study.

But let’s get a little more practical, as I can see you are hurting and the last thing I want you to think is that I’m just giving you platitudes.

I wouldn’t say that quitting your job will equal more time with Yahweh. Rather I think the time you no longer dedicate to your job will be naturally filled with your children and life administration. Therefore, if it isn’t sustainable or comfortable to survive with your children without a job, then it wouldn’t be wise to quit. That said, if no one can look after your children or your job is horrendous, then do what you must. But don’t imagine this will equate to more time with Him – it most likely won’t.

What then? How can one spend more time with Yahweh? A thousand years are as to day to Him but also day is as thousand years. He can make the time you do give Him significant and impactful, providing your heart is right. So an hour might feel like more than day with Him. It’s about quality of time and not quantity. Start by setting a least an hour to studying His Word (not just casually reading it). Set yourself a prayer time and make it a habit. Even if it feels empty and uninspired. I believe there is a Biblical case to suggest 3 times a day and that is what I do. In the Morning (praise), midday (prayer – that is, your requests) and evening (thanksgiving). If you keep these things up, I’m sure you’ll get back on track.

Now as for being “isolated and left to die alone”! I don’t know sister, I think this is more emotion than reason speaking. I’m saddened you feel this way but I also believe within myself that this is only for a season and not forever. But Church is not the answer. I know people who attend Church and still be isolated and alone. Whilst going to Church has it’s pros, unfortunately these days it has many cons too. Be cautious in seeking leadership and direction in church today. I’m gutted I need to say that but it’s the truth. The Word of Yahweh must come first and any Church compromising it or glossing over some parts is not fit to lead.

Nevertheless, many churches set up home groups and groups for mothers. These might be worth visiting some time as you should be able to take your children. It may also be worth visiting secular groups for mothers and perhaps even trying a class for yourself (art etc). It will be hard to stay friendless this way.

But you wrote...

Macchiato said:
Faith cant survive like this i dont think

...My sister, the opposite is true. Faith is for times such as this, not when everything is going well and settled. Rather, it’s in these testing times that are lonely, without direction and seemingly silence from Yahweh, in which faith should ignite a torch in the dark cave to guide you.

Your first scripture you should read and study is Psalm 42. The parallels in this psalm and your life may be obscured on the first reading but read it again and listen to the hear to the heart of it and wisdom found in it.

And with that, I will close with a poem actually inspired by Psalm 42 by the Poet of Ephraim…

Why are you so distant from me, O Adonai?
I’ve trusted and called upon your Name haven’t I?
Don’t leave me like Saul for I’d be lost without you,
I feel lost right now… I don’t want to doubt you…
Why are you so downcast, O my soul?
Does your faith flee quickly as life takes its toll?
Hope in your Elohim, for I will yet praise Him,
And yeshuah is within the wilderness I’m facing.
Selah

bèlla · Aug 13, 2021

Start with repentance. Acknowledge you've made a mess of things. Admit the problems your decisions caused. Tell Him you wronged Him. If you're excusing sin you'll feel lost. Pray Psalm 51 and ask for guidance. Commit to living according to His principles.

If you want to thrive you must start doing things His way. You can't do otherwise and wonder where He is when things go awry. He didn't tell you to do that. This may be part of your correction.

Forgive your family. They've treated you poorly but that was made possible by your choices. Say this upon waking each day:

I must choose differently to live differently. Help me to follow You Lord.

~bella

Macchiato · Aug 13, 2021

Dave G. said:
He's calling you deeper than into feelings but knowing and assurance. You will find that in deeper bible studies. Don't rely on just online sermons, find a good pastor you like and follow his service. Right off the top of my head Robert Morris comes to mind to name one. God's looking for your personal attention beyond internet, though you can use it for some of your studies. He has you right where He needs you, where you need to seek Him more deeply,more intimately.

How about if your brothers already go to church you have a daily prayer time and bible reading together ?

As far as church, if you make that effort to get to a good one you may suddenly find they have Sunday school for the kids while you are at service and fellowship after, if you express your needs for transportation you may suddenly find a willing transporter who will pick you up and drop you off. A good church body can be like that.

