Prayer Request for Anger and Bitterness

I think you need to make an effort to pray yourself, to help you overcome the bitterness. Try praying in a way that contradicts the feelings, even if you don't feel like it. Ask for forgiveness for those feelings when they surface. Over time it can help.

From what I can tell in your post your parents are invalidating your feelings. If this is true, you might want to check out some videos on the topic of gaslighting and see if it sounds familiar. Gaslighting and invalidating the feelings of others so commonly go together.

Of course bitterness is not good. And it is good that you’re seeking to be free from it through prayer. However, it’s also not good to be exposed to people who are abusive, even if that abuse is on a more covert level.

just type the word gaslighting into the search bar on YouTube if you want to check that out.

I pray you will be given wisdom and insight and healing.

Msb23 said:

I've broken things, injured my wrists from punching walls, just cracked my laptop today. Now I'm having really bad violent thoughts.

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Family can be hateful and highly annoying, but you need to learn anger management.
Onions in food is so common you have to leave them on the director the plate.
Annoying comments treat with contempt, a dismissive " Oh really! "

Who is suffering, not your parents, so don't let what they say or do affect you.

People tease etc because they get a reaction, so spoil your dad's fun, by not reacting.

Dear Msb23,

My heart goes out to you! You have my prayers. I too came from an extremely dysfunctional family and I felt totally unimportant and unwanted, which made me extremely bitter and angry. When those bitter feelings surface, pray and ask deliverance. And also put them out of your mind as fast as you can. I know that is very hard to do. Bitterness and anger only destroy you and you have to break the cycle. Don't allow actions of others to affect you so. These are all things you probably think are impossible, believe me I know.

Christian counseling helped me tremendously. I first went to my Pastor then to a professional counselor, who turned out to be a Christian.

It is something you have to continually work at. Although I have left most of that behind me, it still surfaces from time to time.

Another thing that might help with the violence is take a boxing class or spinning class or some other heavy exercise class that takes that aggression out of you. And the exercise always helps you feel better mentally.

God Bless you!!!!!

The joy of the lord is your strength. We praise Him in the mist of anger. There is nothing that controls us. We make the choice to get mad or not. Nothing not even GOD can go against our will. Ask the lord to open your eyes to see what you can't. Just the first thought I had reading your post. To see something with in your family that your not looking at. Not sure what that is. But ask.. He will show you. It will .. how I don't know.. it will bring you peace

Don't let the enemy steal your joy. Pffft I know of anger yet.. yet greater is HE that is in you.. then he thats in the world. You know reminded of when Christ was saying if we ask for fish would the Father give us bread? How much more will the Father give the holy Spirit to them that ask.

So.. your asking for help.. now be at peace.. He WILL help you! In Jesus name! Praying

I don't know where you are in your walk with God, but I've learned that the situations in my life are to point out my own failings. Of course, at first, I didn't want to accept that, because I have been severely abused from a child to present day by the same people. What I've gone through and still go through is not what most people go through. I keep looking for something familiar in the bible, but it's hard to find the behaviors I'm experiencing from people today in the bible. Except Micah 7:4-6, and all of it applies to me. Cousins, brother, husband, aunts, uncles, authorities, neighbors, etc. Before I knew who was involved in trying to destroy me and my life, I was very confused. God has revealed it. Now I'm fighting some in court for protective orders because when I found out who the main persons were, and my attempted to protect a disabled person who they were also abusing, I was threatened harshly. What they were doing to me was in secrete, but now that I have found out, they have gotten even more desperate. Why is God allowing this. I really have no idea, yet. He has a plan!

But throughout the years I have had to suffer this, God has worked with me to change me. I did not want to be bitter, unloving, angry, and God has helped me.

Now, it's very possible that what's being done to you is intentional. Maybe not as severe as my situation, but nonetheless, you must come to terms with it. You must draw close to God who is your strength. And you must cry out to God to remove the bitterness, anger, hate, shame, guilt, etc. He will do it. He did it for me. Ask Him to calm you and allow you to accept what you do not want to accept about your family, that is, the truth that they are these types of people, and they are hurting you. Ask Him to help you to see the truth and accept it. Ask Him to take away your guilt and shame that you might be experiencing from their abuse. He will do it!

I pray you are granted a God given revelation that will strengthen you, change your mind and cause you to walk in power, love, and sound mind, 2 Timothy 1:7.

How is your relationship with God? Do you love Jesus? Do you want to live for Him?

Msb23 said:

My relationship with God can be better. I struggle with faith, negative thinking, worry, loneliness, depression. My mind is a mess.

Yes, I love Jesus and want to live for him.

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I have found praying and asking God to fix family situations is very effective in the long run.

I have also found that being surrounded by people who love Jesus is extremely healthy mentally and emotionally. For example going and living with people who love the Lord might be worth it even if you have to start paying rent or you have to downgrade to a smaller house, etc.

The fastest way to do a lot of fixing for your mind I find is to listen to scripture throughout the day.

These are some of my favorite for centering my mind on reality and regaining peace and joy.

Psalm 22
Isaiah 53
John 1
John 6
John 14-17
Ephesians 1-2
Psalm 103

I listen to these over and over on my phone with the audio bible.

I would really encourage you to make gaining peace of mind and surroundings a priority. Constant stress really wears you down over the long run and causes a lot of other health problems.

Praying*
God help this person to learn to rest in You at all times. And give them the wisdom to know what to do about there situation. In Jesus Name.

Msb23 said:

Going through a really bad spiritual warfare right now as I'm really angry and bitter. I come from a very broken, dysfunctional family and my parents don't know how to listen. For example, my mom knows I hate onions but still puts it in my food from time to time anyway and thinks its funny. My dad is the same, tell him to stop doing something because its annoying and refuses. I'm not important, their friends are important because they actually listen to them.

I've broken things, injured my wrists from punching walls, just cracked my laptop today. Now I'm having really bad violent thoughts.

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Praying! So sorry you are feeling this way. That is hard. There is healing in forgiveness