- Jul 13, 2021
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TLR; how do I Biblically encourage and discuss faith/leadership with my boyfriend, as a woman who has more…active faith?
am 27F and I recently started dating a 36M. At the beginning, we established our faith generally and it was promising—he had his moment where he truly met Christ, outside of the cultural Christianity he was raised in.
After 6 dates, we had the DTR talk, and he asked me to be his girlfriend. To be honest, we hadn’t talked a lot deeper about faith (I put it up to the language barrier and age, as we are from different cultures.)
It’s been two weeks since we made it official, and as we’ve been talking more, I’ve noticed…my faith seems to be more…”passionate” than his, for lack of a better word. He only reads the Word on Sunday, doesn’t really have community (although there isn’t a group his age at his church). I have also noticed he relies a lot on his family/mom for spiritual advice—to the point if he needs Scripture for a certain situation, he always asks her instead of searching himself.
I don’t want to judge his heart—no one is perfect, and my faith definitely has ups and downs. But prayerfully comparing our community, prayer, Scripture…there seems to be an imbalance.
I’m not sure how to proceed. I know the man is supposed to be the faith leader, and I want to encourage him and have talks about acting out faith/leading without becoming the leader myself…if that makes sense.
After prayer and counsel with friends, I feel led to give it a month at least—see if this is a season he is in, or if it is something that lasts and God deems to end. (I really like him as a person and could see us growing together, but I know we can’t date for potential…)
I pray that God grows us toward him no matter what happens, but the next steps to take…how to talk to him…I have no idea. Any advice would be appreciated. (or truth if I am viewing something unbiblically!)
am 27F and I recently started dating a 36M. At the beginning, we established our faith generally and it was promising—he had his moment where he truly met Christ, outside of the cultural Christianity he was raised in.
After 6 dates, we had the DTR talk, and he asked me to be his girlfriend. To be honest, we hadn’t talked a lot deeper about faith (I put it up to the language barrier and age, as we are from different cultures.)
It’s been two weeks since we made it official, and as we’ve been talking more, I’ve noticed…my faith seems to be more…”passionate” than his, for lack of a better word. He only reads the Word on Sunday, doesn’t really have community (although there isn’t a group his age at his church). I have also noticed he relies a lot on his family/mom for spiritual advice—to the point if he needs Scripture for a certain situation, he always asks her instead of searching himself.
I don’t want to judge his heart—no one is perfect, and my faith definitely has ups and downs. But prayerfully comparing our community, prayer, Scripture…there seems to be an imbalance.
I’m not sure how to proceed. I know the man is supposed to be the faith leader, and I want to encourage him and have talks about acting out faith/leading without becoming the leader myself…if that makes sense.
After prayer and counsel with friends, I feel led to give it a month at least—see if this is a season he is in, or if it is something that lasts and God deems to end. (I really like him as a person and could see us growing together, but I know we can’t date for potential…)
I pray that God grows us toward him no matter what happens, but the next steps to take…how to talk to him…I have no idea. Any advice would be appreciated. (or truth if I am viewing something unbiblically!)