I very highly encourage you to watch the movie War Room.

I watched war room. And yeah i like praying with my brothers. Ill try to do more of that.

TzephanYahu said:
Hi @Macchiato

I hear what you are saying.

Typically what I would advise someone in this situation is to examine the last time when things were good and when it ceased to be so. For example, did when things felt good between you and God, did you feel He was guided you to do something or to stop doing something and you didn’t? Often, the relationship can get to a stalemate if we started walking in disobedience or defiance. Yet, things can be picked up again if we go back to that point and address the issue.

However, if nothing comes to mind, then this might be a period of testing for you. Yahweh maybe testing your resolve and faithfulness under pressure or He may be preparing your heart for the road to come. Though it’s presumptuous of me to speak on behalf of the Creator as I’m no spokesman nor sent by Him. I’m just giving you the answers according to my experiences, observances and Bible Study.

But let’s get a little more practical, as I can see you are hurting and the last thing I want you to think is that I’m just giving you platitudes.

I wouldn’t say that quitting your job will equal more time with Yahweh. Rather I think the time you no longer dedicate to your job will be naturally filled with your children and life administration. Therefore, if it isn’t sustainable or comfortable to survive with your children without a job, then it wouldn’t be wise to quit. That said, if no one can look after your children or your job is horrendous, then do what you must. But don’t imagine this will equate to more time with Him – it most likely won’t.

What then? How can one spend more time with Yahweh? A thousand years are as to day to Him but also day is as thousand years. He can make the time you do give Him significant and impactful, providing your heart is right. So an hour might feel like more than day with Him. It’s about quality of time and not quantity. Start by setting a least an hour to studying His Word (not just casually reading it). Set yourself a prayer time and make it a habit. Even if it feels empty and uninspired. I believe there is a Biblical case to suggest 3 times a day and that is what I do. In the Morning (praise), midday (prayer – that is, your requests) and evening (thanksgiving). If you keep these things up, I’m sure you’ll get back on track.

Now as for being “isolated and left to die alone”! I don’t know sister, I think this is more emotion than reason speaking. I’m saddened you feel this way but I also believe within myself that this is only for a season and not forever. But Church is not the answer. I know people who attend Church and still be isolated and alone. Whilst going to Church has it’s pros, unfortunately these days it has many cons too. Be cautious in seeking leadership and direction in church today. I’m gutted I need to say that but it’s the truth. The Word of Yahweh must come first and any Church compromising it or glossing over some parts is not fit to lead.

Nevertheless, many churches set up home groups and groups for mothers. These might be worth visiting some time as you should be able to take your children. It may also be worth visiting secular groups for mothers and perhaps even trying a class for yourself (art etc). It will be hard to stay friendless this way.

But you wrote...

...My sister, the opposite is true. Faith is for times such as this, not when everything is going well and settled. Rather, it’s in these testing times that are lonely, without direction and seemingly silence from Yahweh, in which faith should ignite a torch in the dark cave to guide you.

Your first scripture you should read and study is Psalm 42. The parallels in this psalm and your life may be obscured on the first reading but read it again and listen to the hear to the heart of it and wisdom found in it.

And with that, I will close with a poem actually inspired by Psalm 42 by the Poet of Ephraim…

Why are you so distant from me, O Adonai?
I’ve trusted and called upon your Name haven’t I?
Don’t leave me like Saul for I’d be lost without you,
I feel lost right now… I don’t want to doubt you…
Why are you so downcast, O my soul?
Does your faith flee quickly as life takes its toll?
Hope in your Elohim, for I will yet praise Him,
And yeshuah is within the wilderness I’m facing.
Selah

Youre right abt quitting my job my time may be devoted to my kids soley. Ill try to fit time in on the weekend to study and do what I can throughout the week. Thank You. Very insightful.

TzephanYahu · Aug 13, 2021

Macchiato said:
Ill try to fit time in on the weekend to study and do what I can throughout the week

Fantastic news!

Try in the evenings as well if you can, once you get some peace and quiet! The more time you focus on Him and His Word, the more everything will start falling into place.

