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The law is only involved in the initial signing of the agreement and when you wish to break the agreement.

We are talking above the law now. How can one watch someone else work hard and get paid for it and then say that half of the money they worked for belongs to one who didnt work for it?

Yes, of course everyone does everything together, and provide for each other.....but this is done out of love....not because the law requires it.

I would give my wife all the money I work for without thinking........That would all stop If she told me that, by law, half of everything I work for "belongs" to her. This is only something that needs to be discussed before lawyers when you are ready to break the agreement.

This is a terrible way to think, if you desire to remain in a loving relationship. I cant imagine what would possess me to tell my wife that half her check Belongs to me.
I think you are finding disagreement here where there is none. I believe that married couples should share everything; the work, the money, the stress. And do so out of love which is what it sounds like you and I both do. It’s also good to have one’s own account so that each partner can have a portion of the whole that they can use as they wish. It sounds like the marriage in question involves a difference in maturity and possibly a difference in workload, and that is causing problems.
 
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Hi Brethren, you have written about her faults, but you haven't mentioned yours to us, have you asked her what she is finding difficult to deal with in your character? perhaps this is the real reason she blew up using the $15 as an excuse. God bless
 
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Hi forum,
My wife asked me to pay a $15 wifi bill on my way to work this morning. I was already running late and didn't have time to stop, so I asked her to pay it or to wait until I returned so I could pay it. She's upset to the point of telling her whole family that I'm charging her and forcing her to pay things. She's a house wife but occasionally makes money selling clothes, so she had $15. She cursed me all day and slept in a different room when I returned from work. This is the first time I've ever asked her for anything. I work 2 jobs to support our home. I'm I in the wrong for asking her to pay a one time $15?

Hi.. only hearing one side of this so ...I've seen in my own marriage much much.. anyway. What the lord showed me is nothing about her but me. In short how does Christ treat the Church. Read 1st Cor 13 then apply it to you. You do that. Oh we SOOOOO want to say "what about me" a truth yet.. love always gives.. gives and gives. Never doing it to get anything in return even if its the rest of our lifes.

Everything Christ has is will do never asks for anything in return. It was only years later when .. ok if you love me then .. keep my word. But His love is never based on anything we do. Love her as He loves the Church. Praying
 
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So why did you marry her? It seems she is an awful woman.

It's the husbands job to provide, to love your neighbour as yourself, take lead, care for her, but also for her to be your helper as God intended. Iow, consider providing for her by giving her a job, or several jobs, tell her your needs and let her figure it out, so she doesn't become an idle unproductive woman.

1 Tim 5 "But she that liveth in pleasure is dead while she liveth. ...And withal they learn to be idle, wandering about from house to house; and not only idle, but tattlers also and busybodies, speaking things which they ought not. I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully." (Bible Gateway passage: 1 Timothy 5 - King James Version)
 
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She grew up as a daughter of a famous Mexico Senator, so daddy always paid for everything, which is why she threatened to run back to him. Her mother married 3 times, all for money. I'm not daddy, I'm not rich. We need to hold each other up, not threaten to leave over $15. It's not like I suggested for her to pay rent. Married about 8 months.

She looks down on you, that's a tough place to start for a man. How can you lead if she doesn't respect your leadership? And how can she follow you if you're not respectable?
 
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The law is only involved in the initial signing of the agreement and when you wish to break the agreement.

We are talking above the law now. How can one watch someone else work hard and get paid for it and then say that half of the money they worked for belongs to one who didnt work for it?

Yes, of course everyone does everything together, and provide for each other.....but this is done out of love....not because the law requires it.

I would give my wife all the money I work for without thinking........That would all stop If she told me that, by law, half of everything I work for "belongs" to her. This is only something that needs to be discussed before lawyers when you are ready to break the agreement.

This is a terrible way to think, if you desire to remain in a loving relationship. I cant imagine what would possess me to tell my wife that half her check Belongs to me.

The wife already has a litigious attitude with him, married into an arrangement that allows her to behave as she does. Perhaps she can't help being useless, incompetent, or invalid, for whatever reason, which would ofc be a disappointment except her message seems to be an expression of outrage, threatening to leave him. Thus litigious, threatening and abusive. Rather than apologising or feeling shame for her ineptitude, she instead loves her 'entitlements' less him, hence "$15" in her eyes is a reflection of his value. To this kind of woman he is 'worth less than $15', unable to see that she is worth less than $15, too lazy or unwilling to even get off the couch; not even for her son. She's doubly useless. Sorry for the severe interpretation, but given the info, this is how it seems.
 
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Hi forum,
My wife asked me to pay a $15 wifi bill on my way to work this morning. I was already running late and didn't have time to stop, so I asked her to pay it or to wait until I returned so I could pay it. She's upset to the point of telling her whole family that I'm charging her and forcing her to pay things. She's a house wife but occasionally makes money selling clothes, so she had $15. She cursed me all day and slept in a different room when I returned from work. This is the first time I've ever asked her for anything. I work 2 jobs to support our home. I'm I in the wrong for asking her to pay a one time $15?
@Luke Derk Right off the bat I can say NO you're definitely not wrong for asking for help. She sounds like she was quick to get mad at you is there something else that is going on? Her sleeping in another room and going to her whole family and basically telling on you etc. is really immature man I'm sorry you have to deal with that. I'm honestly curious about what's going on I can't really recommend anything other than to say you're totally reasonable to ask for her help. You don't have to explain more on this thread even a dm is fine only if you want though. I know I'm only 29 but I am married and a Christian if that's any consolation maybe just having someone to talk to can be helpful. Let me know over message if you wanna talk either way though I'm sorry that's happening.
 
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It was just a misunderstanding. Honestly, I can't see her divorcing you over such a minor issue. Unless of course, there is something else that's major which has been brewing for a while & that may be the real reason, she has over-reacted like this.
 
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