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Its absolutely horrible. I'm actually starting to get physical symptoms like inflammation because of this.
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The Agony of Doubt
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Its absolutely horrible. I'm actually starting to get physical symptoms like inflammation because of this.
com7fy8
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It can be good to be quiet, but I can have wrong things going on in my mind.
God is quiet . . . not silent. So, in quietness and rest we can share with God.
Be kind and caring, inside yourself, and this will effect things. It's not your show and talk, that really matters
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As I suggested get involved in your church. become a meet and greeter, where you Must speak to everybody entering the church building.
an extream suggestion, but better than sitting on your hands worrying about what you are not doing.
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Dont feel to bad about it. Historically men tended to marry around 30 after they had finished apprenticing with there fathers and had built up enough sustenance to support a family. It is natural for men to marry older and women younger. Despite what hollywood tells us.
I am comforted by the fact that the older you get the better you see what is really important in a wife. And therefore the better you are at choosing one.
Yes if you pray asking 3 times a day and fast 2 or 3 times a week (or whatever is sustainable for you) God will give you a good wife. I would guess that it would take between 3 and 6 months at most. If you start and then quit before it happens God will still bring a girl into your life she just might not be everything you were asking for. And or you might have to pray more to get the relationship started. It is a very spiritual warfare type endeavor for some people, getting married. At least it has been for me.
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Often our weaknesses is what makes us strong.
2 Corinthians 12:9-11
9 But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. 10 That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.
She may have prayed or she may not, but don't assume all of us with some chronic condition have prayed for it to be gone. Sometimes a weakness has benefits that may not be obvious, other blessings occur that would not have occurred otherwise. Maybe she had something to say to just one person she may meet in her lifetime but what she had to say changed that persons entire life. Perhaps what she said brought them to Christ. If we were all perfect how could we understand another persons weakness? It would be too easy to lack empathy and understanding.
As to getting married.
Psalm 37:4
Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.
God knows the desires of your heart and yes you should be praying about it but not just praying. A wife won't materialize in front of you. You need to act.
James 1:22-25
22 But be doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves. 23 For if anyone is a hearer of the word and not a doer, he is like a man observing his natural face in a mirror; 24 for he observes himself, goes away, and immediately forgets what kind of man he was. 25 But he who looks into the perfect law of liberty and continues in it, and is not a forgetful hearer but a doer of the work, this one will be blessed in what he does.
Many churches have single programs. Check them out. Focus on being a man that a woman would be proud of to call her husband.
You are not the only shy socially anxious person around. We do get married.
I met my husband at one such singles event even though a friend has to just about drag me along to it. I would also suggest having the church or at least the minister prayer over you. I felt like I was being blocked for years like I was unnoticeable. I can tell you that quickly changed after being prayed over. I was well over 30 by the time I got married, but here I am, still married many years later.
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@Msb23 I'm 29 and I was in a similar boat. The enemy would make me believe negative thoughts about myself thinking "who could love me I have so many problems". It's true that I have a lot of problems I am diagnosed bipolar and Schizophrenic, and honestly I could list off other things but they are personal. Anyways I remember I just started praying for a wife, every morning as I got ready when it would cross my mind I would pray, and I didn't know it would happen but within about 5 months I got the courage to ask out a co-worker and we've been married for 10 months and it's been the best decision besides my faith.
Don't give up, keep praying. I believe God will give us what we ask for just keep praying. If you want to talk more feel free to message me I'd gladly talk more
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You know when I met my wife? When I gave up on focusing on it. Without even realizing it I had made "finding the one" my idol. When I let go of it, then God opened the doors for me. And I was in my early 30s when I met her. Been happily married now for 7 years. Someone will come along when God wants it to happen.
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What does "spiritual leader" mean?
Jeremias 38:30 But every one shall die in his own sin; and the teeth of him that eats the sour grape shall be set on edge. 34 And they shall not at all teach every one his fellow citizen, and every one his brother, saying, Know the Lord: for all shall know Me, from the least of them to the greatest of them: for I will be merciful to their iniquities, and their sins I will remember no more.LXX
Doesn't that apply to men and women?
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