I work all day but I listen to an audio Bible on lunch and during my commute. I can't count the amount of times I have managed to complete the whole Bible by doing this. It's shocking how much a little each day can achieve. Only forget devotionals and reading plans. Let it just be you, the Word and His Spirit.

May the Most High meet with you soon and bring you peace, in the name of our Lord.

Proverbs 3:5-6

Love & Shalom

carolina16 · Aug 13, 2021

Macchiato said:
I feel like im always going through a dark night of the soul. I know it shouldnt always be this way. When i first was saved I experienced a lot of God but that quickly went away. Now i rarely hear him.

I dont know what Im doing wrong.

Maybe you dont work for Him, raise your children with the bible, and examine (if you have) hace occult sins.

Mvidi Zanzu · Aug 13, 2021

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Brenda Blakely · Aug 16, 2021

Macchiato said:
I feel like im doing something wrong to not be able to hear clearly from God.
I have a lot of responsibility such as my kids and work. Had a bf i broke up with him.

Idk what God wants me to do abt my job. Its all a mess and in shambles(bby sitter situation) so ive been thinking of making this week my last.

And perhaps spending more time with God. I have a lot of things taking up my time.. Bjut idk if thats what God wants me to do.

Something is wrong. I cant hear God nor do i feel lead. Nothing is resonating with me. I feel so lost like I just do what I know is right likr breaking up with a bf. Get a job go to work but i just feel lost like no one is leadinh me

Yet i feel i dont have time to pursue God. Cant go to church( 2 small kids are hard to transport alone ..my brothers are already at church by then a n d my mom is sleep from work and my dad wont help. I feel like ive been isolated and left to die alone bc... Nothing is working. God is barely speaking.

I have no contact with godly people.

The only thing i can do is watch sermons online.

Faith cant survive like this i dont think.

Dear Macchiato,

Praise the Lord, you have accepted Jesus as your Savior. During this time you say you felt close to God. When you accept Jesus as your Savior, to save you from the debt of sin, you are covered and protected by His blood. Your relationship with Him is a blood covenant and He will not go back on a covenant with you. God says, “He will never leave you or forsake you.” This brings you close to God. He does not move away but if we don’t continue to maintain and nurture our relationship with Him it is as if we move away and are not as close.

He also says (in His Word the Bible) He will send the Holy Spirit to guide you. This is the “voice” you hear from God. The Holy Spirit is always with you, once you accept Jesus. You must prepare yourself and listen to hear.

There are some things that you must do to build and strengthen your relationship with God the Father, God the Son and God the Holy Spirit and your spiritual health. One of them is reading the Word of God, the Bible. Another is fellowshipping with other believers and it sounds like both of these may be being crowded out of your life.

For me these have to be a matter of priorities. Just as I try to take care of my physical and mental health I know I must take care of my spiritual health. It is imperative that I do the things to maintain my relationship with God and the health of my spirit.

When I put God first, the rest seems to fall in place. This doesn’t mean I neglect my earthly responsibilities. It means I start my day by reading His word, praying and asking Him what his plans are for me today, even if that means I have to get up a few minutes early to start my busy day. I ask Him, in prayer, to direct my path and help me to live my life in the center of His will. This sets my course and keeps me on the right path to keep my spirit healthy.

Sometimes it is best to just “Be still and know that He is God.” Ask yourself what does that mean to you? This is a very important place to begin. I suggest you just take a moment; focus and rest. When you do, ask God to help you to see who He is. It is hard to be able to move forward in our relationship with God until we realize who He is. It seems to me that David did that a lot in the Psalms and Paul certainly had to know who God was in order to turn His life around.

It may help you to have a counselor or someone to help you begin to organize your life and finds ways to take some of the pressure/stress off of you so that you can get your life in order to take care of these priorities. I hear a desire to be spiritually healthy and God will honor that when you seek Him and His plan.

Here is a list of numbers you can call for resources and/or even to help you find a church that will welcome you and help you to get a grip on your life and move forward. Today is the first day of the rest of your life. You can do this, you may just have to regroup and find a better way.

I am praying for you. God loves you and He knows what you are going thru. God bless you and your precious family.

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