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Does she think you are?Did I say I wasn't grateful?
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Does she think you are?Did I say I wasn't grateful?
If only I could read her mind.Does she think you are?
I found you get out of people what you invest in them. 51 years married and happier than ever.If only I could read her mind.
CongratulationsI found you get out of people what you invest in them. 51 years married and happier than ever.
Marriage is a long-term endeavor ...I found you get out of people what you invest in them. 51 years married and happier than ever.
Yes I was a believer then also. She has everything she has ever asked for even when it seems impossible at times, which is why I don't understand when this happened.
Perhaps I should've dated her longer but the covenant has been made and I'm not breaking it. I joined this forum hoping for good advice.Did you want a Christian wife? Some of the things you’ve shared about her background should have raised questions.
Her mother married for money. Her father indulged her. They have a different worldview and she’s the result. How would it complement your own? Did you ever consider that?
~bella
Small world, my sister-in-law was a single mom too.I'm stepdad to her 7 year old. Sadly he wanted to play with her last night but she pushed him away because he was interrupting whatever she was watching on TV, and this was after 10 days with grandma because we were isolating after a Covid scare so we sent him to grandma's. I played Legos with him, she was too busy watching TV.
Perhaps I should've dated her longer but the covenant has been made and I'm not breaking it. I joined this forum hoping for good advice.
Did any of us know what we were doing when we married?So why did you marry her? It seems she is an awful woman.
I think that relationship before marriage should last at least 2 years. Most hormonal love and "crush on somebody" goes away in this period, so people can see more clearly the conflicts and negatives.Did any of us know what we were doing when we married?
Did any of us know what we were doing when we married?
Yes, we do complicate life unnecessarily. But a clearminded assessment of character of another immature person is difficult to do in the best circumstances, nevermind under the influence of raging hormones.No one expects anyone to be a soothsayer. But character can't be discerned overnight. It takes a long time to know someone. Allowing your feelings to take precedence over the qualities required for a successful union is unwise. And if you do you have to live with it.
For every "we've known each other for X months" happy ending; there's a litany of train wrecks. If you want someone who shares your worldview and outlook on faith; get that person. Don't try to convert them. That's an uphill climb.
We complicate life unnecessarily.
~bella
Is not the whole marriage thing an unnecessarily complication today?
If somebody does not like the lottery game, its best not to play it...
Yes, we do complicate life unnecessarily. But a clearminded assessment of character of another immature person is difficult to do in the best circumstances, nevermind under the influence of raging hormones.
I do not know, it seems today that everything is so complicated and everybody is so sensitive... and marriage is so risky, dangerous and expensive. Mainly for men.Not if we're honest. That's where things get murky. People turn a blind eye to what's staring them in the face. They see the good and bad but downplay the latter. Only to complain later on. It all comes down to can you live with it? If we tell ourselves the truth we'll save a lot of heartache.
Of course, and so many of us thought we were doing when considering marriage. Great wisdom, advice from many wise people, parents, elders, didn't stop what happened. Marriage changes everything. All the sudden one finds out what the other expected out of marriage, and what it meant to the other.Hormones don't divorce you from commonsense. You've set it aside in difference to desire. Nevertheless, you chose. God doesn't give you a get-out-of-jail free card because you're carried away. He expects you to walk it out.
Choices have consequences. That's life 101. You learn that as child. Well before the hormones start.
~bella
I've been married well over a decade without a joint account.....with no issues. And it seems to me that a joint account would not be wise in this situation.Have you provided access to a shared account that allows her to cover household expenses? Or is she required to direct them to you instead?
If you hold the purse strings and they aren’t accessible that’s a problem. It sets the stage for what you’re experiencing now.
Your wife shouldn’t have to ask for $15 dollars if you’ve agreed she’ll stay at home. It sounds more parental than relational.
~bella
It seems to me that money and bills are not being managed well. Why is it that a bill, that you had the money to pay, was left unpaid to till the date of cutoff? It reads as though something would have been cut off if you did not pay before you got home from work.Hi forum,
My wife asked me to pay a $15 wifi bill on my way to work this morning. I was already running late and didn't have time to stop, so I asked her to pay it or to wait until I returned so I could pay it. She's upset to the point of telling her whole family that I'm charging her and forcing her to pay things. She's a house wife but occasionally makes money selling clothes, so she had $15. She cursed me all day and slept in a different room when I returned from work. This is the first time I've ever asked her for anything. I work 2 jobs to support our home. I'm I in the wrong for asking her to pay a one time $15?